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  1. Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates. Letters from a Birmingham Jail, MLK The House on Mango Street, not explicitly about social justice, but important nonetheless.
  2. We go and participate with a clear understanding of what to watch for, and a plan of where to meet should things go badly. Most protests are not riots, but that is boring so no one talks about them on the news.
  3. There is also a little bit of trust in the DA and courts to actually take these things seriously after the conviction and sentencing of Daniel Holtzclaw who raped many women while on duty and the Reserve Sheriff's Deputy Bob Gates. There are serious issues with law enforcement, arrest rates and incredibly harsh sentencing of women for relatively minor crimes. But the DAs have shown a willingness to hold officers accountable to at least some degree. Although, I can't help but wonder how being a woman in Oklahoma will ultimately affect the outcome vs a male officer.
  4. In the case of the Tulsa shooting of Terrance Crutcher it became very clear the police were not telling the truth about him reaching inside the vehicle.The open dialogue between the DA, family and community is going a long way to keep the poeace. She was also charged with 1st degree manslaughter this afternoon.
  5. I have downloaded the chapters and it looks great, I just wanted some personal experiences before spending even more money on writing. I'm considering adding in the examples from Writing with a Thesis for each essay type. About how long do you spend working on the assignments on a typical day/week?
  6. I am going back and forth between LAoW, Brave writer Help for High School and The Power in Your Hands for this year. This is for 9th grade, with my somewhat reluctant writer. We are using BYL 9th which is already packed full. Open and go would be so nice!! BW is lovely, but we did the first module at the end of last year and while I love it, the format makes it very difficult for DS to pick out assignment instructions from the rest of the text. LAoW is also great but has major format issues. The Power in Your Hands looks like it would be easy to read, has clear instructions and reasonable lesson lengths. It also covers many types of essays. Has anyone used it and want to give me first hand experience? Is there much religious content and if so, would it be easy to work around? How long did it take your child to complete, on average?
  7. I actually should have been more clear in that I was looking for their wash outs. Perfectly wonderful dogs without the necessary drive to actually work all day or win competitions. Labs in general can be crazy pants, especially for the first few years! I would never have chosen a lab if this one hadn't literally appeared in our yard as a 5 month old pup. He is still busy at almost 2, but a good compliment to our HeelerXHusky ( also busy, but with some attitude) and they do a good job wearing each other out.
  8. A GSD was going to be my next dog, until our lab wandered up and stayed last year. I was talking to SAR and working herding GSD Breeders that use imported stock and care about function and temperament above arbitrary form. Even those involved in French ring or schutzhund have tons of physically healthy and mentally sound dogs perfect for pet homes. ETA: this applies to many other breeds as well, go to the hunters doing trials for solid Labradors, working ranches for Border Collies or Heelers, SAR or hunting competitors for Hounds.
  9. Ammonia build up and improperly cold water are a problem for any tropical fish, even those able to breathe air from the surface. They do not live their entire lives in tiny mud puddles, that is seasonal and not ideal. Small filters are incredibly cheap to both buy and run.
  10. Side note: the filtration in fish tanks is not really for cleaning the water in a conventional way. The filter media grows and maintains a bacterial colony that removes ammonia from the water. Constant water changes are needed without one unless you have a very heavily planted tank that was well established prior to adding fish. Even bettas deserve at least a gallon or more. But putting them in 3-5 gallons really makes dramatic changes in their activity levels and life span. 3-5 gallon full setups can be bought for 10-30 dollars brand new, even less on Craigslist.
  11. Very strong overnight cold brew concentrate, mixed 50/50 with vanilla almond milk and some mexican vanilla extract and brown sugar. Pour over ice!
  12. How do you keep fish without a basic filter or even air pump? Even Bettas need filtration and would be much better off for no more than the cost of running a lamp. [/quote name=Arcadia" post="7101109" timestamp="1468376306] I was thinking of getting a bearded dragon. The cost of food and the electric bill for heating makes me think twice. We have fishes without air pump or filter so only the cost of fish food which is okay. Water is already included in our HOA payment.
  13. The working dog community is much more likely to be sane when it comes to dog ownership. We have three dogs, two of whom literally just wandered into our lives and stayed. They eat quality but not top of the line food, get basic vet care and medicine, but no drastic measures like chemo. I order heartworm medicine from Australia, right now I am splitting a large dose of flea meds between the two smaller ones. Their leashes come from Walmart or the dollar store or just tend to accumulate. Our couches serve as dog beds way more than their actual beds. We train them and have very clear rules, we have to with 3 big ones in the house, but never with fear or pain. This is the norm of dog ownership with nearly everyone I know. They are safe and unconditionally loved and all the happier for being treated like dogs instead of fragile status symbols. My mom has a young pup, doggy day care has been a very wise choice for them even though she is retired. He's full of energy and opinions and she is an inexperienced owner recovering total knee replacement.
  14. We have to do tight boxer brief type underwear under basketball shorts. I've never found a swimsuit he would happily wear.
  15. And the sheer nervousness that would result from the paddle would cause many people, adults included to fidget even more. And here's my issue. What if my husband stood in the kitchen brandishing a weapon as a threat of punishment while I cooked dinner? Maybe I was prone to burning it, or clumsy and had cut myself, or he just didn't like what I made. We would immediately recognize this as abuse. But a helpless child with no power to leave, or require counseling, or defend themselves and it somehow becomes godly parenting.
  16. Exactly! And because I rarely just took stuff from him, when I did have to for safety reasons, he was much more willing to cooperate.
  17. I keep thinking about how I teach puppies and dogs to willingly hand over whatever they have. I make a game of it, we trade for other toys or a treat, there is no loss of trust or battle involved. And I realized I played the same game with my son when he was little. We would hand things back and forth when it wasn't emoitionalky charged, or I would offer something of higher value. If he was so wound up over an object I would have assumed it was nap time, or he needed food.
  18. Part of the reason DARE and other similar campaigns failed is that they treated all drugs equally, it also failed to address the underlying causes of addiction. So at our house conversations about Pot center strongly on the need to protect a developing brain, to avoid a known anxiety trigger and not get in trouble and lose access to college funding. But also that pot is less dangerous than alcohol, especially considering family history and once you are grown it will probably be legal and moderate responsible use is not a big deal. No worse than a glass of wine at dinner. For something like mushrooms or LSD we talk about there being legitimate therapeutic uses, but not only do they carry HUGE legal penalties you never really know what you are getting and its hugely dangerous to take unknown chemicals. We talk about and model safe use of pain medicines, and the dangers of dependency many face after an injury or surgery. Some drugs are flat out bad! Don't do them, and if you do, please come to us for immediate non judgemental help. Meth, Heroin, Coke/Crack.
  19. We absolutely watch these with our teen. But also approach drug and alcohol discussions from a harm reduction point of view vs. Strict abstinence from all substances. One of my soapbox rants is people who claim ADHD meds are the same as meth. Ugh, no!
  20. I am just going to leave this right here. Not because it has direct connections to whomever wrote this article in the OP, but because they made a choice to explicitly point out that some think the sentence was too harsh, twice. There is a prevailing mindset, not only in the public, but within both (some of) the media and the criminal justice system that these women are at fault, mostly just for being women. Also because, these women were in drug court or the jail system, and it closely mirrors another recent oklahoma case of an officer targeting and raping poor black women who had nearly no chance of being believed until an older woman came forward. Also lets not forget that underage prostitutes are often arrested and sent to juvenile detention instead of being treated as the absolute victims of sex trafficking and rape that they are. http://www.cbsnews.com/news/ex-sheriff-sentenced-in-sex-abuse-scandal/ Edited to add: http://bigstory.ap.org/article/fd1d4d05e561462a85abe50e7eaed4ec/ap-hundreds-officers-lose-licenses-over-sex-misconduct Pardon me if I completely disregard what some random unverified "officer" has to say on the matter.
  21. But isn't porn just one more example of women as object and commodity. Same as its always been? Although now with instant access to view and with an extra edge of harmful and exploitative?
  22. I think it is the boys will be boys mentality combined with constant over objectification and sexualization of girls and women. Combine that with patriarchal ideas that girls are responsible for the boys behavior (dress codes for example) and easy access to very degrading porn and you have a powder keg of women as less than human. The way we respond differently to boys vs girls starts in the womb, with pregnant mothers to boy eating more calories. http://www.medicaldaily.com/gender-stereotypes-baby-cries-parental-behavior-383265 "The finding that men assume that boy babies are in more discomfort than girl babies with the same pitched cry may indicate that this sort of gender stereotyping is more ingrained in men,†said senior author and professor Nicolas Mathevon. “It may even have direct implications for babies' immediate welfare: if a baby girl is in intense discomfort and her cry is high-pitched, her needs might be more easily overlooked when compared with a boy crying at the same pitch.†Porn alone doesn't cause rape, but it is likely a contributing factor among many in a culture obsessed with both sex and religious virtue. Think about all the boobs/cleavage we see in media on a daily basis, and yet breastfeeding mom's are often harassed and shamed in public. Non sexual breasts aren't there for the consumption of men and it makes them (and women trapped in this paradigm) deeply uncomfortable. If you live in a culture where women are seen as objects of consumption, why not take what you want? It is rampant capitalism at its worst.
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