Plucky
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When oldest went to college we all took him - including his three younger siblings. The youngest clearly made an impression at the university when he set the alarm off by going out the emergency only door:001_smile:. But, then oldest just expected that we'd all go - it helped, esp the youngest who was 3, to see where big bro was going to be staying.
I would ask if he wants them all to come. If it's not what he wants then a party the night before as a send off.
Of course in our family we do things like this together - we also went to the university each year for at least one football game, etc.
Yeah, I will ask him. I think I came up with a better idea though. His youngest sister is having a hard time with it and I was thinking he could give her a stuffed animal to remind him of her - his school mascot. I think that would make her feel better. :D
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Have a party the night before and tell the kids to deal.
That was the original plan, but I have a very sensitive 12dd who is not taking ds's leaving very well and there is plenty of time. Plus, I like to make memories.
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I was reading that younger siblings feel sad and want to see their sib off. One article I read recommended bringing the siblings but I think that would be too intrusive for ds as he has 3. This is more about him. So what can we do for the siblings left behind?
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I want to try the cupcake vodka and so does my avatar apparently!
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I say, treat him like you would ER. When he tells you to kick him out, say, "We're happy to have you until 11 tomorrow morning but then we have stuff planned." It doesn't matter if what you have planned is cleaning the house and going shopping.
Yep, I walk around asking kids when they are going home or getting picked up. They will move in with us if I let them. :lol:
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I know but it's never gonna happen because there is no one-fits-all method of learning. I pick and choose items from different providers and then add or cut lessons depending on our need. I do try to keep the planning to a minimum and have most things open and go. If the learning tool is too hard for me to use or takes too much time I scrap it. I also outsource subjects.
I am a planner though and have had all my stuff on the shelves for quite a while and we won't start new stuff til Sept. Avoid the curriculum boards like the plague unless you are specifically looking for a change. Don't agonize about the choices so much. There are so many good choices out there finding the absolute best isn't going to make a huge difference and everything new looks better. :)
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Maybe it means resistance isn't always futile. You ought to be captain of the Enterprise. :P
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Maybe it means there is always going to be at least one oddball. :D
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Hmm, I wonder what it says about me that I don't have any of those items or make my own workbooks. I'm of the KISS method in just about everything anymore.
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I don't think so. I think like most things motivation has to come from within and most homeschoolers I know want to give their kids a good education, an individualized education even. HS parents that don't care are probably rotten parents anyway and can always get around regulations. There is nothing new about that.
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Yes, but so what.
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My sister told me just now that the sick kid and parents stayed for several more hours for the bonfire later that evening (kid threw up at about 3:30pm) and dancing on the deck. Apparently the sick kid's mom was moaning about having to get up for work the next day but said it would be okay, she'd just drink extra coffee to make up for the lack of sleep!!!!
Aww, don't be that way. She was having fun! So what if her kids was green with nausea. If momma ain't happy no one is. :lol:
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But if you feel that putting your small child at risk with unsupervised older children who do not have experience babysitting smaller children in order for them to learn the ropes, that is your choice. :auto:
I think Bean gets it now. :lol:
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What qualifies us for being crazy cat ladies?
We've got ten, one that's a new kitten and not outside unless supervised, two young females that must be in at night, one allowed in whenever, one allowed in for a while, three that I try to keep out all the time and one semi wild barn cat. A really wild tom that I see from time to time.
Six of these have just shown up. Two we rescued. One we brought home on purpose and one was born here. All females are fixed and most of the males.
I worry all the time about smells, try hard to keep the box clean, yada, yada.
Then I watch Animal Hoarders and panic. I try to justify the numbers by keeping them outside and living on a farm.
So where is the line?
Sorry, you are a crazy cat lady. I am, too. I have 4 and want another.:lol:
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I did. My parents were permissive hippies. Do what I want and feel like but wait not that! LOL
My dh was a preacher's kid. Oh, yes, he disappointed them. He was and is the black sheep.
Okay, my mom still wishes I went the career woman route but she admires my parenting skills - shocking.
Dh's parent are concerned about our salvation since we changed denominations. Oh, the horror.
But we are doing alright and have great kids. Oldest is going away to college soon. I think he's perfect but he's not and I don't want to share the ways he's disappointed us. My dh has actually cried and so has ds. But guess what? Kids are going to make mistakes. That is a given. I don't expect perfection. We love our kids unconditionally. And so some will make bigger mistakes than others. Homeschooling is not a magic formula.
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I don't have any great ideas for you, but you only have 2 kids so that cuts down on the wear and tear. I know that furniture takes a huge beating at my house. Any homeschool home gets a ton of wear and tear on the furniture. A few years ago I bought 2 beige couches for about 600 each with the thought that they may not last a long time. I scotchguarded the snot out of them. My kids still sit on the arms and roll or climb over the backs of them even though I scold. So far so good. Look around, read reviews. Sometimes more money is better but sometimes it isn't. My thought is that I would like them to last at least 5 years. I think I may get my money's worth. We shall see.
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:lol: I LOVE superhero movies.
I actually really, really hate chick flicks. I don't know when I saw one last. But we hit every superhero movie that comes out - especially the Marvel ones. Thor 2 is scheduled to come out on my 31st birthday. :D
I'm not into chick flicks, but I am picky about movies. The last movie I saw in the theater was The Help. I am such a foreign film/documentary girl and I watch it by myself at home because no one else is interested and that is okay. :001_smile:
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The more important question is does dad take the age appropriate kids to action adventure/super hero movies that make mom's eyeballs bleed? Please, please, leave me home for those. I've seen enough superhero/vampire flicks to last me a lifetime.
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My kids are used to entertaining little ones and I would have mentioned it to them but every family is different. Did your dh ask if one of the kids could play with her as he was busy? Kids that age can be pretty self-centered. They just don't think sometimes. Why couldn't your dd watch tv with the 12-year old and play dolls beside her?
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Things I told/ showed my DS in the weeks before I took him to Uni this year.
How to iron a shirt
importance of eating veggies WITH meat
first aid kit
reviewed discussion about s3xual transmitted diseases and even though we have a view it is best to wait. I took him to the supermarket and showed him where the condoms are and how easy they are to buy.
helped him change his bank account from a children's one to an adult one
told him he can call me any time over any problem day or night.
He already knew how to cook and how to do laundry.
Yes, call me anytime day or night. I'm going to ask him to text me at night to check in for a while. Yes, mom is silly but humor me, son.
Ack, condoms. We are pretty open about things here but ...
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They should know when to take someone to the hospital.
I will have ds look the site over. I know from experience that I've never had to take anyone to the hospital or call 911 for alcohol poisoning and I'm sad to say my friends and I could drink most under the table. :tongue_smilie:
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Lots of great advice here.
I would send along a small tool kit. I had one and was the most popular person in our dorm for a while. Great for adjusting the lofts, tightening bolts, putting things together, hanging up stuff, etc.
Carry an emergency $20 that is NOT to be spent unless it is an EMERGENCY. This can be used for cab fare, emergency gas, etc. Seriously, I carried one for years and never spent it. If it DO spend it, replace it immediately. Knowing you have a bit of cash on you at all times gives you options.
How to manage money and set a budget. I had $5/week for "fun" money at college. Granted it was 20 years ago but that was my budget. That was a once a week take out food or fast food, maybe a snack or 2, etc. There are so many places to spend money at college--just $1 or 2 here, another $5-7 there, etc. and soon the money is gone.
Know how to use a credit/debit card wisely. Credit card companies love to target college students with great offers if you get their card.......and of course, rack up large bills each month.
I think we will discuss money, but that is something I feel he has a grip on. He hasn't been too indulged moneywise. He has worked for the last 2 years and knows how hard it is to earn a buck. A small tool kit is a good idea. I would think though that other guys will show up with it. I may wait until after he's arrived. I can always send it later.
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REPEAT FREQUENTLY. Like at the beginning and end of every semester. The longer he's in college, the more relaxed and confident he's going to feel about himself, which is both good and bad. Keep having the conversation.
Beg him to sleep. Lack of sleep is so dangerous and makes you so sick and unable to work properly. College kids don't care and they don't listen, but make that another one of your mommy things to preach about. :)
On a related note, get him two alarm clocks: One that can be right next to him for "snooze...snooze...snooze" and one that he can put across the room when he really has to get up and go to class for that midterm, etc.
Teach him how to steam frozen veggies in a bag. Will he be on a meal plan? Tell him to stockpile snacks from the dining hall so he doesn't waste his money buying snacks between meals and late at night
Get him a coffee maker (as suggested upthread).
Oh, and take him drinking this summer. Or start serving beer at your house. Truly. So many good, well-behaved kids show up at college completely unaware of what alcohol does to them in what amounts, and quickly find themselves horribly ill, passed out and otherwise vulnerable. The excitement and the peer pressure of the first weeks/year of school have made of a fool of many freshman who by all rights should know better. He might well have this knowledge already, but on the off chance he doesn't, help him learn what happens when he drinks a cheap beer (or six) out of a red Solo cup.
He's tasted beer and wine as we drink occasionally. I'm not very comfortable drinking with my ds. It's legal to serve your own kid in your own home but it's just not something I'm comfortable with. I feel like I'd be saying, "Go forth, son, and enjoy beer pong." Not gonna happen. :lol:
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Does he know what access he has to public transportation? My son just finished his first year at a university. He worked part time at a mall several miles away. He had a wreck on his way to work one afternoon and it was going to take a couple of weeks to get it fixed. I drove there to get e rental car for him and was informed that he couldn't drive it until he turns 21. We passed a bus stop on our way back to the campus and the rest is history. :D During orientation they had given every student their very own bus pass. He was able to get on a bus right across from his dorm and was deposited at the door of the mall! For free! After that he says he and his friends started using the buses as their sober ride home. They got to know the late night bus drivers, Otis is their favorite, and no one drinks and drives. I am a public transportation fan for life. :D
He's in a big city so he will be learning all about public transportation. He will figure it out. I'm wanting him to take the bus home occasionally, too. It is very affordable. I'm guessing he'll be learning with a lot of other guys. He's very social and finds friends everywhere so I know he'll be fine.
Taking son to uni in a month. Question:
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If he doesn't want them to come I think I will have him skype and show his room and stuff. They would get a kick out of it.