Plucky
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No, it wasn't the 10yo. And it wasn't the 13yo. Or the 15 yo.
IT WAS THE 17yo!!!
I take some small comfort (not really) in the fact that it hadn't already been chewed. It was a fresh piece of Bazooka that fell as he was unwrapping it.
Please be disgusted along with me. But I guess if that's the worse thing he ever does, I should be thrilled!
Yes, be happy it wasn't already chewed. Guys, are so funny. That 5-second rule doesn't really apply.
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Rats, I forgot to add doesn't matter.
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My DS did this once a month ago. I made him scrub both toilets every day for a week. He hasn't done it again. (He did it on purpose all over the seat and lid because he wanted to--his words)
:lol: If I had a penis I think it would be a lot of fun doing special sprays and arcs. Oh, and I'd have to write my name in the snow every year. That is one of the few things I envy about men.
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My step-father kept complaining when he was here that the kids were leaving the toilet seat up all the time. I told him that there were 3 guys and 3 girls in this house and so it didn't matter. We were all used to it and checked first.
So, what is your policy? Does it matter?
ETA: Go ahead and select no indoor plumbing if it doesn't matter.
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No, I haven't bothered to show him. I know what he'll say. He'll tell me she's an a-hole and to just delete her texts. He's disgusted by her lack of parental responsibility most of the time, but he's used to her behavior. He was 20 years old when she was adopted, so to him, she's a perpetual child.
You have to tell him and your mil. They need to know if she's going off the deep end.
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Make sure you don't delete the text. If SIL gets worse with her behavior it could be affecting her child.
Exactly. If for some reason she has to be proved as an unfit mother to protect your niece you need this info.
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The problem with this is that I don't want anything to negatively impact her 8 yr. old daughter whom I frequently babysit. That girl is like a sister to my boys and like a daughter to me. I put up with a WHOLE heck of a lot from her mother because I love the girl so much.
Has your dh seen the texts?
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Yep, have him clean it himself. That's what I did for my floor urinator (not a word is it?).
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Call the police. This is considered sexual harassment.
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Let's just say I wouldn't put hormones to the test and have them spend extended time alone.
True, but he's 18 and she's almost 20. He's about to go off to college as well.
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There was a story on NPR about this a couple of months ago. Two recent studies show that typically the males in these relationships think there is/will be more to the relationship. This was my experience, as well.
You can read the NPR transcript here:
http://www.wbur.org/npr/155197529/can-men-and-women-be-friends
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That is really interesting. Thanks for linking that. I do think for a lot of guys they have some feelings for the girl, not always of course. I wonder if that is why his friend thinks they could be romantic. Besides the fact that he's missing or ignoring signals he needs to deflect.
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If she is tolerable in person then I could remain friends. I have a couple friends that are radically different than me on the spectrum of beliefs. We all hs and have similar family values and for the most part it works. We aren't super close as our kids have grown now.
I have a feeling that if we all wrote public blogs and we all read them then our relationships would end. Blogs are funny things that way.
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I think they are getting bigger. My kids are all taller than me, but then I was the short one in my family with sister and cousins near or even over 6 ft.
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Of course. In fact, I think it's a bit odd to think they could not. There are plenty of teens who are able to be genuine friends without any sex.
I know. The subject thread was really tongue-in-cheek. I'm just frustrated at the outcome. It's hard being a teenager and then throw in all those crazy, hurt feelings.
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I think they can. Most of my friends in high school were guys. There was never romantic feelings between us. generally speaking unless you were dating the guy you weren't 1-on-1 with him, it was a group of us, but there was plenty of times when it was me and 1 other girl with like 5 guys just hanging out, no big deal.
Now if I had been the kind of girl that was boy crazy etc it likely wouldn't have worked. Or the guys had been hound dogs it wouldn't have worked. I was dating someone else that was not in that group of friends so it wasn't like that with them kwim. Even now I find I get along better with guys, it is a personality thing. I can not play the social game needed to be friends with girls, I am too blunt usually.
As an older teen/young adult my best friend was a guy. He was my labour coach when I had ds8 and ds's middle name was from him. Nothing was ever romantic between us. We just had fun. Would ride his motorbike around, go on teh ghost tours. Just sit on the couch and talk for hours etc.
I think that would've been fun. Thanks goodness for male cousins. I did those things with them.
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Of course they can.
And of course a particular set of people could change from friends to romance. I mean, if that never happened, the whole genre of romantic comedy would have less than half the movies it does now! But that doesn't mean that happens every time.
That's true. But is really sucks for the one whose feeling change and of course can make it awkward or kill the friendship.
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As a general rule, I would say no. Simply from watching my brothers. 4 out of 5 of them were only able to have casual friendships with girls because they would always end up wanting to be more than just friends.
My one brother though always had more female friends than male friends and was always (and still is) a gentleman.
My best friend now has two very close male friends that she has had since middle school and they have always been just friends. All of them are married now too.
I think it completely depends on the teenagers personalities.
Maybe. I think some of it may be a numbers thing. My ds has a lot of female friends and so I guess in that case there are bound to be a few that like him.
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Yes, but I think it's easier when the friendship forms through common interests, especially ones where you have a lot in common but are also in competition at times-because that relationship transcends gender. I also have to say that the guy who I regularly found myself baring my soul to, in ways that I couldn't do with either many of my male friends OR female friends is now a happily Gay psychologist, and I'm betting he's darned good at it!
You helped him get his start! :lol:
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Most of my friends in HS (and beyond) were guys. And I was one of the guys. It was never an issue and I don't think (as in none of them even suggested) any had romantic feelings toward me. And, heck, we used to go midnight pool hopping / skinny dipping in the HS years.
I dated, but not within my buddy group, as did they.
My dd has a lot of guy friends and a couple she's like that didn't like her back. :crying: So I know it's possible, but that liking someone more thing stinks.
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Well, sometimes. If it does, and one person pursues the other, it is rare that the friendship survives. If it growns and there is no pursuit, it could continue, I suppose. But people, being the way they are, desire closure. Few of us will live with an attraction for a long time without getting it out there.
I agree. I do admit my son should have noticed some things but he's sometimes obtuse about that.
I like to tell my dd, "Oh, you like John?. He's hsed so he won't like girls or know what to do with them until he's at least 18 or 19." And that isn't an insult, some just develop those feelings later.
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My best friend was a guy. Funny thing is he had the same name as my husband! We were BEST friends. He used to come over and go swimming with me. I would randomly stop by his house and hang out with his mother. He joined the army and I was beside my self. It was like I lost a brother. We kept in touch and would write each other letters every single day.
That is so sweet. I think my ds has some girl friends like that, but he also has sister and he is very close to me so he likes females in general and feels very comfortable with them.
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Yes, I definitely think so. I had a lot of guy friends in high school who were truly just friends. In a few cases there was more than that on one side or the other, but I definitely had some very good male friends, and I was never tempted to take it further with them at all. Not even a little bit tempted. We just didn't have that type of relationship.
I can see how that would be really difficult for him to navigate though. If a girl is saying "we're just friends" and then jumps on you, that's a lot to process and handle.
Well, to be honest I could see this coming. It was getting obvious to me when she was posting pics of him on fb with her all the time. My ds likes to bury his head in the sand.
I'm sure she was sending even more signals when they were together. I think we will talk about that later today. How to head off those type of signals and not lead a girl on. I feel bad for the girl. Yeah, she pushed too far, but she's got to be hurting.
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Yes, but only if there is no attraction whatsoever.
How does that work though? Sometimes, obviously attraction grows over time.
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I always thought they could, but I'm starting to wonder. Even when I was a teen I realized that a lot of my guy friends liked me more than just a friend.
My ds has a lot of friends that are girls as well as guys. I thought if anyone could pull it off he could, but the other night one of his friends literally jumped on him and tried to make out with him, and the one girl in his posse (they are teens LOL) likes him desperately. He's had trouble with girls at work as well.
He's chosen not to date right now because he's about to go off to university, he's already had his heart crushed by 2 girls he liked and it hurt, and he strongly dislikes the constant break ups of all his friends that end up with the couple hating each other.
We adore the girl in his posse, but he considers her one of the guys. Yes, my ds is good looking, but he's also very sweet. He likes to have a lot of friends and have fun. Now I think he will be losing that one friend that is a girl because he is having to tell her that it's not gonna happen.
Can teenagers just be friends?
Seat up or down?
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I hope so because you and I are obviously raising a bunch of germ-ridden barbarians. I had no idea people took the seat issue so seriously. :lol: