I didn't either. I have it here in quotes and I realize that some may be offended - I wanted to discuss it and that phrasing is how it's being tagged online. I never watched the Duggars or followed that world, other than way back in the day, getting a homeschool supply catalog - printed on paper, though the mail! - from a family maybe in Seattle who I am embarrassed to say I've forgotten the name of.

I appreciate this. I wouldn't have thought anything about this except for watching a video that is a split screen - goes back and forth between Mrs. Britt using an assertive voice and the speech she made the other night. @prairiewindmommacalls this code switching and that makes sense. I have a really quiet voice and I sometimes say some obnoxious, sarcastic things. It's never occurred to me that might be odd for listeners, as I hear my voice in a consistent way inside my head, if that makes sense.

I will link to this blog with respect for her courage https://tialevings.substack.com/p/fundie-baby-voice-isnt-what-we-called She's responding to this author and others: https://jesspiper.substack.com/p/the-fundie-baby-voice

I don't know anyone who speaks like this but I've read that it's triggering to some people who grew up with it. For those of you who are personally familiar, do you relate? Or is it comforting? I'm also curious about how this pattern is taught - do you remember conversations about it? Do you ask your daughters to speak this way?

February finished happily with many goals achieved. March arrived at my mother's house with some challenges: her spinal arthritis flared on the second day I was here and so she's almost unable to walk or do most things. I'm here for one more week so will start the weeks goals right here right now. This week I will meal prep a whole months worth of dinners plus some soups. I will rearrange her pantry, freezer, and shelves for better access. I already fixed her files and made a new curtain for her med cabinet, and took off the awkward door. I'm doing committee work online and will make some appointments to look at some archives via email. I'm walking every day and bought some weights for arms workouts, which are fun. Chop wood, carry water.

I have a slight lisp and a very quiet voice that gets quieter as people ask me to speak up, and as a result I hate public speaking...I just signed up to do a one hour presentation on my research this summer. Ugh, why?? Anyhow, I will tell you about overcoming an inhibition next fall 🙂

More walking more weights.

Walking and weights videos the last few days.

I did 4 or 5 miles walking today and yesterday plus an arms workout both days. I'm so cranky I can barely stand myself. I can't figure out how to kick down.

I will add to my post above that the earlier, English boycott of sugar directly contributed to the British slave trade being abolished, and was also accompanied by objections that it would hurt the enslaved people it was meant to help. https://theconversation.com/how-18th-century-quakers-led-a-boycott-of-sugar-to-protest-against-slavery-174114

I've been reading lately about the Quaker-initiated boycotts of sugar in the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, due to its being produced in the most brutal of the slavery economies. Many abolitionists actually objected to the "free produce" movement of the 1830s, some on theological grounds and others because there could be no purity, even then. The slave trade touched everything and there was some feeling that individual, consumer-based actions were ineffectual and therefore distracting from the larger political movement. This is neither here nor there in terms of Kellogg's but it's something I've been thinking a lot about lately (also divestment, BDS, etc.)

I'm walking about four miles each day here at my mom's and did an arms video yesterday with my new weights. My oldest sister is arriving today which will add stress, so I'm expecting to start walking and training even more. 🌚

Definitely. And even when I'm gone. Dh was gone for two weeks and I ate things like lentils for breakfast, nuts and veggies or fish for lunch and salad for supper. He came home and now I'm gone for two weeks and I left him with two weeks worth of freezer meals: stir fry pork, veggies, and rice, chicken mushroom stroganoff, soup, roasted veggies and chicken curry. He also buys cookies, chips, and canned soup which I don't eat or buy for myself. He's another one who grew up with meat at every meal and likes processed food.

I bought some weights and went for a five mile walk today, good for keeping my sanity. Why oh why does my mother tell me things like I should turn the stove burner lower as I'm cooking her dinner, I'm 59, and I've been a professional chef my entire adult life?? You can see I need exercise....

It was sooo bad.

Well, apparently you can't take a weight through airport security, who knew? The guy asked if I wanted to check it but it was a three dollar purchase at goodwill so spending thirty dollars to check it would have been silly. Today I will go to goodwill and buy another. Yesterday involved some brisk airport walking and that was all.

Two walks yesterday for a total of about 5 miles. Today I'm going to visit my mother and I'm committing to staying on course with exercise. I brought one of my weights so will just do everything twice.

That's just weird.

I like this. Dh and I have small but intense disagreements about 3 times a year. Usually about our business, usually started by me being unhappy with some way that he is not managing something correctly, (in my opinion.) It's a few minutes of each of us saying a couple of very sharp sentences then retreating. One of us usually apologizes after a night's sleep - we sleep in separate beds anyway so never have to negotiate that situation. It's rough enough, I don't know how I would handle yelling and cursing. I probably couldn't.

I took a beautiful 4 mile walk in the woods. The ice is retreating.

A quick two mile walk with friends then some heavy arms last night. I'm going to visit my mother and trying to decide if I can haul along my weights. If I don't I may lose all the progress I've made, so I think I will.

Hugs and hibernation peace to you. I hope warmer weather brings you some breathing room.

32, 32, 28, and 28.5. In addition to certain things I require, they each needed to do a "senior project" which gave them each an extra credit in senior year. The difference between the older two and younger two is that younger two both did extensive extracurriculars at the high school which took a fair amount of time; older two did high school before phones (or the internet, really, for oldest) and were insanely busy. Local high school requires 23.

Holding my oldest son in the light today.

nvm