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I'm full time outside the home and do my own schooling as well as my kids'.

Yep yep....so true.

There seems to be a few threads lately about this topic and I am very curious about the effects of divorce. Does divorce offer real comfort and happiness or does life just get worst, much worst. That all depends on the situation. I'm thinking dealing with an ex husband, kids, holidays, and future new spouses would just be a complete and total nightmare. Depends on the parents. If you have survived a divorce, would you do it again? I didn't have a choice, he chose to leave us. Otherwise I never would have. Do you think it's better than staying in an unhappy marriage? Yep, he did all of us a favor. A family member of mine is very close to this point. I just don't know what to say to her anymore. I just can't imagine divorce making anything better. Am I right or wrong? And why? There is no physical abuse. There are anger issues, there has been addiction (p*rn) issues, and seems to be emotional manipulation on different levels. But, the kids love him and he is a good provider. He's just not necessarily a nice person or easy person to live with. I guess the easiest way to describe him would be selfish. Everything is about his personal happiness and he doesn't seem to understand what her life is like or care. He does nothing around the house, carrying kids here or there, errands, schooling - nothing. He provides the paycheck. He doesn't make himself available on any level. It sounds like she would be so much better off without him on all levels. So, she has no formal education. This does not matter, I had pretty much nothing but a hs diploma but I am now putting myself through school and working full time. What do you think? It seems to me she would be foolish to pursue a divorce. It sounds like she is better off without him like I said. If he is not willing to go to counseling and willing to work on his marriage, what is the point of being in it? One person alone does not make a marriage, it take's two. I just do not know what to say. Offer her support and don't offer anything unless she asks. She needs support right now to come to the decision that is best for her.Any thoughts about what divorce is REALLY like? Does it really offer peace or do you trade one set of problems for another? Yes and no. It just depends on the people involved. It can be so miserable and heartbreaking. My ex chose to move to another state and very rarely sees his children and it hurts my son very very much. He has no job, lives in an area with few job opportunities, and as far as I know he is not trying to go back to school. His parents live there though. I am better off without him in my life, however my son deserves a father who will be a real father. I cannot control his actions however. If two people are willing to be civil to friendly, not talk badly about the other parent or stepparents to the children, not fight in front of the children, and share parenting, then this can be the best of a bad situation. In my situation, I can educate and parent my children as I see fit, I can finally go back to school, and I can cook and clean without someone constantly criticizing me. I don't advocate divorce at all, especially with children involved. I believe parents should constantly work on their marriage and don't allow things to turn bad. Children deserve two parents who love each other. Two people in a bad marriage is not healthy for anyone. children need to be shown what a good marriage looks like, otherwise they come away with ugly views of marriage. A former friend of mine's parents are two people who should NOT be together. I watched him degrade and tear down his wife, and his wife nag and retaliate. It gave the kids such a horrible view of marriage and a very bad example on how they should treat their spouses. If one is willing to go to counseling and work on themselves, then it's worth it. If not, they are better off apart. In the end, it all is up to the person. They must bear the burden of their decision either way, and a friend needs to be supportive as much as they can. Going or staying is a VERY hard decision.

Oregon trail won't work brandnew on mine either....they need to update the game! So frustrating!

What's working now...Queen's Language Lessons Vol 1 Math Lessons for a Living Education #1.Queen's Printing with pictures Primer and A work well. AO Year 0 readings are awesome. That is pretty much it. BFSU K-2 is too much...and I find it geared more towards a co-op. History is unit studies....it varies in intensity and time...this kind of works and kind of does not. I'm leaning away from K12 now after reading about how the math is bad. I don't need another math issue. I wouldn't mind Calvert....I can opt out of their math and use the RS kit I bought used. I'm just afraid of the expense and that my son might be bored....I don't know if he will be or not and I never know unless I try. I know Calvert has money back for 30 days but still.... SCM is a good idea....both them and AO are fairly easy but I'm just not sure if the readings are enough for history...which is why I threw in RHO....but combining that plus a hands on science might be too much. I think looking at the SCM book you mentioned may help. I just need to make up my mind and stick with it....boxed may be easier for me but is it good for him? I wish I knew my child better.

FIAR can be good but your kids may be beyond that. Maybe beyond FIAR? Language Lessons is really good too but again vols one and two may be too easy for them.

Jumpstart is good...Ooka Island could work for LA...homeschool buyers co-op has a co-op going right now. Might be K-2? Dreambox is K-2 is excellent.....I can't say enough good things about it. Ko's Journey is really good math for older ones...HSBC might have that one still too.

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May I ask why? I'm thinking of using NOEO next year and wondering if this could work for us...:banghead: This is my other problem....if I can't make up my mind I'm tempted to combine some lol!

I guess I am a mash too for now. I lean mostly towards CM but I throw in a lot of recommendations from WTM, we do unit studies, some computer games, even some workbooks, like from Spectrum, at times.

I wish they released their materials in grade order...2nd to whatever...and had materials for younger than grade 2 planned. My son would LOVE this but he isn't going to be in a 3rd grade level anytime soon. I'D. consider using it as a stand alone perhaps if they had a kinder-1 level

I'm at that point for science...and i was for other things. At one time for LA I was using. 4 diff things...phonics, a basic workbook, a specialty workbook, and BOB books. Oh yeah and Reading Eggs. Gah! I'm new, thats my excuse. Ditched the phonics, since it was making my son miserable, finished basic workbook and didn't replace it, put aside BOB books to be maybe added next year, kept RE and the specialty workbook. I was using CLP and found it was so blasted annoying that I supplemented with Usborne books of varying topics. I switched to BFSU K -2 and find I'm doing the same thing....its geared more for a co -op or multiple kids and I'm burnt out on finding books and supplies constantly.

We mostly do Ambleside Online and I love it. We are in Year 0 (kinder year mostly) and I love the flexibility I have. I threw in other stuff.....some has worked but we've thrown out one science program, two phonics programs, and a math program. :eek: If I keep doing what I'm doing, next year we will do Year 1, with Queen LL, LLATL Blue, RS Level A and LOF Apples/Butterflies, something science that has kits and is open and go, RHO or only AO readings with Queen Living History Readers, Queen's Printing With Pictures, and maybe Spanish and Harmony Art Mom's music and art curriculum (or just composer/picture study from SCM...if we do it at all), Nature study, plus a read-aloud from AO. Plus some small things for the then pre-k kiddo. Buuuut I keep wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. I am having a hard time constantly feeling like I have to gather supplies for science and history studies. I am thinking of sticking both into Calvert (minus the math). Just have everything done for me...open and go. But then I lose the fun (yes there is some fun!) of learning about stuff my son finds an interest in. Plus some materials may be a poor fit for him. Also looking at K12 through the state. It is stricter than Calvert (shorter time to get things done), eventually we'd be subjected to standardized testing, having to use their stuff which may be a poor fit for my son. I also work full time 3.5 days a week. K12 would be difficult with this on my 12 hr days. I just need some brain picking....stuff thrown out there to help me make up my mind. Ithink there are plusses and drawbacks to all options. I just need perspectives, opinions, something to clear this clutter out of my head so I can stop waffling back and forth.

300 some. I can't find it on the website but I did somethere where the pricing was emailed to me. Someone else might have it on hand.

We're using those too...for my kinder boy. He loves them..and I think DB is the greatest thing since chocolate.

Ambleside isn't computer based, its literature based. Some resources can be found in ebook form but that's it. keystone homeschool coalition has compass Odyssey, which is really good. Its the program behind T4L but it's much better as a full program.

I want to get my ds (in kindergarten) some games to help him get very basic concepts down. He loves loves games. I'm looking at http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00004TDLD/ref=ox_sc_act_title_3?ie=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000E0DDZA/ref=ox_sc_act_title_2?ie=UTF8&m=A1TCCTWJEEAWK7 and http://www.mugginsmath.com/store.asp Jelly Beans and Knock-Out! Has anyone used any of these? What do you think of them?

This was my situation too, and then it backfired on me when ds just didn't do well with Singapore at all. Now I throw out all sorts of different curriculum with goofy names lol. It is true that MUS does not do well for standardized testing. On the other hand, standardized testing covers all different areas, including areas that kids haven't learned yet. MUS does it in a more logical succession and the kids will eventually get to know all areas covered, just not on the same scope and sequence the tests do. If you wanted to do MUS, you could easily supplement with extra practice on areas that will be on the test...with worksheets, etc.

I am needing a new printer and I'll be printing out a lot of stuff. What is a good printer that has reasonably priced ink refills that also won't conk out on me quickly?

Thank you SO VERY MUCH! I would be excited to use these....as the lesson guidelines from the site just...I only have 3.5 days a week to homeschool...I don't have the time or the energy to make my own stuff up lol. 26.2mom, I was considering Rosetta Stone....but I feared that it would be too much for my 3 yo..of course I don't except a lot for her age except exposure but you said that your 7yo is starting level 2? That gives me some confidence that maybe my kids could do it... Looking into that speedy spanish primer too...that's a good buy....

That's too bad that Muzzy does not teach proper grammar...bleh. I will look into Salsa for sure, thanks for the recommendation!

My son will be in first grade later this year and has expressed that he would like to try and learn Spanish. Is there a program out there that would be good for a 6 year old....and if I could throw in the 3 year old preschooler that would help a lot too. Just something she could sit in with us on for a few mins and learn. Muzzy caught my attention but I've heard a lot of negative reviews about those. The company offers a trial for 30 days at 10.95 or so...but I'd like to see if there is something else out there.

Phonics Pathways, All About Reading, or a free download from Tanglewood Education http://tanglewoodeducation.com/grade1.htm