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Your post reminds me of a Lori McKenna song, Stealing Kisses. Faith Hill sings it too, but Lori McKenna is the songwriter and my all time favorite singer. If you listen to this song, you can hear the desperation in her voice.
It's late enough all you kids should be home
The policeman says as he takes your beer for his own
You remember wondering what his wife
Thought about his occupation
He knows that you were just chasing a dream
To the town line and then back and over again
So he winks at you girls
And tells you all "I'll see you later"
[chorus]
I was stealing kisses from a boy
Now I'm begging affection from a man
In my house dress don't know you who I am
I'm standing in your kitchen
It's late enough your husband's dinner is cold
So you wrap it up and leave it for him on the stove
It's probably the traffic again
Or another important meeting
And you haven't talked to an adult all day
'cept your neighbor who drives you crazy
When he finally gets in he's sure not in the mood for talking
[chorus]
And hours become days and days become years
And you could burn down this town
If they made matches from fear
Buy you're no worse off than anybody else
Hey don't you even know, don't you even know yourself
So you're standing outside your high school door
The one you walked out of twenty years before
And you whisper to all of the girls, run, run, run
I was stealing kisses from a boy
Now I'm begging affection from a man
In my house dress don't you know who I am
Take a look at who I am, I'm stealing kisses
And to answer your question, yes, I know the feeling that you are speaking of. It's actually been a long time since I have felt it, but it comes in waves. It has mostly come when there was a lack of balance going on in our family. I'm going to put that movie into our netflix queue.
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I had my first when I was 17, graduated a year early, married, completed one semester of cc, became pregnant with my special needs baby and never looked back. I think I may suffer from an over-confident spirit, because I rarely feel any lack of confidence in my intellect. Lol. I've always felt like a intelligent and capable person, with or without any college. I do plan on going back, but not until my kids are either graduated or enrolled in hs. My lifelong dream is to be an RN. I think what gets me by is that, like most of the ladies and gentlemen here, I am a lifelong learner.
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Well, since you are picking him up tomorrow, it's probably pointless to say anything. If it were me, I would come up with an arsenal of responses. I'm not witty enough to think of any at this moment, but I'm sure others on the board can help with that. Chances are you probably won't get an opportunity to use them since pick up is tomorrow, but at lease you'll have them handy. This is not something I would make an issue out of (ie: "We need to sit on talk about this problem I am having with you."), you would probably come off as overly sensitive. People who are really good at those stab-you-with-a-smile type comments are also usually good at playing others off as over-reactors.
hth,
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My first grader will be 7 in August. He is reading Dr. Suess books and other beginning readers. He is not fluent yet, but getting closer every day! We're still working through ETC and phonics pathways.
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My dd is the same. She had the option of taking 30 min riding lessons or a 2 hour group ride. She chose the group ride, because it gave her more time with the horses and also included horse care and tacking up the horses. She is very happy with her choice.
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Thanks for the review! I'm really looking forward to our visit. I think I'm going to plan for early September. Schools will just be getting back into session and hopefully won't be doing field trips then. It's really neat that this lines up with our ancients studies this year.
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Hi! Longtime member (At least, to me), and this is one of my first posts here. I'm more of a lurker than a poster, but I actually have a problem now. :glare:
My 15-year-old DS just informed me during casual conversation that he plans to "change the world" someday. It doesn't seem to be a very clear plan, and he feels like he is "meant to do something" with his life. It isn't very well-thought-out, he seems to just want to wait until something needs to change or happen in the world and change it. :blink:
How can I explain to him that everybody feels that way, but most of us grow out of it by the age of 15?
He seems really intent on this, and I honestly can't think of anything to say.
-Wish
Why discourage it? Some people actually do become world changers!
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No school room here. We have 1 dining area in our home and it serves as our school area. We have a dining table, dog crate, recycling center, large white board, several cork boards, 2 book shelves and a small computer armoire in a 10 X 14 foot area. It's cozy, but it's all we have!
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Earlier this evening I had a conversation with my husband about some of the things in my life that are beginning to feel overwhelming: caring for other's children, high-maintenance friends, needy family members, etc.
I was explaining that I feel badly for my children because I expect them to behave and do the right thing always so I can help others work out their issues and problems without being completely inundated.
I told him that I should be focusing more on him, our two boys and our home rather than being a care-taker for so many other people.
He laughed out loud and said, "That's who you are! You are the person who takes care of everyone else."
:001_huh:
When did that happen, and why am I not happy about it? Is it my age (I just turned 39)? Is it some unrelated dissatisfaction with my life?
Maybe I am not explaining this very well, but I wonder if anyone here has felt the same way. Do you put too many other people ahead of your own well-being, and some ahead of your immediate family?
If you once did, then changed your focus to your own family and your self, how did you do that without hurting feelings or feeling selfish?
Crissy,
I think it's really fantastic that you are realizing this about yourself and ready to make some changes. I have to tell you that my dad, who may be the NICEST guy in the world, struggled terribly with this when I was growing up. Really, he still does. It profoundly impacted both my brother and I. What is that saying, the road to hell is paved with good intentions? I believe that my dad wanted to be a good husband and father, but he was SO consumed with helping other people with whatever crisis they were dealing with, that he didn't see his family crumbling around him. My relationship is not great with my dad. It's not bad, it's just that I don't really need him. He has been absent for so much of my life, even though I lived under his roof until I was married, that at some point he just lost ability to connect with me.
I wish you the best in working this out. I think your kids (and husband) will really thank you for it. Best wishes,
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Almost every woman I know struggles with this. And the few women I know who don't struggle with it, are the ones who cause problems for those of us who do -- they're the ones always asking for "a little favor" and dumping all their burdens on the rest of us. I think for many of us, we get a lot of our sense of self-worth from things we do for other people. We think that the more we do for others, the better we are as a person. Even at great cost to ourselves, or our own families. It shouldn't be that way.
I used to feel guilty about pulling away from people who clalmed they "needed" me, but I've come to realize that I wasn't really doing them any favors. I was just enabling their neediness and postponing the time when they would have to find their own inner strength & resources. This has included close family members as well as friends. I love them but I can't be their full-time babysitter/psychiatrist/lawyer/chauffeur/loan officer when I have a family of my own and a "To Do" list that I'll never finish in my lifetime.
Jackie
I agree with much of what you've said here, but disagree with the bolded part. I don't struggle with this, and I'm very certain that I am not contributing to this type of problem for others. Somehow, my experiences with my dad (see my next post) have caused me to be ultra vigilant about healthy boundaries in my life. It doesn't mean that people always handle those boundaries well, but I am very certain that my dh and kids never feel slighted for my time and energy. Dh is a pastor and helping others is a large part of our lives, but we have ground rules. One of the things that youth pastoring taught us is to give most of our energy to helping those who genuinely want to make good choices. That also means that when we have a student or adult that is proving themselves to be crisis driven, we stop giving them the bulk of our time, and explain why. I believe this has created a healthy dynamic within our ministry and personal lives.
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I am trying to decide if I should take my 1 year old to fireworks tonight. What do you think?
Some people think I am nuts for considering. I do not want her to be scared.
I have multiple times (4) and they were never scared. The only thing that would make me hesitate would be a child who has previously proved to be especially sensitive to loud noises.
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I'm planning on taking my oldest to this exhibit this year. Would a 7yo bouncy boy be ok here, or am I better off leaving him with dh?
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Marin?
Anyway, I wouldn't like the daiquiri business either.
Bill
Bingo. It's good to hear a non-conservative opinion. I never know if what bothers me is going to bother others around here.
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It would bug me. Not because I think alcohol is sinful or immoral but because I think alcohol is something for adults, not kids. Even if the drinks are alochol free they are still be promoted by the alcoholic drinks name. It's what they are calling it that would bother me, not the fact that they are serving it. I think that a more proper name could have been found.
That is exactly my problem with it. I decided to email the team president about this. We won't be there tonight because of a previous engagement, so I'll have to find out what they end up doing after the fact.
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Personally I would be more upset about calling it Mardi Gras (The Tuesday before Ash Wednesday) maybe it is my Catholic roots showing. In the summer I use the strawberry mix and ice for drinks for the kids. I don't feel it is promoting drinking. My son (13) would be mortified by the virgin part though. He is so easily embarrassed by that kind of thing right now. :lol:
We live in the most unchurched county in the country. Mardi Gras means PARTY.
Are you offended because you value Mardi Gras or because of the Fat Tuesday theme of getting all your sinning done before Ash Wednesday? I ask because we lived in New Orleans for awhile and it was universally celebrated (not in the trashy way, but in the family holiday way) by Catholics, Christians and all others alike.
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Yes, it would bother me. I don't want my children served daquiries of any kind. Why couldn't they just call them smoothies - and exactly what kind of party are the adults having?
It's an auction and dinner party (including alcohol apparently). The tickets to get in are $90 a couple. Dh and I aren't going. Not because of the alcohol, but because after spending $400 a kid for the team plus snack bar donation "requests" (6 per family) and 20 hours of required volunteering, I'm DONE!
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Not to change the subject but why are you having a Mardi Gras auction in June?
IDK, I had the same thought. Easy theme to work around? It took them a couple of months of promoting before they stopped spelling it Marti Gra. :lol::lol:
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Where is the dinner? If it is at a place that usually serves frozen drinks that go by a given name, I would think it would be normal to call them by that name. No, it would not bother me. I see a difference in a smoothie (uses real fruit/has nutritional benefit) and a daquiri (usually a mix with no real nutritional benefit).
It's being held at the pool. I was thinking that they could call it a slushie.
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Hi all,
I'd love some feedback on this issue. Our swim team is having a bbq tonight, and then an adult fundraiser tomorrow evening. I received this email yesterday-
As a special promo for Saturday night's MardiGras Auction Dinner Dance
the Team will be offering JUNIOR Daquiris at the Pasta Potluck.
For $1 each these alcohol-free strawberry frozen drinks are sure to please the kids
(and tease the adults with what they have to look forward to Saturday night!)
Am I right to be bothered by this?
ETA- Good news! I emailed our team president about this and she agreed that it was a bad call. They will be calling them some alternative name instead. Thanks for the input!
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Is about a mom leaving her baby in the car (accidentaly). So, so sad.
I'm posting this because their was a thread about this earlier this week.
Eta- FYI, they just played a graphic 911 tape. I wish they didn't play that.
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My friend is an officer and she is at the hospital right now. She says that the staff told her it was an OD on sleeping pills. Who knows if that's true, or gossip, but it wouldn't surprise me.
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The only thing I've accomplished is e-mailing my senators. I can't get through on either of theother #s, and also someone else provided a phone # and I can't get through to it either. Anyone have any other ways to reach these people?
That happened to me too. I'm taking it as a good sign. I'm going to try to call again tomorrow, or the day after that if need be. I'd love us all to clog their lines for weeks.
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Um have you seen this thread: Calls and Emails needed now...
I hear you on the getting sick to your stomach part. These kinds of calls are not my cup of tea.
Yeah, I found that thread about 10 seconds after posting this one, lol. That always happens to me.
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Is this a banned topic?
I've received a number of emails in the last week from Parentalrights.org. It seems like the activity has stepped up a couple of notches on both sides of this issue. It definitely leaves me with a pit in my stomach.
Have any of you joined the calling campaign? I HATE making calls like these (read: I hate confrontation of any kind), but I've been compelled to suck it up and dial. Thoughts?
How do you feel about Youth Group trips...
in General Education Discussion Board
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As the wife of a former youth pastor, I can tell you it is all about balance. Youth groups need these fun trips. They become the bonding moments for the leaders and students. Sometimes those trips that seem frivolous end up being very deep. The students open up at the weirdest times. I've held many a crying girl on so called frivolous trips. And I'm not talking about silly drama, I'm talking about deep spiritual burdens.
Rock the Universe, for those of you who don't know, is all Christian bands. We've been many times and it's a lot of fun, plus some amazing worship.
All that said, maybe the Spirit is stirring something in your dh. When I'm not at peace about an activity, even if I don't have a good reason, I just say no. It's possible that your girls shouldn't go on this trip and that the Spirit is burdening him to say no. The fact that your girls don't seem to mind would support that.
You should absolutely talk over the big picture with dh, but I would not push this trip.