mo2 Posted April 4, 2011 Share Posted April 4, 2011 With a girl. Non-Christian. I will have the talk, of course, but I want a book to give her so that if she is too embarrassed to talk to me, she can always refer back to the book. Any recs? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rivka Posted April 4, 2011 Share Posted April 4, 2011 Depending on how old she is: It's So Amazing! for about age 8 and up It's Perfectly Normal! for age 11-12 and up. And for you :D, Beyond the Big Talk: A Parent's Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Teens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted April 4, 2011 Share Posted April 4, 2011 As an intro for a 8-10 yo The Care and Keeping of You: The Body book for girls Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mo2 Posted April 4, 2011 Author Share Posted April 4, 2011 Thank you! She's 9, and I'm not ready for any of it! Seriously, though, I just don't want her to be embarrassed and nervous about it. I remember that when I had my period for the first time, I was so embarrassed I didn't tell my mom for 3 days! I had ruined all my underwear by that time, but that's how embarrassed I was about it! Things like that were NEVER spoken of in my house. I don't want that for my kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in WI Posted April 4, 2011 Share Posted April 4, 2011 (edited) We just went through Almost 12 with our oldest son. I highly recommend it! Edited to add: Eek! I just noticed that you specified non-Christian. Sorry, this one won't work for you. Edited April 4, 2011 by Heather in WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gemrae Posted April 4, 2011 Share Posted April 4, 2011 (edited) I was super embarassed as a kid also and I didn't tell my mom for a couple of MONTHS! It was only when we ran out of pads that I had to try to casually let her know. I was mortified. Last year about the time my dd turned 9 I introduced a book (Christian book that you might not be interested in) to her and told her I wanted to talk to her about some changes she would be noticing soon (she's very tall and starting to change quite a bit). She played and pretended not to really listen while I was reading but she did ask a few questions and giggled several times. Afterwards she came up to me and hugged me and giggled some more. Ever since she always laughs and hugs me when the subject comes up. I can tell she's nervous but excited, kwim? Very different from when I was young. I've left it pretty casual. Since I'm a single mom and it is just the two of us in the house, things have always been pretty open here. All this to say, while it might be a little nerve racking, she might surprise you if you keep it light hearted and open. When you're feeling nervous, she may be excited. Just bring it up a little at a time and introduce a book or two when the opportunity presents itself. I just bought The Care and Keeping of You set from American Girls. I told her they are her books to read when she wants. She immediately took the journal and started filling it out. I'll probably get one of the body books out at some point and read a little to her. I feel that the first step was the hardest and now it is easier to bring up topics as they present themselves. Edited April 4, 2011 by gemrae adding Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happypamama Posted April 4, 2011 Share Posted April 4, 2011 DD likes the American Girl book, and we also found a similar one. I personally found that the Christian books focused more on sex/love/marriage, and while I appreciated that perspective, we didn't want that yet, just the basics of physical changes. (And the non-Christian ones had references to things that I don't feel are acceptable.) The AG one seemed pretty neutral, just the facts sort of thing. DD is the kind of kid who would be embarrassed if I sat her down and discussed things with her (and while she's seen births and knows how babies grow/are born, she's yet to ask questions about how they actually start growing -- her lack of curiosity sort of surprises me). I thought she'd appreciate being able to read the facts on her own and then ask questions of me if she has any. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted April 5, 2011 Share Posted April 5, 2011 As an intro for a 8-10 yo The Care and Keeping of You: The Body book for girls My daughter and I read this last year (4th grade, when she was 9) for part of our 'health' curriculum. She'd also already read Who Am I? Where Did I Come From? by Dr. Ruth. I currently have "Asking About Sex & Growing Up" (revised edition) by Joanna Cole and I'm torn on whether to read it with her now or wait til she's 11. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jelbe5 Posted April 5, 2011 Share Posted April 5, 2011 Another vote for the American Girl book and "It's So Amazing". I have used both books. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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