Murphy101 Posted October 10, 2018 Share Posted October 10, 2018 If I’m being honest, I doubt I’d tell even my dh and kids until I felt I had no choice. My answer would have been to immoderately tell them 2 years ago. But not now. My best friends and priest might be likely to know first. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted October 10, 2018 Share Posted October 10, 2018 I think it is totally up to you and there is no reason to feel like you have to tell anyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hikin' Mama Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 Quill, I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I don't know you personally, but I've always admired you here on the boards. I wish you the best of outcomes! And as for your question, which has probably already been answered well, it's your journey, do it however you want and don't worry what anyone else thinks. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 3 minutes ago, HeighHo said: Most people have the manners not to inquire if you don't volunteer should you have noticeable body effects. Any uninformed close friends will ask, though. And if you have radiation and are around people with no manners, you may want to think about what you're going to say if you need a seat, as its not automatic for an illmannered child or man to give up his seat to an older woman. Same for assistance at the grocery store if you aren't doing home delivery or bringing someone for heavy things/bagging. Yeah...I think mentally I have a combination of preparing where I can and then crossing the other bridges as they come. There are still many question marks and I guess, really, cancer will now be a permanent question mark for the rest of my life. I think if, for example, I needed a seat unexpectedly, there is a good chance I would say, “may I please sit here? I do not feel well.” Or something similar if I needed assistance while not appearing to be a person in need of assistenace. I think I would just ask a staff person for help and say, “could you please assist? I am unwell.” 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cintinative Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 I didn't read the responses. What you could do is send an email or post on FB and say that you have cancer, you are undergoing treatment, and if the person wants to know more, they can follow your Caringbridge page or blog or whatever. That way, those who care enough to stay abreast of things can, and the others have been at least been "advised" that this is going on. You could even say something like "I won't be updating on my progress here on FB or via individual emails. I may not be able to respond to individual requests. If you want to know what is going on, I encourage you to subscribe to the Caringbridge page. My family and I will be checking responses there as we are able." 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted October 11, 2018 Share Posted October 11, 2018 (edited) Before you use Facebook for health information, you might want to read this article beginning to end: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.cnbc.com/amp/2018/10/10/facebooks-dr-freddy-abnousi-wants-doctors-to-have-more-patient-data.html ETA: another one - https://www.propublica.org/article/health-insurers-are-vacuuming-up-details-about-you-and-it-could-raise-your-rates Edited October 12, 2018 by TechWife Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted October 14, 2018 Share Posted October 14, 2018 If ever there was a time to be selfish, it’s now. Do what’s good for YOU. This is not a time to worry about others 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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