specifically with this:
However, I was raised in a rural area. We lived in a city briefly (5 years) and then moved back to a rural area and absolutely love it here. I know my views are biased based on where I live and where I was raised. I read about all the Ivy wannabes on CC and am astounded that people feel so strongly about wanting to attend them. I don't want to put this thread there!
I understand completely why there aren't more kids like he mentions applying. My middle son is likely to have the stats to be competitive and I doubt he will be applying either - though we aren't blue collar. The Ivies do not have a good "real life" reputation around these parts for undergrad. They are seen as snooty and out of touch with reality. Many employers (locally) will not hire people freshly graduated from them due to the belief (real or imagined) that they will bring the snootiness into the workplace and turn off the regular customers. One step down from Ivy and people ooh and ahh and hiring can happen quickly (still with interviews). Graduate level work is viewed 100% differently for some reason.
While stereotypes may or may not be true, real life is real. If my son wanted to break into the Ivy world we might consider letting him apply to one. Since he doesn't, it's better if he doesn't - for undergrad. He doesn't want the awe - or stigma - that accompanies the degree.
BUT... Yesterday my son was courted by Yale (similar to other colleges sending him info). It looked really interesting. He's also received Cornell and Princeton. He will likely have the stats to be competitive at those schools if he wanted to try to apply to them. He's not going to have oodles of ec as we don't live all that near civilization (no Math Olympiad, etc). We're homeschooling mostly because our high school doesn't even have as much as I would like to see educationally. He wants to either become a doctor or go into medical research.
I KNOW if he wanted to live rural and be an engineer, businessman, or other such job that having an Ivy Ed would hurt more than help. I'm not sure about the medical world - or even if he's going to want to stay rural once he's finished college.
Should I encourage him to consider the Ivies if he likes them? Or should I encourage him to keep with Vanderbilt, U of Rochester, and other such schools? I don't know. I'd love to read other people's thoughts - pros and cons - about the Ivies. I want some thoughts to mull over in my mind if anyone is willing to share. If I ask in my own circle I'm just going to hear the same things I've heard over and over (Ivies are good for academia or uppity city folks, but that's it).