Plucky
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I agree. i also think we've got a few members on this board that are in polyamorous relationships who are quite happy with their lives. I cringed after reading some of the unsavory comparisons being tossed around here.
Eh, this is about my posts I'm sure. I am posting from a child that was subjected to such a relationship and saw a lot. Relationships affect kids. Just because adults are happy doesn't mean everything is hunky dory.
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Please keep in mind that there are people on these boards who have open relationships. This is not hypothesis - I could name individuals (but have no desire to interfere with anyone's privacy).
Equating open relationships with child molestation is exceptionally insulting to these people, who I know to be dedicated, loving parents who would never knowingly place their child in such a situation. Most people that I know who practice non-religiously-motivated/non-patriarchal polyamory tend to have very strong (if not mainstream) ethics and feelings about consent.
I'm sorry you had that experience, but this is an incredibly hurtful and potentially dangerous generalization.
I don't agree. I think it is something people need to consider when they enter that kind of lifestyle. My experiences I've shared are not the only ones I have seen.
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This I haven't heard of. Is this two wives and two husbands? How do they sort it all out? :confused: Makes my head spin. I agree, one husband is plenty for me!
It was new for me, too. It's 2 married couples joining together as 1. There was a young child involved as well.
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I think it would depend, Jennifer. If it's religiously motivated, yeah, odds are its an inequal relationship. If it's the type of relationship I've seen modeled by some friends where each person had a separate and equal relationship with each other and attraction to each other, then I don't think it's automatically a bad thing, or harmful for kids.
Being a little too open and anything goes though can reduce one's instincts. My father had an open marriage and both my sisters were molested. We also had dinner with a pedophile when we were kids and my stepmom knew about it.
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You know, it is crazy but I feel so much safer running in urban areas than rural. I have a favorite route downtown and favorite homeless people. One homeless man even calls me "Queen," so of course I have to wave and call him "Governor.":D then there is one woman who sleeps on front of a park I love, she always gets a couple of dollars from me...then my husband when he runs by. No homeless person has ever made me feel afraid. I have had a couple of moments with pick up trucks in rural area that scared the bejeebers out of me.
I found a dead homeless man once in my favorite park. I was on a long run and didn't carry my phone. It was very early in the morning but I found a couple walking and told them I needed them to call an ambulance and why. They said no. :001_huh: I told them that wasn't okay, so the man handed the phone to my sweaty self and when I dialed 911, he ended up talking to them because he had forgotten he had his Bluetooth on. The ambulance came, it looked like he'd had a heart attack. All of his homeless buddies came out from behind things, cried, told me his name was Dan. I left, ran a mile, came back and cried with them again. It was awful.
My long run was over, obviously so I ran the 3 miles back to the coffee shop to meet my husband, we always meet there. When I saw him, he was in an all out desperate sprint. He had run past the park because he knows I run through there and he checks on me, and saw the police tape. He was scared witless something had happened to me. I love him. I called my dad who was pastoring a church at the time and cried. He called a friend who preaches at the mission downtown and told him Dan had died and did he know him? They both cried. Dan touched a lot of people that day, I wish we could have found him sooner.
Thanks for allowing me to share that! It has been a while!
I think my point was that I feel safer urban, even though it isn't true and that normal looking old guys can be scary and sometimes won't let you use their phone!
Why would someone say no??? We were driving in downtown Tacoma with my dh's whole family in a big van. One man was beating another. This was back before cell phones were so common. I had to plead with my fil - a minister to pull over so we could call the police. :confused:
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Do you see them much? My step-sister had a quad marriage. Since we live in different states it didn't matter much. I know that she hurt a lot when the quad marriage and then her own marriage ended.
Having one husband is enough for me. Relationships are hard enough without making it more complicated by adding others, plus I have watched Sister Wives. :lol:
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I have a sil I don't get along with, also.
Then again, no one does. Her or bil. The majority of us ended up cutting all contact with them - I can't say it isn't nice, them not being at all the family functions. I know it sounds awful, but it is true...
Mine is a bil, but everyone in the family just tolerates it. He likes to be especially ignorant around my family as he feels insecure.
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The kids don't have dressers. We hang up most clothes & stick plastic drawers in the closets.
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Doesn't she bother the other women?
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It is less time in most cases. I also loved only going in every 6-8 weeks for adjustments. The visits became for frequent the closer I got to being retained for fine tuning. :) My total time in braces was 15 months.
Yes, few appts. My dd was supposed to have braces for 28-36 mos with traditional and it looks like she'll be out in 20 mos.
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Damon braces are fast. We love them. 18 months for a crooked overcrowded mouth here. Awesome.
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Looking good! I think you should wear the tiara everyday. Happy Birthday!
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That is the nicest thing someone has said to in a while!!
Thank you.
Like you I am also having a hard time getting started this year, for many reasons!!!
Perhaps after next week (surgery--which I am so grateful she is getting!!) we can really get going.
This is helping me: I really focus on the little successes and good times.
So we didn't get the whole day in... so we are a week behind in math: we are a week ahead in readers!!!!
Awww, :grouphug: Focusing on the positives and making progress is really important to hsing isn't it? Thanks for encouraging me. I need to look around for my gumption and put on my rose colored glasses.
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We had a great summer school session, though we normally do hunker down in the heat and study hard in the summer. That said, I missed summer this year. We normally don't do much 'summer' stuff anyway, but this year we didn't even get to the pool much. I feel so sad that we seemed to have missed summer. (I think this is partly because I also missed spring, dealing with an ill parent out-of-state.)
DS was in two week-long camps (chess and art) and a three-day basketball camp. He also took golf lessons at the crack of dawn :tongue_smilie: and continued on with music lessons.
Our library had a wonderful series of lectures on American history; we were able to attend five. I'm counting that period of history as 'done.' :D
We also attended our first Shakespeare in the Park production and enjoyed it so much. Can't wait to go to another this fall.
We got a lot covered academically - finished one math program and one art program and read a chapter of SOTW daily. DS has made a lot of progress in spelling this summer, but we are still just plugging along with writing. :tongue_smilie:We re-read Peter Pan this summer, as DS didn't remember reading it several years ago. I enjoyed it just as much the second time around.
Very impressive. You guys got a ton done. Can you get out this weekend and get in some quick summer time?
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We did ok . . . i mean, my plans are always very light. ds 16 did about 2/3 of what I had planned and ds 8 did about 1/3 of what i had planned. And i think we only made it to the pool 6 or 8 times . . . not worth the membership.
I broke my toe last week and already had a knee injury, so i'm struggling to get anything done since I cant stand or walk. we are supposed to start in 10 days but i'm not sure we will. (i take 2 weeks off between semesters to deep-clean and lesson-plan)
Yes, injuries really take it's toll. You guys did a lot though considering what you went through. :001_smile:
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I did terrible.
I suffered 6 weeks of severe depression... I had a hard time getting out of bed, more else teaching. My mother broke her arm and moved in with us for a while, then children have been sick for the last two weeks and now my daughter will have surgery next week. **sigh**
I would say that we are still ahead of the pack, but we should have lapped them by now.
I'm sorry. You had a rough time of it. It's probably better you didn't get more done. You are normally wonderwoman. :grouphug:
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We did what I call a 'Writing Workshop' this summer, and it went very well! Yippee!! We used a combination of IEW's SWI-B and WWS (the first 7 weeks), and I am very happy with what we got accomplished. We were weak on writing, but I now feel we can build on what we learned as we head into the fall (this was done in between all the summer camps that we had going on around here, as well)!
Brenda
Wow, that is the kind of thing I used to accomplish when the kids were little during summer. Good for you!
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Same as you. Way too much going on. I dreaded starting again, but it's actually gone really well. Getting back into a predictable routine was good for all of us. Good luck!
That is good to hear. I need to focus on the positive. :D
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We usually are really good about accomplishing goals. We hs lite in the summer, but this summer was a bust school-wise. So many activities, camps, and stuff going on, plus a family visit.
School starts in the next couple weeks and I don't want to start. Very unusual for me.
How did you do?
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Pug - dh washes her when he feels like it. It's been over a year.
Husky mix - 1x this year. She got into the mud.
My dh likes to complain that the dogs need more baths because they smell like dogs and not flowers. He's a cat person.
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Is that what we're basing it on? HIV rates in populations that don't circumcise? What were those HIV rates in European countries where pretty much no one is circumcised again?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_HIV/AIDS_adult_prevalence_rate
Let's see....United States: .6
Finland: .03
hmm......
I wonder what the rate is for botched circumcisions? My first-born had an issue with his and the dr. admitted to making a mistake.
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According to this article it is TX: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2011/02/09/educating-children-evolution-home-schooling/
I couldn't find where they got that information though.
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Wait, maybe UT. They have the most kids in UT don't they?
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I don't know, but WA has a ton of hsers. It's not uncommon here at all.
Trying to pick my jaw up off the ground: brother's announcement
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Yeah, something not right is going on there. Is the sil beaten down? Desperate? Very weird.