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:grouphug: for me I had all my losses at home except my last which ended in a D&C a month after I lost the baby at 12 weeks. Physically the D&C was a walk in the park compared to the labors I had been going through. I was fully awake and only had motrin an hour before, I then drove myself the 3 hours home. Its always baffled me why they knock women out for it, just adds unnecessary trauma to the experience. ( I find GA rather terrifying) if you want to know what to expect in a natural mc there is a WTE thread in the preg loss forum many find helpful.

 

ETA: Sorry was typing on my phone, here is a link to the forum, its over on Mothering http://www.mothering.com/community/t/187976/exactly-what-to-expect-with-a-m-c-please-tell-your-stories-what-do-you-see

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:grouphug: for me I had all my losses at home except my last which ended in a D&C a month after I lost the baby at 12 weeks. Physically the D&C was a walk in the park compared to the labors I had been going through. I was fully awake and only had motrin an hour before, I then drove myself the 3 hours home. Its always baffled me why they knock women out for it, just adds unnecessary trauma to the experience. ( I find GA rather terrifying) if you want to know what to expect in a natural mc there is a WTE thread in the preg loss forum many find helpful.

 

:iagree:There is NO recovery time if you don't have general anesthesia. If you do, you're going to feel sick for at least the rest of the day and have all the side effects that come with it. If you don't want it, be sure and let them know. They were going to put me out for my twin miscarriage, but I did not want to do that. They just gave me some relaxant instead...which I also didn't need, but I didn't want to be too difficult.

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With my m/c in 2009, i m/c at home. I was already bleeding when i went to ER and found out the baby didnt have a HB and then 3d later m/c. I had labor pains, pressure like in labor and my baby came out and we buried the baby- the dr didnt do testing because we didnt ask for it to be done. I WOULD do it all again the same way, no matter how far along i was.

 

I think you need to do what YOU feel is right. We can tell you 20 different experiences but that doesnt mean its right for YOU. We all go through a m/c differently and we all grieve differently. Even the way you m/c, can effect the way you grieve. :grouphug:

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Thank you all. I still don't know what I'm going to do. I made an appt for tomorrow morning to takk to my midwife again. And I've been on the phone all day with a dear friend and one of my SIL who have been through this as well.

I just appreciate it all so much. Thank you.

 

:grouphug::grouphug: and prayers.

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My first miscarriage I waited and had naturally. It was very difficult emotionally and actually happened on Easter. The second was a D&C, four weeks after we were sure the baby was without a heartbeat because my body just wouldn't let go (had been on progesterone therapy), that was as long as my OB considered safe. I opted to drive three hours to my specialist because they refused to do a D&C without a general anesthesia locally, I just had conscious sedation with an amnesiac so I wouldn't remember the procedure but could be awake. There are benefits and complication risks with both and only you can make that choice. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

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We had a D&E at 22 weeks. I had to wait a week for a specialist to help me due the gestational age. It was a horrible week for me, and I can't imagine having it go on longer. I was fully sedated and I am glad I was. I don't want any more memories of that day than the ones I already had. One problem I had with waiting for that week, was that since I was still pregnant, I looked pregnant, and people would ask about the baby. :( It was not something I wanted to go around chatting about to everyone, especially while the baby was still inside.

 

I know everyone her will support you with whatever decision you make.

 

 

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

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