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  1. I'm not on the spectrum or adjacent. I have two kids who've been diagnosed with ASD, but no one else in our family has autistic traits/characteristics. In spending time with other families of autistic kids, I've always been fascinated that the "broad autism phenotype" seems to be common in some families, whereas in others autism seems to have an "on/off" switch. Out of curiosity, I tried out the test and scored a 9. I suspect Dh and our neurotypical sons would score lower.
  2. The WNV is a very brief measure that includes 4 subtests - matrices, picture arrangement, spatial span, and coding. It yields an overall "Nonverbal IQ" score, but no index scores for processing speed, working memory, visual spatial, etc. The WNV said that my child's Nonverbal IQ was below average, because it includes coding where he scored in the 1st percentile. The WISC said that his FSIQ is average (coding is included, but as 1/7 rather than 1/4), GAI is above average, and processing speed is very low. Which is quite a bit more informative than "below average Nonverbal IQ".
  3. That stat sounds about right to me. I've always heard/read that 40-50% of people diagnosed with autism have ID, but it makes sense that it's quite a bit lower when Aspergers/ASD Level 1 cases are included. Ds15's scores have fluctuated over the years, but even when they were "low" overall he scored high enough on some subtests that it was clear he didn't have ID. Those psych reports were full of caveats and detailed explanations of why certain scores were or weren't likely representative of Ds's true abilities. That's just weird. We had an almost opposite experience last spring
  4. According to my 16yo fashion guru, there is a trend in some areas for teens to wear "mom jeans" ironically, but they buy them from teen brands (like these ones from Hollister) or from vintage stores. The Eddie Bauer jeans you linked are "real" mom jeans and would be very out of place in any high school. If the "mom jean" trend hasn't hit your area, skinny jeans / jeggings really are the only trendy style of jeans for teenage girls. The Aeropostale pair you linked look great, especially in navy! Tight, light-colored jeans do tend to highlight curves, so sticking with darker colors might b
  5. We're in the same boat as you - we signed an IEP two weeks ago for our always-homeschooled 14-year-old with ASD2 who will be starting public high school in the fall. He's set up to take a full academic course load, without any non-academic interventions, so we'll have to keep up his therapy and interventions outside of school. I'm satisfied with the IEP as it stands, but I know it will take some time for Ds to learn to make appropriate use of his accommodations and we will likely have to make some adjustments depending on what works and what doesn't. I have a good relationship with the h
  6. We have a simple plastic Fisher Price kitchen that has lasted through six boys (and hundreds of cousins/friends). It's still in my basement for the occasional young guest and ready for when the yet-to-be-born grandkids visit. My older boys played with it until they were at least 7 or 8 - they would type up menus and take dinner reservations, so they couldn't have been much younger. I don't think it's odd at all that a 7-year-old would want one and I think most 3-year-olds would enjoy it, especially with a sibling to play with.
  7. Your daughter absolutely handled this the right way. My 21yo has Aspergers and the girls he's gone out with have mostly done the same thing - kept things very friendly/positive while on the date, then clearly let him know that they're not interested in a second date by text.
  8. We usually play a few rounds of charades after dinner. There's no prep work, so no one is put out if people don't feel like playing.
  9. One of my sons was able to work through a course syllabus independently, coming to me for help like he would to an outside instructor, by his senior year of high school. Another got there by his sophomore year. They (and my 16yo who is now in public school) could follow a daily checklist much earlier (4th grade?), but we only used them when I was sick or unable to teach for whatever reason.
  10. My youngest is 10, so we're on the tail end of this and definitely doing things differently than many of the younger parents in our area. We always let our kids eat the candy. When we had lots of kids ToTing, they would set up trades on Halloween night, and then eat from their own stash for a few weeks until I wanted to wash the pillowcases. At that point, I'd dump it all into a bowl and it was fair game for everyone. The last couple years, our younger kids have been willing to share with each other and the rest of us, so they just put it in a few bowls from the start.
  11. I struggled with insomnia until my late twenties, but since then have been able to fall asleep in 10-20 minutes. I use the trick I learned back then - telling myself the same boring story every night until I fall asleep, recapping and then making very minimal progress each night. I've spent the last several months telling myself what's happened to Izzie since she left Grey's Anatomy. Spoiler: Her life is nice and boring so that I can fall asleep more quickly.
  12. My oldest son has a friend who won around $4 million. He was a year or two out of college, and went back to get a Master's degree in mathematical finance. So he's probably doing okay. I also have an older relative who is much more financially comfortable than would be typical for someone in his line of work (teaching high school), because of the investments he made in the tech industry in the early 1980s. I would suspect good investments, a side business, or a large inheritance before a lottery win if someone I knew seemed to have more money than they seem to be making.
  13. My adult son borrowed one of these from a friend to try out and decided not to buy one for himself. He found that he couldn't actually work while pedalling, perhaps because his legs are so long, but he did like the way he could have one foot on each pedal and kind of "seesaw" the pedals back and forth. I tried it very briefly and understood what he meant. Instead of using it as it's intended, he liked it as more of a fidget toy for his feet?
  14. Neither of my boys (14 & 21) attended social skills classes at that age, but Ds14 is participating in the PEERS teen class this semester, and I am hoping Ds21 will be open to taking the young adult class some time soon. Looking back, I can see that starting social skills classes a little earlier could have been beneficial (I wish the PEERS class had been around when Ds21 was 14), but 8 is very young and I feel like the skills taught at that level can likely be taught through other means. Kids that young also tend to do better with shorter, more frequent sessions, so meeting weekly may not
  15. Based on that policy, you are not obligated to report him. Do what you feel is right.
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