Plucky
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My dogs are NOT higher maintenance! Other than that, ME!!! ME!!! Four dogs, four kids! :seeya:
Sometimes the dogs are easier. :D
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The sweetest thing is when the kids and dogs love on each other. It makes my heart swell.
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I have 4 fantastic felines. I fell in love with another cat recently. She was so sweet, but my family said no. :glare:
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This list and the 2nd list has helped me to remember that I need more discipline than my kids most of the time, so my #1 parenting tip to myself is to,
"Remember that I need more discipline than my kids most of the time." Wash, rinse, and repeat for the rest of my life.
Yes! As painful as it is being a good role model is still the most important. I fail daily in this. :tongue_smilie:
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True Blue, I like your list much better than the "Top Ten" one. :001_smile:
Thank you. I wish I knew then what I know now about my kids.
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That's a much better list!
I think so, but then it's MY list. LOL I think everyone should have their own.
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The worst mistake I made when I first became a mother was to follow someone else's idea of how to parent. My parents had horrible parenting skills and so I had to figure it out on my own. I am very, very blessed that I have good maternal instincts. I like to read about parenting as well and pick and choose advice.
My advice to myself would be:
1. Make sure my kids feel my love unconditionally.
2. Try to be consistent.
3. Apologize when I screw up.
4. Forgive them.
5. Forgive myself.
6. Don't allow them to hurt each other. I tell them no one is allowed to hurt my kids - not even another one of my kids.
7. Train, train, train and train some more.
8. One-on-one time with each is important.
9. I'm not their maid.
10. Dad & I love each other and sometimes it won't include you. We were a couple first.
11. My kids have free will and will mess up. Good parenting or homeschooling will not prevent that. Not everything will be my fault, but when it is I need to own up to it.
12. We all make mistakes. Forgive again.
13. I will forget things on this list or add and take away at anytime.
14. Laugh. Laugh the most when you are frustrated. Laugh at myself. Life is too short to get angry at everything.
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I'd just separate them. When mine were little and we had a school room I would put their names on the white board with 3 boxes. They had three chances and then lost a beloved privilege. It's so ps I know, but it worked.
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Our ds starts his first class in 40 minutes. Hard to watch, but happy to see him begin to push toward the goal!:001_smile:
How was his first day of school?
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Are you talking about me? ;) I hate my mistakes. I edit all of the time.
No, not you. I edit all the time, too. I still miss things. I saw a post I made the other day where I used there for their. Why??? I figure other intelligent people here do it, too.
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Nope, I go back and look at my own posts and am ashamed when I make a screw up. There was a post title recently with a horribly misspelled word in it. It really annoyed me but you have to let it go. I figure the OP might have had a bad day and can normally spell the word. :)
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I think I did something awful that I don't remember and Karma is visiting me. I have had a horrid morning AND yesterday!! Nothing is working out. Someone send me some of your sparkles and fairy dust.
I'm sorry. Some days and weeks are so stinking hard. :grouphug:
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We were sitting at the school table this morning, which happens to be in our sunroom. A bear cub ambled by in the woods outside the window. So, so cute!
Very cute. But where is momma bear? Yikes
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Greets me every morning by sitting and waiting to be acknowledged....then kisses and grunts.
So cute!
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My 1-year old giant puppy ran a stranger off. He came in our backyard uninvited. Yeah, it was the water delivery guy all confused. We don't get water delivered. He's never, ever going to make that mistake again. I love that dog. She keeps her people safe.
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I'm sorry. Hope you feel better soon!
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She needs to read up on hsing more. My dh let me hs the summer before kindy. I don't think he was sold on it until ds was in 6th grade. Don't get me wrong he was always supportive and just went along with what I recommended or did, but since then he praises me to the heavens, even though we've changed a lot since then.
I think hsing is awesome, but it's all about what is good for my kids. As long as it works I do it. The proof really is in the pudding. Everyone in my family approves now, of course some also think I am the exception to the rule.
Her dh may come around. I will be honest and say that a husband should trust the wife especially if she's the main caretaker. Too much micromanagement of mom really messes things up and vice versa.
Pray for her and her family. Pray they remain strong and loving that is the best solution. :)
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:iagree::iagree::iagree:100%.
Can I just add that I think loving and good parenting does increase good outcomes? It isn't a guarantee but I think it helps!
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I was really surprised. I think it's going to be okay. He can handle things himself. :D
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I went to a LLL meeting this morning. The most kids anyone had was two and the oldest of those kids was barely three. I felt like the moms were so idealistic. Their babies look like they might cry, so they cosleep and breastfeed and carry them in slings. They meet their child's every need. They use cloth diapers and practice baby led weaning. It's a great world. You feel like an awesome parent because you *know* you are doing everything for your baby.
Then, I came home. My three month old is screaming in the swing while my 2nd grader gets all of her math problems wrong because she is just filling in random answers while poking her brother with a pencil. My 5 year old throws the hugest fit ever because I ask him to eat a turkey and cheese sandwich for lunch and he HATES turkey and HATES cheese and HATES bread AND HATES that I won't just let him eat doritos for lunch. My 3 year old is busy pooping in her underwear while playing outside in the mud with a scarf a friend bought me OVERSEAS! My 7 and 5 year olds seem to have bad attitudes about most things in life and my 3 year old has destroyed my house....
I don't know. I just felt sorta depressed. Like, I remember thinking I was that awesome mom... and now my kids aren't the obedient, angelic, smart people I thought they would be. All the cloth diapers and breastmilk in the world didn't give my 7 year old a good attitude about math. Sleeping with my 5 year old for his first two years of life didn't make him obedient.
Maybe parenting is just harder than I thought it would be! Or, maybe it's just one of those days?
Sounds about right. I was rather idealistic in the beginning, too, maybe I still am in some ways. Being realistic, pragmatic, and flexible though is essential to surviving it all. :lol:
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I made a friend who was always so inspirational to me. She had wonderful ways of dealing with her 4-5 year old, very creative approaches to discipline that were gentle and respectful (she was a hardcore attachment parent). I heard lots of stories about projects they did together, and it sounded like she was raising an amazingly well adjusted kid. Then I spent a weekend with her family and met her darling child, who was honestly pretty miserable. I'm not saying her parenting caused him to be so dissatisfied with life, but he definitely wasn't any happier than children raised with my "conventional" parenting techniques. He whined, demanded, and tantrumed more than my own kid, and that's saying a lot.
I remember thinking about taking a parenting class at our old church by the youth leader and his wife. They sounded so knowledgeable! Just before I committed I ran into her at the grocery store. Her 8 year old yelled at her and hit her in front of me and the mom apologized to her dd and comforted her (no special needs either). I was a bit startled and I didn't take the class.
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Chalk us up as some more folks who don't know many people in real life who are paying their kids way through college. It just doesn't happen that often here. In our extended family in particular, you pay your own way or you don't go.
AND not going to college does NOT = truck driver. Dh and his brother went to tech/vocational schools after high school (working their way through, btw) and both have decent/good jobs. In fact, my dh who went to school to be a mechanic is doing very well in the company he started out as a grease monkey 20 years ago.
I think you'll find the view on college as an absolute need is about to shift drastically.
We will not be paying for our kids to go to college. They will have room and board if they choose to go to a CC or local college. They will be encouraged to work and save for their classes and to snag any scholarships that they can. That is all IF they choose to go.
I have a cousin that is a truck driver. He makes $120,000 a year and is home regularly with his family. It isn't all bad.
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I wanted more. Dh did not because of finances. It is a big strain on the sole breadwinner. We stopped having kids and now that I have 4 teens I am glad. We have extra kids here all the time so you can have kids without giving birth to them. I did mourn for a while though. I love babies but they don't stay little long enough.
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Honestly? I don't think it's worth stressing over.
I don't really have any ideas for you, other than the fact that the majority of parents do not pay for their kids to go to college (none I know, anyway, and they are all fine).
I highly doubt we will be able to help pay for our kids to go to college and I'm ok with that. It is nothing to be stressed about or feel bad about - it is, for us, a fact of life. It had never even crossed my mind to even try to. If we end up being able to help in one way or another, great. If not, oh well.
What stinks is that kids are punished based on their parents' income. I am working solely to help defray college costs for my ds. He will graduate with about $25,000 in debt at the most and we hope for him to come home and work it off but we will just have to see.
He will need to work as well. Most of his friends at his uni make excellent money as barristas so I'm hoping he gets in on that. When his sister starts school he needs to be self-sufficient. He'll be a senior by then though.
Yeah, it's scary. All my earnings go to education.
Shout out to the Cat Ladies!
in General Education Discussion Board
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Cats can sleep anywhere. :001_smile: