Yes! I’ve read about this, Rosie. I started to mention that. Glad you did. It really is hard to know which is which. There is a Dr. Kim Sage on YouTube who talks about this a lot.

I won’t say that it isn’t possible that I could be on the spectrum. And, of course, it’s not a put down. However, regardless, I see myself as a “truth teller” or a silent “truth knower “ more than anything and can see all the things that everyone else is blind to in my family. I also feel that my mother is being unusually cruel in her directing all this “you will see how it is to be old” stuff at me. She isn’t doing this to anyone else. It is possible that she is being passive aggressive. It feels that way, but, as usual it’s hard to tell. She absolutely has a history of that and does do that. My visits with her are very short.

No and yes.

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In case anyone is thinking I’m saying things to cause her to want to say these things, I’m not! Not at all. I have no desire to make her feel defensive about getting old. Not in the least.

Thank you. And you’re right. And I do feel that way. Just as being raised in the crazy made me not want to be that way as a parent. It really bothers me that she says things like…you”ll live long enough to know what it’s like to be old…in the tone that she says it. I think that is a horrid thing to say and I can not imagine ever saying such a thing to either of my sons. Not in a million years.

Just….keep in mind that tomorrow she is going to drive to work at her full time job in the cold early morning weather, and she will walk out her back door and right past the trash can that she is claiming she can’t throw trash into because it’s too cold to walk out her back door….

Today: Mom: I can’t spring clean. It’s too cold. This weather is driving me crazy. This rain is horrid. It will never stop so I can clean. It’s too cold to clean stuff out and take it out to the trash. Me: Do you mean it’s too cold to go outside to throw your trash in the trash can? Mom: Yes. Me: (Genuinely asking and not being sarcastic at all) Just the short distance from your back door to your trash can? (It’s less than 5 feet). Mom: I’m 81 years old. Just wait until you get this age. You’ll live long enough to see what it’s like. (In a rather mean tone). Me: Could you take everything to the back door that needs to be thrown out and ask John (my brother…fake name) to take it out? Mom: Oh… well…um…no it goes out to charity, etc. Me: Oh, ok, so John can just drop it off at the charity? And you don’t have to go outside, right? Mom: So did you say that ds (her grandson) is doing ok? (Quickly changes subject). This is all normal for her. It’s a yearly cycle. Complain about hot summer. Complain about holiday season. Complain about winter. Complain that there are no days for spring cleaning. (She has tons of good days to do this!) Complain that we had no spring at all and we just jumped in to hot summer. Now it’s too hot to clean stuff out. Rinse repeat ad nauseum for as long as I can remember. The EXACT same thing. Except now, add in the constant complaining that she is now 81 years old. I just need to vent this thought here. Heaven please forgive me. This woman works full time still. She is fully functional and able. No walker. No health problems outside of blood pressure. She does have anxiety and I’m sure this factors in. And I’m sure she is feeling her age, no doubt. But I have never, ever in my life heard anyone go on about their age the way she does. She reminds me of it constantly. And it’s like she’s throwing it at me and beating me over the head with it. She is constantly telling me to “just wait til you get old. You’ll see”. It’s awful. I have cleaned out stuff for her many times. It just gets cluttered up again in a few months. Then she starts complaining every spring about how the weather won’t cooperate so she can throw stuff away. It was a perfectly good suggestion to ask John to help. He lives there. She won’t ask. She just keeps complaining that she can’t spring clean. It is really bothersome that she is acting this way and how she is trying to make me feel terrified of aging. I’m angry because she is doing this (which I think is mean) and all the while she should really be grateful and happy because she really is doing great overall. Just angry and tired of it. Just needed to vent. Please just agree with me. Maybe I shouldn’t have this attitude, but JAWM anyway. Maybe I could feel less resentment and more sympathy if not for the fact that she is on a mission to not let me forget for one second that I, too, am going to soon be old, miserable, and feeble, just like her. It just seems so twisted and mean to me. And, again, she is doing pretty well for her age. Ugh.

Thanks. Yes, I should probably update.

@goldberrywe use QB for our small business. We are planning to retire in just a few years. We have been getting the notices that QB desktop soon will no longer be supported. For now, I’m going to ignore that and hope we can squeeze by until retirement with the desktop version. I have never used any other software, and it would be a pain to have to transition to something else when we are so close to the end.

Never heard of iExit. This will come in handy on our upcoming 14 hour drive!

Curb Your Enthusiasm…..another favorite. I usually love more family-friendly choices, (such as my other picks) but I’m such a fan of comedy, and that show is so funny. The season where Larry buys a spite coffee shop…it’s hilarious.

Everybody Loves Raymond Schitt’s Creek Big Bang Theory

We watched a fantastic movie today! Green Book. Based on true events.

I’m so sorry. 😞

Saraha, at least your mom stood outside the door and waited, lol. 🤪 The last time I went to my mom’s, she bolted the door opened as soon as she heard me flush. She said she just couldn’t wait. She had to go. As I began to walk out, she said, it’s okay I don’t mind if you see me pee! 😐 🙄🫨I guess you just gotta laugh? Also… same day….she held a bag of snap pea crisps in front of my 25 year old son’s face and asked if he wanted any. He told her 3 times that he didn’t. She still kept on ….I finally said …he doesn’t want any! My mom’s birthday is next week!

Oh, thanks, Harriet. That’s who I thought it was.

I think I have a good guess as to who this could have been. Doesn’t matter now, though.

I wasn’t around during the cupcake one, but I know of it. When people speak of the Great Kerfuffle, I assumed it was the cupcake one. I’m glad to have clarification on that! 😅

Low fodmap yogurt cups….another convenient food (low fodmap flavors….strawberry, vanilla…)

If she tries low fodmap and she improves, that means it’s not c diff, right? If so, that would be an easy way to find out. If you have already looked up the low fodmap diet and are familiar with it and are just asking for additional food suggestions and convenience food low fodmap ideas, these bars are low fodmap. It is actually labeled on the back. https://www.amazon.com/GoMacro-MacroBar-Organic-Protein-Peanut/dp/B015OA6MHK/ref=mp_s_a_1_1_sspa?crid=334G3CSWEHHJL&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.l1DVfwhc0BVn2qapPxtYRVBCXA749k0DFRAec-bM3-jiKyNJaS2IZFMmxQSbk92sOcYfWmv3SNEypl8Ru-Owqxj6L5iKXX8rnBQxMF7jD8Pzu9bQDQggX8I4ADUfas_xysGWThcd_K2RXwTsIf0I_vUkNIG84nrikz2dd9BIvQKF-Ij67m_BcnpqQakTPDDnlEF396G-lh-vtYKB4KdGqQ.XOa_UxlK0hL07IKB-EC8toiWCivClJxo6gHwBO__FzU&dib_tag=se&keywords=go+macro+bars+peanut+butter&qid=1711027008&rdc=1&sprefix=micro+bars+peanut+butter%2Caps%2C97&sr=8-1-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9zZWFyY2hfYXRm&psc=1 Only some of the flavors are low fodmap. The ones that are have the little Monash University symbol on the back. I don’t have many other fancy ideas. Just the ordinary kale, low fodmap servings of beans, quinoa, rice, sweet potatoes, potatoes, berries, which are all simple to prepare. I hope this helps and also that she is able to get tested!

One more thing…I am highly satisfied with the online banking. Love it. You can always get someone on the phone who is knowledgeable, efficient, professional, and so friendly.

And it’s funny… there have been some very good bankers there. Very pleasant to deal with. I have always been pretty satisfied with them in the past.

Actually, I think you are totally right. I’d rather be polite in the moment and just avoid them going forward. I thought it was someone else calling, or I would not have answered. If they call me again, I think I will try to be assertive about their harassment. I’m aware that that is how I am (what you posted). It’s hard to make myself not be like that.