EKS Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Is it a common pattern of development (and by common, I don't mean the only pattern or the most typical, just that it is something that is seen frequently) for boys with Asperger's to seem to lag more and more behind their peers socially and behaviorally starting at age 12-13? Thanks! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom22ns Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 My pdd-nos kiddo definitely lagged more socially at that age. So have others I have known. It is an age where typical kids make some rapid changes from child to teen and ASD kids often don't make that leap until later. Here the gap gradually narrowed again through high school. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbutton Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 My son is only approaching that age. Right now, the lag shows up more in group activities than one on one because it's so much harder to read and keep track of a group social dynamic. Certain kids bring out different facets as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 Thank you both. I suspected that the lag might start to reverse in the later teen years, but wasn't sure, and I have noticed that the group dynamic seems to exacerbate the issues. This is regarding my son's very good friend. My son has been having a tough time because he's been feeling more and more disconnected from him over the past year. My son has been feeling so sad that the connection with the person who has been his best friend for years has been slipping away, but it sounds like there might be hope yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Yes, as my oldest has aged I've had to specifically introduce him to more mature concepts otherwise he doesn't alway grasp them. He tells me he would prefer to not grow up. It is a time of tremendous change for any child, but for ASD kids, transitions are even harder. "Social Skills" is a common therapy topic. You can probably find resources to help your DS with the transition. There are even social skills therapy groups available to help the tween/teen kids work through these transitions in a controlled setting. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KSinNS Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Certainly with my little guy, I'm noticing a lot now that he's 11. His buddies just seem so mature, and he's really still a little boy who is happy to play and read and do music all day. He really can't follow the conversation or the teasing and chatter any more. On the plus side, we've got none of the preadolescent angst that everyone else I know is struggling with. I'm sure it will come! With another family member, this was certainly the age the differences were the most obvious. They were much less obvious later on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivey Posted September 19, 2015 Share Posted September 19, 2015 This was definitely the case with my Ds18. He still did okay with sports and other structured activities, but when his friends went from "playing together" to just "hanging out", it took him quite a while to make the adjustment. This was also when he started to develop some social anxiety, and he began turning down invitations to birthday parties, or even just to his friends' houses if he didn't knew there'd be a group. It wasn't until he was about 16 that he was comfortable just "hanging out", and he's still immature for 18 in some ways, but he's definitely closed the gap considerably. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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