If you don't already use 2fa on the biggies, now is an excellent time to start, including your email.

My cyber-security professional kid says "when in doubt, change 'em out!" There's no reason not to other than hassle, especially with autopay stuff, but you'll never have to wish you had if hackers do get in.

Thanks - I did one of them day before yesterday plus one of her abs ones and I'm going to do more, I liked them. Yesterday I walked for an hour but today I finally got out skating! Two laps around the pond was a great first day for me.

Welp, the first week of February was a blur of ds having a marital meltdown, dd going back to college, older dd going back to grad school, and ds turning 25 and having a rough week. Dh and I haven't really got the hang of being by ourselves. We can spend an entire day or a three hour car trip not talking so that's awkward. February big picture goals are to continue with exercise, eat 6 cups of veg every day, pulling my new committee into existence, getting a first draft of my research to a couple people to read/critique, making some travel plans to visit my mom. Some deep grime-wiping and cat-hair reduction are in order. It will be a low-key month for me, plus planning on some supportive phone calls for each kid. Dh might travel for a couple of weeks. This week: Join the hotel gym today and choose an arm workout. I signed up for a thing in early April that needs arm strength. Read back through all the stuff they sent and take notes. Finish my first draft. Going to a museum tomorrow for some research, but also need to go back through all my writing and organize the citations. Another week I will re-cite everything into Chicago rather than MLA, ugh. Send a check to mom's caregiver. Turn 59.

They have slowed down their process a little. Ds says they're talking about everything, so that is better than last week. I can't tell which way they're going but just the fact that the intensity has abated and they're talking seems better. Thank you all for helpful advice and support.

I ate all the veg yesterday and walked for 2.5 hours. Today is going to snow and sleet, so I'm going to go get a membership for the gym at a local hotel that allows folks to do memberships in the winter. Hiking friend and I walked along an ocean path and a road. I forgot my phone for pictures but the ocean was crazy blue and sparkling, the sky was too, and the blustery wind was making it feel like about 10 degrees. Does anyone have am "arms" workout they love? I've signed up for something in early April that will require arm strength and that's the hardest one for me to know how to do on my own. Edited: I found some "fitbymik" standing arms so will try those.

When I first wrote that I almost wrote "it's frozen fog" which sounded too weird but it's overlaid on snow if that makes sense. It's not really rime ice, just closely held and hardened snow, so I think you are exactly right about the humidity. Love your picture! Yesterday I had a 4 mile walk in the city with ds which was fun and cold.

Yesterday was stacking wood and shredding shingles. Today I'm going to visit ds so maybe a quick walk with him, hopefully. I've been achieving my 6 cups of veggies per day and it makes such a difference in how I feel.

It's frozen snow.

I hiked to a summit this morning.

Tell me I'm not obligated . You're not obligated.

I know, just wishing we could spare our children pain when we can't.

He is not, nor is she, just stuck in a bad communications rut, I think. He may also be having a bit of a mid-life crisis, he's turning 35 this year.

Holding this, thank you. Of course, I worry that if he regrets it in the future, I will wish I had.

I'm just fully in support mode. He says they're done.

Wise words, thank you.

She has recently begun her own therapy, which is a good thing. In this sense I think my ds is being impatient.

No. They have tried and tried, the grief of which has affected them both but her especially. I suggested this to him this morning, and he is receptive.

I walked in the woods with a friend and found a pond I'd never seen before where her husband had shoveled for skating. Later I pulled shingles off a barn wall and then stacked firewood for two hours, which felt good for my arms and upper body. I'm hoping to do a long walk today before my indoor meeting at 2.

Or do I need to be resolutely on ds' side: he says he's ready to be done with his marriage of ten years and said he isn't interested in couples therapy when I suggested it. It seems incredibly sudden to me but not to him. I know I've been here in the past irritated with ddil for her difficult ways and so I guess I can't say it's a complete surprise. We talked for a while last night, there is no other person in the background, he's stable and clear. Please don't quote, I will probably delete. I just need some input from moms who've been there, done that, either themselves or with their adult kids.

If she fit, she sit.

Today I learned that my ds and ddil are doing much worse than I knew. I also learned to rip shingles off a barn with a crowbar.

Mainer here, a lover of all things winter.

I mostly did this and it was fine, did not start the chess set. The archival research was great and super interesting, gave me too many rabbit holes! I'm feeling like I'm back in my groove with exercise and need just a small tweak for food. Ugh, I am having a real dilemma though. I suddenly wanted to restart a thing we haven't done for four years. I can't tell if I really want to do it or if I just want the world to go back to before the pandemic and I had kids living at home. This week: make this decision, finish the FAFSA today, do some deep cleaning, hike and walk. Continue to research and write.

I did a 6 mile walk yesterday that felt easy so I'm feeling like I'm getting back to normal. I love this culvert.