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    need some advice from kindred folks

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    I hear you loud and clear. Four years ago we moved to a town of 3,500 people. I thought, given the fact that the town's largest employer often recruits outsiders, we would be welcomed here. I thought two college-educated veterans would be welcomed. I thought our regular attendance and volunteering at church would be looked upon with favor. I thought my ability to speak to the lowest of the low and highest of the high (socially) would be a benefit. I thought my well-behaved (ish) kids would be an asset. I thought I was moving to Mayberry.

     

    I now realize I moved into the Twilight Zone. The natives are hostile. No amount of smiling and kindness on my part will remove the stain of "outsider". I never thought by removing my kids from the craptastic public school I was effectively d@mning us to the eternal blacklist. I thought, by force of personality, I could overcome the fact that we were born elsewhere. I thought if I was just nicer, kinder, thinner I would win people over. It will never happen.

     

    Thank God we have a large amount of outsiders here. I have been able to form a few friendships with other outsiders. They know how the shunning machine works. They appreciate me for who I am, not the place of my birth. And blessing of all blessings, I have finally found an incredible group of wacky ladies online who make me feel at home.

     

    I feel bad for my kids. They will never be accepted here because their parents weren't born here. They are incredibly flexible. As long as we don't involve ourselves in too many town activities, they really don't notice our blacklist status. I do have to tell them to keep our political views to themselves or else they will suffer, but they are pretty oblivious.

     

    Emeraldjoy, just find your niche. That may in fact be online. You are not alone in this type of situation. The only thing that keeps me going is knowing that I am being the bigger person. I will continue to be nice to the snobs. They will not run me out of this town. Eventually I may even grow on them. Hopefully your kids will not have to suffer like mine have. Sometimes just attending the local school, craptastic though it may be, gives you an "in" with small town society.

     

    I will remember your and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

     

     

    I was insulted this evening.

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    I refuse to take any "boot camp" classes at a gym. I went through real boot camp. Sure, it was Navy boot camp and the didn't let us shoot real guns, but still. I laughed my way through real boot camp. Some random dude all up on a power trip thinking he is something for teaching a gym "boot camp" class? That guy would get put in his place. Tell me to suck it up and deal. Tell me I can make it through the workout. But insult my service? Thank God I do not have a concealed-carry permit. :;):.

    To parents of boys:

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    Well personally I don't want DD dwelling and praying about the future boy she will meet and marry. That is kinda creepy to me. And I am NOT raising ds to be someone's perfect husband. That's just not on my check list right now. I am raising them to be strong individuals. Not someone for someone else. But being not religious may have something to do with that. I actually didn't know religous people have their girls pray about future husbands so young.

     

    Yep. The praying for a future spouse kinda creeps me out, and I am religious. My mom made me do this. Apparently she thought I was only good for popping out kids. I'm not saying everyone who makes their kids pray for a future spouse feels that way.

     

    I do still think of the wonderful woman who will look past my son's supreme dorkiness (inherited from his mother) and save me from ds living in my basement while running a Star Wars fan site. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

    To parents of boys:

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    I tend to over think things so take what I say with a grain of salt. I don't understand this thread and it rubs me the wrong way. I was a girl once and I don't think I was more civilized than my boys at the same age. I don't see huge differences.

     

    My post was in good humor. My girls are wild animals, yet they are pretty clean. My son is the biggest sweetheart, but he just will not change his underwear. I'm just joking around.

    To parents of boys:

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    Wow... uh... you're welcome. It's not an easy task to civilize these critters. But right now we're working on using silverware, not analyzing the sound and scent of various bodily functions at the dinner table and wearing a clean shirt every day.

     

     

    Yep. I think of my son's future wife every time I force him to change his underwear. And use soap in the shower. And actually TAKE a shower. And tell him not to "toot" on people. He really is the sweetest, kindest, most loving guy. He's just kinda smelly and gross.

    I need a 'catastrophic' book suggestion for book club.

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    Quick hijack... I own this book, and I started to read it, and I absolutely loved the beginning section. But the middle got to be kind of a slog... it's just SO. LONG. Is it worth it to pick it up again and read the whole thing? Does it pick up again as it goes on?

     

    It is worth it. I too got a little bogged down in the middle. It definitely picks up. I lost many hours of sleep over that book because I just couldn't put it down. The next book in the series, The Twelve, is great as well.

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