solascriptura Posted February 16, 2017 Share Posted February 16, 2017 When you try to make plans with a friend and she says that she'll get back to you, when is it okay to forget about it and make alternate plans? I don't want to be rude, but I also do think that it's cool to ask me to hold that time indefinitely. What do you think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted February 16, 2017 Share Posted February 16, 2017 Maybe send a followup text and ask if she's still interested because otherwise you will ask someone else to go along with you 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted February 16, 2017 Share Posted February 16, 2017 I agree with Zoobie. I've gotten stuck before when I've asked someone about doing something, they say they'll get back to me, and then don't, and I either end up not doing it, or I'm annoyed about it but not wanting to be a nag. So I will follow up with something like "hey, sorry if you're not ready to commit, but I need to know about X by tomorrow." Often people have either forgotten or they wonder why I want to know so soon. I stop asking people like that. :-) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 16, 2017 Share Posted February 16, 2017 Oh yeah. Always give a time by which you need to know. People come in all different levels of consciousness re: this kind of thing, and some people need a deadline. :0). Also, some people have a hard time saying "no"--if that is the case, send a text and say that you want to finalize your plans and that if she can't go, that's fine, you just need to know whether to invite someone else. That gives HER space to say, "Oh, that might be a good thing if you invited Zooey to the show." SHE didn't have to say "no" and you have your answer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted February 16, 2017 Share Posted February 16, 2017 I'm bad for doing this and I would be really happy to receive a text follow up as it would make me get myself into gear and figure out what I'm doing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted February 16, 2017 Share Posted February 16, 2017 If you really need to know, why not just call her and ask her for a decision? If you have another option for that day, just tell her that she is your first choice but if she's not going to be available, you'll go ahead and plan to do the other thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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