newbie Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 She has to have a dinner w/the dean, if it is at the dean's house, should my dd take a hostess gift? I think it is small dinners w/lots of other freshmen. My hunch is , it couldnt hurt. Maybe a box of truffles or a candle. Something small. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hana Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 I'm quite sure she's absolutely NOT expected to bring anything. As a faculty member (and my partner has served as associate dean), I've been to several similar dinners and no one has ever brought the dean/provost/chancellor a gift. But as you say, something small can't hurt. I like the idea of candy; flowers or a small plant would be great, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 I would skip the gift but ABSOLUTELY write a nice thank you note. Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newbie Posted October 25, 2010 Author Share Posted October 25, 2010 Really, I think a 4 pk of Godiva, or a lil candle would be nice. Of course, she will follow up w/thank you card. I think its important to make lil impressions, or is it sucking up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 In this particular case, I vote no. But I agree that a thank you note afterward would be appreciated! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 when i went all those years ago (we will NOT say how many), i agonized, and took a single flower. it was appreciated. when oldest dd went 8 years ago, she took a plant. it was appreciated. fwiw, ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OrganicAnn Posted October 26, 2010 Share Posted October 26, 2010 People don't expect students to bring hostess gifts. But it doesn't mean there is any ban on doing it. A nice thank you note would make the best impression. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted October 26, 2010 Share Posted October 26, 2010 A small gift will show a level of manners and upbringing a step above. A small bouquet of flowers, some chocolates, soemthing seasonal... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newbie Posted October 27, 2010 Author Share Posted October 27, 2010 A small gift will show a level of manners and upbringing a step above. A small bouquet of flowers, some chocolates, soemthing seasonal... Since it is at a home, I think its nice, it reminds me of when I would take treats to IEP meetings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted October 27, 2010 Share Posted October 27, 2010 Well, I was in college many moons ago, back then in the mists of time, we did not bring anything to the dean. He and his wife put on those dean dinners as a celebration of our efforts and it was ALL ABOUT US! They were wonderful dinners and I have to say, it was great to get to know the dean. Your dd should not feel that she needs to take anything. Now, I would recommend that she either take a "thank you" note or a homemade appreciation card with her or send one quite soon after. Most deans understand that students are struggling to come up with funds to stay in school. They know they don't have extra money to throw around giving gifts. That is of course, unless your student is a scholarship student at an otherwise "wealthy" school. I would imagine that in that environment, where deans are used to gifts and students with money, then another protocol might be followed. Faith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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