snickelfritz Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 I'm supposed to travel with dh on one of his business trips in April. Most wives will go. It's not a big deal if I miss it, as far as the company is concerned. We do have to buy my plane ticket, and have done so, although everything else (food, hotel, most activities) is paid for. Found out today that dd has a choir program that we will miss. My parents have the kids. They usually have them in another city, although they might not mind staying here and taking dd to the extra rehearsal and the recital. Flights out of Jamaica are limited and I don't know that I'm up to coming back early and clearing customs/immigration by myself. I automatically assumed I would not go on the trip. dh automatically assumed that dd would have to miss the recital.:001_smile: What does an unbiased person say? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 I think that you should ask g-parents if they want to stay at your house....and take daughter... And, You should go and have a great time! Carrie:-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 Depends on the recital. Is it for a class she takes, and she will feel like she is really missing out, or is it a casual, come if you can performance? Are the rehearsals part of class or are the separate? If separate would she feel slighted if you just didn't do it or would it devastate her to be left out of some activity that the other kids are doing. Will the extra practice time work for you schedule anyways? How old is dd? How big of a deal is a recital to her, if you didn't make it a big deal? Does she understand what it is? Has she done one before? If the grandparents are willing to take her, how would she feel about that? Excited or crushed? Can it be video taped and you can watch it when you get back with the required encore performance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In The Great White North Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 I would go. They missed the planning window and the plane ticket has been purchased. If it really bothers the instructors, they'll plan further ahead next year. Would Dd ( is this the 5 year old in your siggy?) really give up a week at Grandma's for this recital? Mine wouldn't have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 A recital is something I'd stay home for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maplinmum Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 It depends on how often they happen, how big a part the child had eg. are they singing a solo or just one of choir when you will be lucky to see them let alone hear them. My son plays in both school and state youth orchestra. Last year I missed 2 of his concerts due to travel, I am going to miss his first concert for this year again. However he doesn't mind as for him the main part is the participation and the general audience reaction not Mum & Dad watching him play. However he does have 10 - 12 concerts a year and I am sure he would be upset if we didn't attend any. Last year my daughter did a solo at a big event and I am sure she would of been hurt if we hadn't attended. If you go on the trip why not arrange some flowers or a special meal out with her Grandparents so that you are letting her know that you will miss not seeing her concert. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguirre Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 How often does the choir perform? If this is the once a year, show them everything we've learned since September recital, I'd be more inclined to stay home. If it's just one of several concerts, I'd go to Jamaica and watch the dvd. What do you think your dd will feel about it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dhudson Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 I think for a 5 year old, I would go to Jamaica. 5 yr old probably will be just as excited about going to the Grandparents and you have lots of years of recitals. For a teen, I would stay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1bassoon Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 She's five. In 2 years, she won't even remember it. GO TO JAMAICA! WITH YOUR HUSBAND! HAVE FUN!!! :D (sorry - dh is out-of-town, and my answer may be a bit influenced by that fact ;)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snickelfritz Posted February 27, 2009 Author Share Posted February 27, 2009 They would be able to tape it and take pictures. There was a Christmas program, so this is what they've worked on this semester. I'll talk to g-parents and see what they think about bringing her back for the rehearsal and the program. I guess that's the first step. If they're not up to doing the traveling (it's a couple of hours each way), I'll have a different decision to make. She would be upset to miss it. Probably somewhat upset if we missed it, but appeased by knowing that we could pop some popcorn and watch a dvd of it. She would be thrilled if we sent her flowers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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