Mom28kds Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 (edited) I have 8 kids and the 5th child (age 11) has some anger issues that are driving me crazy. He seems to be the only one who has this so I'm thinking it isn't environmental. If he doesn't undertstand something he freaks out. If someone irritates him, he yells and sometimes hits (not acceptable in my home). He is generally compassionate and fine, but he can go off so quickly and is out of control. The other day, he had a hard time focusing on school (normally is very good at staying focused and good at making sure all work is done) and just flipped out and starting crying, and began to get angry. I let him lay down to rest (I thought maybe he was tired) but it didn't help. He eventually took a shower and was fine. How do I handle this? When I sit him down and talk about his behavior he understands and feels bad. He just struggles with flying off the hook so quickly and out of control. I'm thinking it has something to do with having control issues as well. Thinking when he can't control something he flips. Edited August 30, 2012 by Mom28kds Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeslieAnneLevine Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 I found Ross Greene's book very helpful. It's called :The Explosive Child: Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 has he always been like this? Also, one thing that's helped my temper tantrum prone child is daily intense exercise at the beginning of the day. It really helps to mellow her out for the rest of the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 I just want to sympathize, because I have three children who are all very different and I know how it is when you just don't see why one has to be difficult at all the wrong times, lol. I agree with you that is is probably not environmental, and that he needs different parenting techniques than the other ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hope in God Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 For my son it was a dairy allergy. If you eliminate all dairy for 21 days and then reintroduce it you should have your answer. His only symptom that I noticed for the dairy allergy was angry outbursts but when he went off dairy the length of his seasonal colds was reduced and his general endurance improved drastically- and no more explosive outbursts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom28kds Posted August 30, 2012 Author Share Posted August 30, 2012 I found Ross Greene's book very helpful. It's called :The Explosive Child: Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children. I'll check this out, thanks :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted August 30, 2012 Share Posted August 30, 2012 Executive function problems, ADD, ADHD can all worsen around that age. You might want to look into some of the research. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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