I have a child with one of those names and another child with one as a middle name... Sent from my SM-G903W using Tapatalk

Sounds great! This is a fantastic move.

Sure a person can feel all of those things. But that one of the concerns is that they will feel the judgement of others just makes me shake my head. That they are hurt by fat-shaming once removed, while sharing feelings of fat-shaming towards their relative is ironic to the extreme. Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk

What is worse is knowing your (step-)parent is judging you for being fat. "And mom (and step-mom) gets totally blamed for it. "Why isn't she doing something about her son's weight?" You *know* that people are thinking that." - (sarcasm on) oh, the shame! Having a fat family member! Gasp. (Sarcasm off). I am shaking my head and I do not have the words. May your loved ones never know that you are ashamed of them like this.

Lets make this simple. Pretty much any fast food is almost certainly a trigger for someone struggling to lose weight (especially huge amounts of weight) unless that specific food is repulsive to them for some reason. I don't know why you are arguing about it. The fact that he ordered and ate it when he had just eaten bears witness to that.... But I know your interpretation was entirely to blame him and look down at his lack of will power.

Ok... upset enough to vent online about it. And yes, it is cruel to buy stuff at Taco Bell for you to eat in front of a person trying to lose weight. I would add even more cruel because it was in front of someone that surely knows how you would feel about it if he had some, and that he likely cares how you feel. Incredibly cruel. And if you can not understand that, then you need to stop caring about his weight and what he eats because you are not someone that can help him. If you can't understand this basic thought, then you can not help.

So you have said. My family is my family. Yes, there are differences. Which can require outside help. My family got help when needed. I love all my step-kids and never treated them differently. Was it always easy? No. Was I perfect? No. And months ago the discussion was ice cream in the house for your son and not your step-son. So no, it wasn't just the food tonight. The attitude has been there for months... I would bet the whole year and a half he has lived with you, and probably during the visits before. But for months anyway.

Oh, believe me I hear you. Many of us hear you. You just honestly don't hear yourself.

That has been working well for you so far. For months you have been bringing up issues you have with your step-son, then ignoring the people that tell you there are unhealthy issues. I will say this as clearly as I can. There are many issues in the family that are not your step-son's issues. Your family needs help. And your step-son has been placed in the position of the "problem child". As you spend your time trying to get force him to fix his problems, you can avoid the responsibilty of yourself and others in the family dynamic. Meanwhile he is given the message that he is second class, broken, not as worthy etc. This all comes out in your writing. It honestly does. Paraphrase: it isn't my fault, he should just eat less. I don't know what else I could do, he eats everything. Why would we get him help, he should just stop. Wake up

Not arguing

You were mad at your step-son because he wanted to eat what you were eating in front of him. Something that would have a strong tantalizing odor. Taco bell. KFC. McDonalds. Pretty much any fast food has a strong odor that is going to tempt most people, especially someone that has food issues. Or teenaged boys (or even teenaged girls). You don't see that that is cruel? Really? Wake up.

Btw I am a step mother to 3 and also have 4 with my husband. You are laughing at some very inappropriate times. Your preference for your full son and feelings about your step-son come through loud and clear, although I don't think you are even aware of them. You definitely have very strong food issues, although I'm sure it is only this situation that bring them to light. You also have very strong attitudes about weight and do tie that into your opinion on a person's character. Again, I don't think you are aware of them. Btw... instead of going through taco bell to eat in front of him (even though he ate earlier), you should have gotten quick healthy food that doesn't fill the car with a strong tantilizing aroma... something that you wouldn't have been upset about him eating if he decided to eat. I have adult family members that will not eat in front of non-family members because of food issues and the attitudes they have felt from other people. We go, for example, to the church Christmas dinner. They will socialize, but will not have a single bite to eat. We come home and they make something for their supper. I eat because I put mental armour on and tell myself that I could give a care what others are judgeing me about. I worry about the food issues my kids (ALL, although my step-kids are adults now) are likely getting because of their exposure to things like that. I honestly think you ard trying. It isn't an easy issue, and opinions vary. The thing that I find sad is how clearly your feelings about your step-son, the blended family, food, weight, etc. come through to some of us through your writings, and honestly it doesn't look good. I am of the opinion that if your family doesn't get some help with these attitudes and issues within the family, that your trying to help is likely to cause more issues. As already said by others, the food is a symptom. And re-inforcing the second-class citizenship that appears your step-son has in the family by having different foods available to different family members is not going to help. I won't say my family is the best example of a blended family.... but I will say that I never ever called it that. It was our family. I only called my step-kids 'step-kids'as that was their preference. And My grand kids are my grand kids.

Do you even hear yourself?

Do you have the foggiest clue how hard it is to move when you weigh 300 lbs?

Birthday bumps (not high like that one video looked like it showed)... I think a couple of times with the family... but not always or even often. More by friends. Haven't done it to the kids though. I much prefered the money in thd birthday cake. Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk

Wagon wheels CD with Flight of the Valkries (by Wagner) Wind at my Back series (Canadian TV show) Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk

I'm just trying to figure out the slut-shaming comment. I think a person can say that someones clothes don't meet a dress code without it being slut-shaming. Obviously it depends on what is said and how. That info wasn't given. It just seems like a huge jump to conclude that. This was what we were told.

Slut-shaming? Obviously it depends on what he said to her.... I'm picturing something like 'just want to mention, dresses were supposed to be to the knees for this event'. Apparently you are picturing a 20 minute berating lecture on how she is the devil's spawn incarnate.... There is nothing on any of the posts to indicate what it actually was. I am of the opinion that there is way too little information in this thread to make any opinion at all. What type of event? Repeating event? How many kids invited? 1, a few, all? What was said? A to the knees dress code is not unusual at churches, schools, and some other events. People that inforce it aren't necessarily enforcing it from a sexual standpoint either. So nothing mentioned is raising flags for me based on the limited information. But maybe with more information it would Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk

Swearing....

I have all sorts of house dreams while sleeping.... often involving going into a part of a house that I have lived in (living there currently in my dream) and opening a door I didn't remember seeing before and finding... more house! A nice place perfect for a homeschool room, possibly another suite almost. One time the dream was that someone had given us a placd to live (deeded it, so it was now ours), it needed a log of work but there was money included for that. We were starting to explore it (this could be a good bedroom, that would be a bathroom...) and the place was huge. Well, I guess it was really huge because it was the Bay store downtown... built maybe 1920ish? That store was huge with 6 or 7 very large floors. So we are looking through it, and go down a few stairs and I discover.... a large, modern, filled library! I'm thrilled, but worried about ever getting the kids to put back books.... but realize it is all ok as it is fully staffed!! But I've never had a tv show mirror my weird dreams Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk

Another unit conversion error happened in Canada in the 80's.... the 'Gimli Glider'. A 767 airplane had to do an emergency landing in Gimli Manitoba at a closed down runway (being used as a racing strip!) Because it ran out of fuel about 1/2 the wa y to the destination. A lot of little things went wrong to cause the outcome, but the main problem was the incorrect conversion factors used to convert the volume to weight for the fuel needed. The plane needed it in metric but it was done in imperial.... although I believe there was a calculation error as well as the conversion error. (There was also equipment problems.) Fortunately, the pilot was a skilled glider pilot as well as a comercial pilot and was able to land the plane fairly safely, although it was still a crash. Some injuries, but mostly from using the emergency exit chute (one did not reach the ground). When my kids make an error with units I have been known to make comments about airplanes falling from the sky..... Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk

Thank you! So almost all the levels. Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk

Set aside math for now. Pick it up again when he shows interest and is pulling you again. Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk

I know that some levels add more tiles. I own levels 14 and have kids in levels 1-3. I know that some of our tiles did not come with the original student kit.... don't remember if it was level 3 or 4. My kids DO use the tiles. But we don't use the cards... I hate getting the student packs if it is mostly just the cards, but we need the tiles. Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk

Which levels add tiles? Sent from my SM-T530NU using Tapatalk