Jann in TX Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 My step mother (SM) has been having some heart issues---this has come on suddenly. Last week she went through 'angioplasty' with a heart cath. The Dr was NOT able to repair the damage he saw (right side of heart over 75% blocked). A specialist from 'out of state' has been called in and she will have a procedure on March 5th. They will be attempting to put in an EXPERIMENTAL stent... My step sister lives 3 doors down from our parents--she also homeschools her 6 children (ages 2-16). Our other siblings live out of town/state (like me). SM is an 8-hour drive away. My DH and older teens should be available to care for my yyo--or I could take her with me as she could hang with her cousins (my dd goes to PS but LOVES to 'after school'). DH and older dd's have to work so they could not go if I do... I'm a BIG TIME 'Daddy's girl'. My Dad is not one to ask for help--but he always appreciates it. Part of me wants to be there for him (and SM) but I also do not want to be 'in the way'. My Dad tends to hide at times like this (...remembering when my mom was ill/dying 20 years ago). He is a college professor/homeschool band director and he left the hospital during her last procedure to teach a class! (He did return by the time the procedure was over...) My question-- Would YOU drive up and try to be of some support/help?--or Would you stay home and wait for updates--driving up only if you are needed. Thanks for helping me process this... Jann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 If it were me, I'd call my dad and ask him. My dad has become much more interested in having me around during difficult times than he was years ago... 20 years ago he would have denied there was any reason for me to go - but now, I'm pretty sure he'd want me to come if I offered. :grouphug: Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Hen Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I'm a BIG TIME 'Daddy's girl'. My Dad is not one to ask for help--but he always appreciates it. ...... My question-- Would YOU drive up and try to be of some support/help?--or Would you stay home and wait for updates--driving up only if you are needed. Jann, I would go, be there as support to your Dad. Over two yrs ago I was put in a similar situation only it was my Dad having operations for cancer. Mom had long ago passed away. It was hard on our hs'ing life cause I was away so much---a week at a time, home for a couple weeks and then away again. But it was good to be there too. Being your 'Daddy's Girl' I wouldn't think twice about it. Carole Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I would go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I would go. I'd rather be in the way and see it, then ask if I should leave, than not go and have him want me there, but not want to trouble me by asking me to come. Did that make sense? Anyway, I'd go and be of whatever help and support I could. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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