MommyThrice Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I am tired of all the battles... and his laziness. Ds is a 16-yo sophomore. We constantly battle over school and what he needs to accomplish. His has high aspirations - he wants to study constitutional law - but he seems to think he can get there on good looks and charm. :glare: and I'm a little worried that it just might work. :scared: This is a kid that doesn't do anything until the last minute. He's always behind and does only the bare minimum. He prepares debate and mock trial cases at the last minute, and then does really well in competition. I think this has given him the false impression that he can get wherever he wants to go in this manner. Right now I can't imagine him succeeding in college. Math is difficult - he has a solid B in Algebra 2. His writing is weak. He no longer likes to read. He spends way too much time "doing school" and doesn't have much to show for it. He's getting a decent education, just not one that will get him into a great law school. Let me say that I am finally okay with that... but he isn't. He thinks he is keeping up with his high-achieving friends. You know, the kids that are studying Greek and Arabic, winning all kinds of scholarship competitions, and being asked to intern for think-tanks. It must be the testosterone, but he just doesn't see what his friends are accomplishing that he isn't. (But, of course, they spend their time together talking about iPhones and cars, not school!) He's planning to compete in mock trial this year, but just wound up on the "B" team, instead of the "A" team with his friends. It has never entered his mind that it might be because the coach knows how he works compared to the others. Anyway, he really needs to take more responsibility. I'm willing to let him fail, (okay, not really, but I'm willing to let him make B's and go to a state school) but I'm not willing to let him remain ignorant of his doing so. He's taking a pretty light load this year (so he could do mock trial and take dual-credit science this summer) but when I mentioned the light load today, he asked, "Why do you call this a light load? What else should I be taking?" He just doesnt know. So what I really need are some suggestions for books I can get for him to read. Maybe books on what colleges/law school want - that sort of thing. I really want him to be aware of where he's heading and what he could accomplish, as well as taking more responsibility for that path. FWIW, his friends are accomplishing some pretty "out of the box" things that he won't find in a book. And I really want to stress excellent writing, not just scoring well on the AP English Lang test. So I don't want to over-emphasize a list of advanced-sounding class titles. I want him to get motivated to meet his own goals and quit fighting me. Any book suggestions? Any other ideas? Thanks for listening! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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