That additional info changes things significantly. If she does indeed have the opportunity to compete as an individual in the spring at the girls' competition, then there is no need for her to be allowed to compete as an individual in the boys' competition.

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I agree that the coach should definitely have mentioned this to the golfer beforehand. There is a chance the coach did not consider the possibility that she would win and therefore did not think it was important info? Her school does not have a girls team so this is the only way she could compete. What would happen if it were a boy that wanted to play a sport than the school only offered for girls, like volleyball? It seems to me that it has to go both ways to really be fair so perhaps the tournament rules should be changed so no girls can compete. I agree with others that all of the athlete involved behaved with grace.

Anyone else see this? http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2017/10/26/560210230/winner-of-high-school-golf-tournament-denied-trophy-because-shes-a-girl?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=npr&utm_term=nprnews&utm_content=2053 Thoughts? My initial thought is that while it kind of sucks for the girl, the rules cannot fairly be changed after the fact.

Can you screw it to the side of the post? While our house was being painted our mailbox, which is normally attached to the house, was placed on the ground. I happened to catch the mailman one day and apologized for the temporary situation. He said, "that's nothing. Make a point to look at the mailbox situation at other houses in the neighborhood." So, I did. Sure enough, people have some goofy "mailbox" situations going on. Next door is a box that is almost as flat as a pancake due to am ice dam from the roof breaking free. Several houses have their boxes on the ground....and not temporarily due to house painting. One house has a white garbage bag nailed to the house next to the front door with her addressed scrawled on it with sharpie. And my favorite.....the college guys with a laundry basket on their porch with a signed taped above with with address and arrow pointing down with the word "mail" next to it.

Well, I hate corn and am not a picky eater, so there is that. As others have said, you might want to rethink dessert in general. While in theory, I like the idea of dessert not being tied to eating a healthy meal first, I think it fails in practice. We are a no-dessert family. We have treats regularly but they usually show up as snacks, not directly after a meal. But if we were, I would have a hard time watching anyone, kid or adult, choose to skip healthy foods for dinner then load up on dessert on a regular basis. So, if we did do dessert, I would likely not offer it to a child that did not first eat a healthy dinner. Because this is not a power struggle I want to get into, it seems easiest to me to simply not have dessert on a regular basis. If it were once a week or less frequent, I would not be so concerned with a child filling up on dessert after refusing all or most of a healthy dinner. But every night you are either faced with a power struggle over dessert or a child who is eating junk in place of a balanced meal.

I knew people here would understand. I really don't understand why the college board will not fix this problem. Because it has caused so much stress, dd will not be taking any other AP classes. Lesson learned!

It's the little things..... After having every other door slammed in our faces, we were resolved to have to travel ten hours for dd to take the AP Latin exam. Ten hours. And only after cashing in serious favors, name-dropping, and taking a pinkie swear to not tell any other homeschoolers that they were going to allow it AND to never ever ask them again in the future. I had never felt comfortable that they were actually going to come through for us when it came time to register. There is a small semester school about 2.5 hours from our home that dd has shown interest in attending her 11th grade year. She visits the website from time to time. Today she mentioned that she saw on the website that they will proctor AP exams for current students who may be studying an AP subject independently. On a whim, I sent an email. This school did not hit my radar before because it does not offer Latin and is in another state. I did contact all of the schools in that state that offer Latin and ALL schools within a two hour drive from us. I don't know why it didn't occur to me before to try this one little school. They are going to allow it! We can drive down there that morning. No hotels. No elaborate travel. They are used to dealing with "complicated" student situations since ALL semester school students tend to have "complicated" registration situations. No one IRL understands this struggle so I had to share!

I live in a no reg state and have had zero contact with the schools or any "authorities" in my 10 years of homeschooling. We have not done standardized tests but dd will do the PSAT in next year (10th grade) just so we know where she stands. I am a university engineering instructor and many of my friends teach other subjects at the university. I have a pretty good grasp on assessment without formal testing, IMO and the few times I've been unsure, I have asked for a second set of eyes from those friends.

We're using it this year. In fact, I am reading Chapter 15 right now. We try to cover 3 chapters a week. We have some short weeks so in the end it works out to 2-3 per week. Dd does do sections 1-3 of the study guide for each chapter. The section 3 questions can be used for essay writing. Dd also reads from and writes about the Great Books list as closely to the history timeline as I can manage as part of her English/History block of 2 credits. This includes referencing other spines and timelines as she researches the book she is reading at any given time.

Thanks. I successfully resisted the urge...... I have been vegetarian for over 20 years and vegan for 5 of that. I rarely eat pasta or bread nor am I "hugely fat or thin." Sheesh. What rock are you people living under?!?!

We use ours most of the time. We have a detached garage way behind the house and we still hoof it all the way around to the front door because the back door requires going up a lot of deck steps that we do not clear of snow from Nov-May. Most people around here use their front doors because that is usually where our boot porches are. These serve as airlocks and a place to shed and stow snowy boots. Very old houses (ours is 130+ years old), no or detached garage are the norm. Back/side doors are usually reserved for summer months when it is not muddy....which is about never. "Deck Opening" parties are the highlight of May when we can finally chip the ice off of decks and drink a beer while shivering and pretending it is warm.

I do make her create a drawing, no matter what, but no colors. That is a great idea! Thanks!

This is for anyone who is currently working or has recently worked through this book. Dd has been loving Intro to Geometry. She also was very challenged by but also enjoyed Pre-A and Intro to A. As I have mentioned on here a few times, this program is a funny fit for my not-terribly-mathy dd but she likes the approach so we have stuck with it. She is currently working through Chapter 5 (Similar Triangles). I am also working through the book and am a section or two ahead just so I can help when she needs it. Dd is just starting to have trouble and as I work a little ahead, I am finding the exercises to be very difficult, even though geometry was my favorite math class and I have taken years and years of advanced math. I can solve them but can see that dd is struggling to puzzle together the path for the more complicated problems despite being pretty rock-solid on the concepts. I am finding I have to help a lot. The next chapter is Right Triangles. Anyone happen to know or remember if the Similar Triangles chapter was particularly difficult or are we in for a rough ride the rest of the year?

Yep, that is what I am saying. With the additional details it may not help much but at least some of cold air is going back out.

This is our biggest hurdle. I am 600 miles away and that is far closer than my only sibling. And mom is not even sort of willing to move. Putting aside the very real relationship, financial, job, and physical space issues, we cannot even get past GO because of location. Even if we could somehow find an assisted living situation in the only location she is willing to live, that had openings, was affordable, and that my mom was agreeable to, I am still 10 hours away. And I work. How to visit or shop or handle finances or make sure the facility is doing their job properly? In a perfect world, mom would live near my sister or me. Independently with help from us and then likely in a facility of some sort with frequent visiting, outings, and oversight. My house is pretty much physically impossible for anyone with mobility issues that my mom already has. But. She will not even consider relocating and fully expects one of us to move to her when needed. Her biggest issue is rapidly declining cognitive functioning so as time goes on, she digs in deeper and deeper with less ability ti reason through the logistics. I want to help. I can help. But there are limits to what I can do without unreasonably impacting my and my family's life. It takes both sides. From someone outside looking in, I appear to be a cold-hearted brat who won't take care of her mother.

Also, this is going to sound counterintuitive, but perhaps consider a window fan with the small dual fans that can be separately set on intake and outtake. I set mine that way (before outside temps go below freezing) which seems to keep he cold airflow more localized to my room.

I would just keep the door to her room shut at night. I also have to have cold to sleep and will have my bedroom windows open at night. Luckily the lack of insulation in my bedroom makes it much colder than the rest of the house without opening a window during the dead of winter. But I do keep the door shut to save heat in the rest of the house. While the bedroom door is not insulated it does a good enough job of making a "zone." If the rest of the family can stand it, turn the overall heat down as much as possible overnight so there is not so much "delta" between her room and the rest of the house. That may also make it more comfortable for her sleeping so she might be willing to keep the windows closed as winter gets colder.

This keeps me up at night. Dh and I only have two living parents. MIL is young and in good health. She has her books and plans in order. Dh is also one of three kids so I don't see an immediate need as being likely. We'll cross that bridge much later, hopefully. My mom is much older, in poor health, and is having rapidly progressing memory problems that are undiagnosed at this time. Thankfully, she moved out of her large home and into a retirement community several years ago. But the community does not have any sort of assistance so while we have less worry about stairs, maintenance, some meals, and housekeeping, there is no assistance for transportation, nursing, mobility, etc..... In other words, she cannot live there once her physical or mental capacities falter significantly. I have one sibling who lives on the other side of the country and will not be able to help in any way. I live ten hours away. My mom is 100% unwilling to move to where I live. We have never been close. She says she has long term care insurance but I suspect the loopholes are big enough to drive a truck through. She is not financially savvy and would have easily been talked into a policy that is not in her best interest. There is a good chance that the policy does not actually exist. We have discovered, far too late, that she was very much taken advantage of by the retirement community when she "purchased" her condo. She is intensely private about her financial and health issues so my sister and I don't know much. We know that she is almost out of money and has managed it poorly for years...partially due to her faltering memory. She should not be driving anymore but cannot be talked into giving it up. I don't blame her since her community provides no transportation service and she lives in an area that is not served by buses or reasonably-priced taxis. She will not discuss what plans she may (or may not) have in place. We do not know if she has a will or who the executor might be. We don't know what assets she may have or how to access them should we need to. She is a hoarder so physically finding anything will be a nightmare. It is possible that she has lost control over or lost track of all of these things and will not discuss because she is embarrassed. We know this to be true of her health problems, many of which may be due to lifestyle choices. We don't know if she has plans for someone to have power of attorney should she need it. All that said, she fully expects that we (my sister and I) will "take care of her" when needed. She thinks one of us will move to her location to do this. We have told her that this is not financially possible for either of us. We both have jobs and need to work to keep our families above water. Even if it were, neither one of us would last more than a week trying to live with her. Neither of us have enough money to help significantly with care either. We would do whatever we could but it likely will not be enough. Sadly, I suspect that who will "take care of her" will be a county-run nursing home unless I am (hopefully) wrong about this long term care policy she says she has but won't let us see. It is no good.

I do this for any text I am considering. Our actual library never has anything I am looking for but I can get almost anything ILL as long as I am patient.

I think I have talked her down. I am a bit on the line here because she would be paying for them. She does not have the funds to pay for the exam and I am not willing to pay for that either. The ones she found that are "FDA approved" can be purchased online without an exam. I half want to let her do it because I am almost positive she will not figure out how to put them in and/or will find them uncomfortable....which would be a good learning experience. But I also don't want to set her up to fail AND there is always the chance that she will have success but then end up injuring her eyes. We are normally very hands off about these decisions. She currently has purple hair, for instance. This crosses into a safety concern which it appears I am not off base with that.

This is my dd too. She did SM 1-6 and while generally pretty good at math, was not very excited about it. I had her check out a few different Pre-A books that I got through our library. She was immediately drawn to AoPS. I had my reservations but we gave it a try and it seems to be a good fit. I am very mathy so I really like it. We do not find it completely self-learning yet. I often have to help break down explanations, show them in a different way, or help elaborate on the solutions. Dd found the online videos and Alcumus tedious so she ultimately did not use them. However, they would have been more useful if I was no able to help on the level that I do.

I have asked this question recently and have currently settled on a hybrid approach for Intro to Geometry. Pre-high school, dd did Pre-A and Intro to Algebra with no formal grading. Basically, she worked the problems, sometimes with help, until she understood each one and could move ahead. This approach worked well for us so I wanted to keep the procedure the same but try to find a way to capture a "grade" for a transcript. I grade all of the chapter exercises for completeness (is the problem statement well-represented in her work, is all work shown, etc...), effort, and neatness (can I follow what she is doing, can I read her writing, etc...?). She works these problems until they are correct and understood so no grade attached that that. Unless she does really sloppy work or makes no attempt at a problem, she gets 100%. This is 30% of her "grade." The review problems are assigned sort of like a test. When those are complete, I grade them and she gets another stab at the ones she got incorrect. 75% back if she identifies and corrects the problem herself (these are almost always correct conceptually with a simple math or copying error). 50% back if she needs a small directional "hint" after explaining to me the correct general direction. 25% back if I have to really walk her through the approach. 0% if I ultimately have to do the problem with her watching. This is 40% of her "grade." The final 30% are the midterm and final comprehensive exams. It sounds complicated but in reality is pretty simple. I will adjust as necessary. We are still pretty new to it. I would rather not grade at all. I don't think it does anything to help dd learn the material. But for the sake of accountability, I feel I need to.

That's the problem....she doesn't have an optometrist and I'm not going to spring for an exam for a Halloween costume....

We stayed in Chamonix for a few days last year. We were there during the off-season which was nice because it was not crowded at all. We stayed in an AirB&B that was close enough to town to walk but still had a glorious view. We did spring for the ride up and it was worth every penny. I would go back in a heartbeat.