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  1. My Chinese friends in college were all hyper concerned with weight and BMI. They said there was a lot of pressure to remain at a BMI that would be considered underweight by US standards. We were in a nutrition class and discussed it quite a bit. I think it was somewhat normal for their culture.

     

    I hope so. I looked it up and it appears that ultra skinny is important in their culture.

  2. i was naturally 5'6" and 104lbs when i go pregnant with my daughter. I did not exercises a lot or watch what I ate. At the time I soo used the SAD diet but was "monitored" by friends and family that thought I was starving myself or making myself sick. I wasnt.

     

    In general do you think she has a healthy self image or is she trying to keep fit for what ever sport she plays at home? Or is she trying to be an American model? Is she eating enough that you see?

     

    I don't know. I think she's worried about gaining weight in America.

  3. You may need to take him to an adhd specialist. My pediatrician is a specialist but doesn't normally see homeschoolers. She saw us because we've been with her for years and years.

     

    To be honest the first dx we received was from a psychologist. I was firmly in the "I don't believe in adhd." camp. Sigh.

     

    Even now I will be bringing my dd to a pediatric psychiatrist soon. Praying you get a good provider and the help you guys need. Sometimes there is a quick fix, sometimes not. Hang in there.

  4. I love her. She's also an ex-ps teacher and ex-school counselor and is pro-homeschooling. I guess she's seen enough kids that need to be removed from their school or change schools.

     

    I really feel good about this, and also realized I've become too wimpy in my parenting. Having special needs/sensitive kids has made me probably too empathetic and I have to toughen up a bit with them. I've been an enabler.

     

    Tonight I showed my backbone to 15dd and she acted like she was relieved. Where oh where did I go wrong? I wasn't always such a parenting wimp. Oh, well nowhere left to go but up now. :D

  5. My dh works a ton. He does the house maintenance, car maintenance, some yardwork because he is a perfectionist with that, and he loves to cook. He does most of this on the weekends.

     

    At 7 & 10 my kids wiped down bathrooms, swept, cleaned their rooms, vacuumed, dusted, etc. Yeah it wasn't always to my satisfaction. I did and do have to check.

     

    We lead very busy lives here and I do a lot of running kids around. I wonder if your standards are too high for yourself and your home?

  6. Back in the day when I went to college, we had to parcel out phone calls (long distance calls were expensive and had to be made after 11 pm to be reasonable) and so we had only occasional phone calls and even more occasional letters to and from our parents. I think today's technology raises expectations of constant contact, but perhaps it shouldn't.

     

    Our 2nd son is like yours. The first was more in touch. Second son still loves us, but it's hard to pour your life into a person knowing that the end game is so that one day they can leave and (eventually) cleave. Someone, probably on this board, said something that I've always remembered: that the thing that would be harder than them leaving would be if they weren't able to--then you'd be grieving that they couldn't.

     

    He's an adult man now. Follow your dh's lead. He'll come back around. I think it's okay to text occasionally and "demand" an answer, as a PP said, "Don't make me come over there!" But only every couple weeks. It's okay to bribe them with food, too. :)

     

    I was almost ready to text that grandma wanted to know if he needed money just to see if I heard back from him. :lol:

  7. My son is also neglecting me a bit. I sent him a text yesterday, and told him to call me or I was showing up there. :001_smile:

     

    He is, in his defense, very busy. Maybe your son is, too?

     

    He called me when he got the above text. I let him know that I expected a call at least every few days. He said he was sorry, and he could do that.

     

    They are at an age where they are a bit self-absorbed. I try not to take it personally. Maybe your son is like mine, and just needs to be reminded that you need to hear from him?

     

    Now I feel even worse. He just texted me back saying he was sorry. He's been at a concert all day I guess. :confused:

  8. I helped my own dh with this. We were doing a family tree, and I wanted to clarify the year of his oldest brother's birth. He said 1955. I asked again to make sure. He said it definitely was '55. No doubts. I said, "Okay, but this marriage certificate says your parents were married July 25, 1954. So you are telling me your oldest brother was born the following January, right?"

     

    He thought for a moment (doing the mental math) and was flabbergasted. No one had ever mentioned it, thought of it, or questioned it in all of his (up to that point) 40 years.

     

     

    That makes me laugh so hard. I love it. Babies are a blessing. Some come earlier than others. ;)

     

    I was the first in my family to get pregnant when I was married. Stupid infertility issues.

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