Janie Grace Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 He has met with her for hours and had the entire session (board of elders) meet a different night for her sake? What a wonderful pastor. It seems to me that an honorarium would be a thoughtful gesture. It's not mandatory and I'm sure he wouldn't be offended if you didn't, but I think it would be an appropriate/thoughtful thing. PLEASE don't call it a tip, though. I agree, that word is offensive in this context. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted June 22, 2013 Share Posted June 22, 2013 I was baptized in an Episcopal church, as were my children, and it was during the normal Sunday service. However the priest did take time to meet with us ahead of time,for an hour, and go over a lot of stuff about baptism. I figured a gift card with a thank you note was appropriate. I guess it depends on the individual parish then. The Christenings I've been to in my extended family were all private ceremonies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 Double post Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted June 23, 2013 Share Posted June 23, 2013 When we went to an Episcopal Church, baptisms happened during the regular Sunday service and honorariums were not typical. Our family was baptized and chrismated yesterday in the Orthodox Church. It was separate from the regular Sunday service and lasted two hours. Additionally, our priest has spent the past nine months meeting individually with us during our catechumenate. We put money inside a thank you card. When DH tried to hand it to our priest, he refused, so DH left it on the table for him. Honorariums are typical for our church and as someone else mentioned, usually go into the priest's discretionary fund. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiwik Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 I'm Anglican and the only baptisms I've ever been at were part of the general service. It would seem odd to give someone money for doing their job (but then in NZ tipping waitresses isn't usual either). Discretely slipping extra money into the collection on behalf of the child would be fine though as would a card or baking or something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 I guess it depends on the individual parish then. The Christenings I've been to in my extended family were all private ceremonies. Crazy now things can be different! I know the prayer book specifically says it should be done during the service if possible, but I guess some places don't do that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted June 24, 2013 Share Posted June 24, 2013 Re Episcopalians-- Used to be more common to baptise privately, but the 79 Book of Common prayer encourages baptism as part of the service. No honorarium expected, but if given, most, not all, priests would put it in their discretionary funds. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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