SKL Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 My girls made wish lists. One girl's list had a lot of things I was willing to buy, which they will share. (The main items are Everafter High dolls, books, and a Harry Potter broomstick.) The other girl's list was shorter and mostly stuff I won't buy (puppy, kitten). I did buy a couple things for the shorter-list kid that she didn't request, but she might not like them. And, these will also be shared in practice. So, I am leaning toward making most of the gifts shared gifts, i.e., put both of their names on them. I've done this before for "big gifts," but not stuff like dolls. Have any of you done this with smaller gifts? How did it go over? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 Almost all the toys in our home are considered 'shared' (with special exceptions), so I usually address things individually, fully expecting the sense of ownership to fade into 'big sets for both of us' instead of 'a small set each'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 Almost all the toys in our home are considered 'shared' (with special exceptions), so I usually address things individually, fully expecting the sense of ownership to fade into 'big sets for both of us' instead of 'a small set each'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 I usually do this with gifts like games or puzzles . . . put all the kids names on it. When I have smaller gifts that I assume will be shared, I generally just buy one for each kid, put each kid's names on them and then they end up sharing. For instance, I decided that everyone was getting books this year but I have three boys that are basically reading the same things so I ordered three different sets of books and each has one kid's name on them but I bought them assuming that the books will get passed around to all the kids. I guess by putting a specific name on a specific gift, I'm just giving that kid first dibs on the item. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 I understand the need to have things earmarked for each girl, even though everything will end up shared eventually, like a PP said. Would your girls just naturally share it all anyway? Do you wrap everything? (I know, I know, opening *that* can of worms!) We do Santa, and here he doesn't necessarily wrap everything. Sometimes Santa will leave a "shared" pile of gifts, with two piles of gifts that are clearly for one or the other. Not sure that would work for you. And if you don't do Santa, then it's a different ballgame altogether. (Oooooh, look at that, not only did I open the wrapped/unwrapped can of worms, I dragged the Santa debate into your thread too! Oops!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 I would get individual dolls and books, but games and sets (like legos or whatever) would be shared. That way they could play together but still have ownership. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 Mine will usually naturally share. I mean, 2 girls, close in age, it all pretty much goes into a communal pile, right? I have assigned shared gifts to one girl or the other to open them, depending on how many gifts they each had. Last year, we got a Kindle Fire. It was a family gift, but we allowed Rebecca to open it because she'd just had a successful state meet. Santa enclosed a special note for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted December 18, 2014 Author Share Posted December 18, 2014 Do you wrap everything? (I know, I know, opening *that* can of worms!) We do Santa, and here he doesn't necessarily wrap everything. Sometimes Santa will leave a "shared" pile of gifts, with two piles of gifts that are clearly for one or the other. Not sure that would work for you. And if you don't do Santa, then it's a different ballgame altogether. (Oooooh, look at that, not only did I open the wrapped/unwrapped can of worms, I dragged the Santa debate into your thread too! Oops!) This year I am seriously considering not wrapping much. I am very pressed for time. My kids know the truth about Santa. I don't know how much they will care if I don't put names on things. I may just tell them in advance that they're going to share most of the gifts because I really don't like the "it's mine" crap anyway. Most of the things they own are shared. They will still have some things to open - pajamas, stocking stuffers, a couple of other things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted December 18, 2014 Share Posted December 18, 2014 This year I am seriously considering not wrapping much. I am very pressed for time. My kids know the truth about Santa. I don't know how much they will care if I don't put names on things. I may just tell them in advance that they're going to share most of the gifts because I really don't like the "it's mine" crap anyway. Most of the things they own are shared. They will still have some things to open - pajamas, stocking stuffers, a couple of other things. I'm all for not wrapping everything. :) The extra time is your gift to yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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