First of all I never take anything online personally; I can't help it if someone else doesn't like my word 'force'. I see people do it all the time. I see many good Catholic families send their kids to the good 'Catholic' colleges, and they come out with 80,000 in loans. That is not what I want for my children. I also am not taking offense:tongue_smilie: that someone assumed I don't know how aid works. I do. I also come from a family with a lawyer and a Ph.D. My family is very educated and values education.
However, my lawyer father gave up his high-paying career to serve the Lord and be with his family more. I would never give up all the jobs I worked to pay for my own private college education for what he did. I obviously think highly of this, because my engineer husband is in the process of leaving behind his high paying career to become a college professor. I am so excited to have him in a career he loves and that will allow more family time I am about to burst. And, we've been using our money to pay down our mortgage, so when we make this transition to much less money we will have no mortgage. My DH just emailed me an article last week on should people pay off their mortgage or save for college. It was interesting.
There are so many ways to go through college low cost. Attend CC first. Get loads of AP credit from high school. Don't live in dorms (I never did.) I had a job as a live-in nanny. Work.
Most of my friends whose parents footed the bill flunked out and took a long time to finish. I was on the dean's list every semester, because I was shelling out 80% of the tuition.
It doesn't bother me that others feel differently, and I don't know why my opinion should bother anyone else. It is just my opinion.:001_smile: