Jeannie in NJ Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 Nono, my thoughts are with you. You are not selfish, you just want to see your mom one last time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Don't be upset with yourself. If you hadn't asked her, and something had happened, you would have always wondered if asking her might have made a difference. And if she's suffering from dementia, there's a very strong chance that she won't remember what you said -- and even if she was completely coherent, I think she would have been touched by your request, as I think it was very sweet. :iagree: and :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I so know how that feels. Just stay alive long enough so that we can say good bye? Please? :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LG Gone Wild Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 Quick background: My Mom is in her 80s and lives in a nursing home a couple hours away. She has dementia and is one of the most determined people I know. Yesterday, I asked my Mom to try to live until Monday so we can all see her as a family one more time. If she remembers, we have a good chance of seeing her alive one more time. But she really wants to be gone. NOW. I feel badly that I asked. Wow. That's really heavy. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 So sorry. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 Big, huge :grouphug:. I was just visiting with my mom, with dementia, at the nursing home tonight. I totally understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 I think it was a loving thing to do. I understand why you did it. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I remember having a long talk with my mom, telling her it was ok to let go, everyone woild be fine, we would all miss her, she was a great mom, etc...... I worded it much better than that (and wrote about it here) but you get my point. She worked up the strength to respond. I could see how hard it was for her. I just knew in my heart it would be something which would impact me, something I would always remember. Why I felt that when she was in the end stage of dementia is beyond me. Her final words? Shut Up!!! And she never spoke again. :crying: I still laugh about it to this day.:lol: Enjoy your visit with your mom. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Praying for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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