Hyacinth Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 I have a friend (no, really . . :001_smile:), who is struggling mightily with parenting and homeschooling her 12- and 14-yos. Listening to her, I think part of the problem is that she is trying to parent these growing, independence-seeking, control-craving young people with essentially the same tools she used with them as youngsters (which has been largely punitive, e.g., groundings and taking away video games, etc., and a bit inconsistent at that). My guys are a bit younger so I don't have any BTDT advice for her, but I got the sense that she was open to my thoughts regarding her role changing from one of managing their lives and reactions to being more of an influencer and letting natural consequences fall. She mentioned being open to book suggestions. Or maybe even blog posts that speak to this issue? Anyone have suggestions to offer? A Christian perspective would be most welcome. I should add that this is a lovely family. The issues aren't crisis-level concerns--more along the lines of typical attitudes and behaviors of stubborn kids, but it's new to her and, of course, hard to endure when you're in the thick of it.Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 Age of Opportunity by Paul David Tripp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 Given the context, I'd recommend Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson. Also, books by Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller. Ross Cambpell has a good one on "How To Really Love Your Teenager." All the above are Christian. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 Getting To Calm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in NY Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 I super-duper-love this book. I can't tell from your post if you are talking guys or girls.... but honestly, I love it for both. Big puffy hearts and gratitude that it came into my life when it did. http://www.amazon.co... the teen years Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FloridaLisa Posted September 16, 2014 Share Posted September 16, 2014 Age of Opportunity by Paul David Tripp I was going to recommend this as well. Lisa ETA: Also, How to Hold Onto Your Kids, by Gordon Neufeld. Excellent book, first recommended here by another WTMer many years ago. Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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