Morning after pill help= preventing pregnancy after rape questions

[texasmama]

To be honest, though, the chances of her being raped after passing out while crossing a college campus is extremely low. She's much more likely to be hit by a car or maybe even hit by lightning, considering the circumstances.

 

I agree. So many things would need to happen for this to occur. The chances are so incredibly low that I don't think it is even worth a worry. I would be more concerned about the underlying anxiety, personally.

 

If she is really that concerned, she should always go places with a trusted female friend, someone who could get help and watch her if she passes out.

[LND1218]

She obsesses and panics. .

 

She definitely has anxiety issues but this is not really part of that. I mean, she isn't really obsessing over it but rather wanted to know what she can do with her condition in case it did happen. She is all for self defense and we were going to check on mace laws, etc.

 

 

But you said she obsesses and panics that gave me a different idea. I think it is wise for college girls to be armed with information/tools to protect themselves from rape. All women should because it's a real threat. It's not that rape doesn't happen. In fact, I know someone who got pg as a result of rape in college.

 

 

She should be prepare, but obsessing over it to the point of panic is an overreaction unless she has been raped or is at real risk in the moment. I think that is why you got the responses you got.

 

It's good that she's getting counseling. Tell her to I agree use an escort!!

Edited June 24, 2011 by Steph

[krisperry]

That's not quite what it says:

 

1 in 4 women will be raped in their lifetime.

1 in 6 college women will be the victims of rape.

 

When I heard it, it was 1 in 4 will experience some sort of sexual assault in their lifetime, not necessarily rape. I'm not trying to minimize it, but I would like to see where those stats come from--shocking stats like that are awfully prone to exaggeration and distortion (such as the one that floated around for years that 150,000 women die annually from anorexia/bulimia--in fact, about that number suffer from those illnesses, but relatively few die every year).

 

At any rate, rape is indeed a serious problem--but I think anxiety is this girl's real issue.

 

It does say that a bit further down:

Among college students between 20% and 25% of women reported experiencing completed or attempted rape.

 

However, I am glad to hear of some studies that show the actual number might be more like 1 in 14. Still far too common for sure.

 

I think the biggest factors in keeping her safe are

1. always walk home in the evening with a friend (preferably non male)

2. stay away from the party scene (this one is huge)

3. be mindful of who she dates....

 

She really needs to work through her anxiety. I'd be worried that all the talks when she gets to the dorm and all the signage would make her even more stressed.

[nmoira]

Also, having Factor V Leiden raises the risk of bleeding and blood clots during pregnancy, but there are treatments and many women have successful pregnancies.

I've had two. However, I was wondering from the tone of the OP whether her daughter might be homozygous, which is more problematic. If not, then I'd suggest they talk with a different expert about her future options.

 

ETA: I just did a little reading, and even individuals homozygous for the FVL mutation can, with therapeutic doses of LMWH, have successful pregnancies.

Edited June 24, 2011 by nmoira

[Danestress]

if she can't be on hormonal BC, maybe an IUD would be an option.

 

You might want to talk to your daughter about what would happen if she were raped - tell her about how she would have to call the police immediately before showering or bathing in anyway. She would have a medical exam and evidence would be gathered. I am sure that at that time, if she were not already protected by an IUD or other form of BCP, they might consider a morning after type treatment, and if she has medical conditions that would affect that, perhaps she would be okay with monitoring in the clinic. They would no doubt also be worried about transmitted diseases:(

 

God forbid, though.

[kristinannie]

That's not quite what it says:

 

1 in 4 women will be raped in their lifetime.

1 in 6 college women will be the victims of rape.

 

When I heard it, it was 1 in 4 will experience some sort of sexual assault in their lifetime, not necessarily rape. I'm not trying to minimize it, but I would like to see where those stats come from--shocking stats like that are awfully prone to exaggeration and distortion (such as the one that floated around for years that 150,000 women die annually from anorexia/bulimia--in fact, about that number suffer from those illnesses, but relatively few die every year).

 

At any rate, rape is indeed a serious problem--but I think anxiety is this girl's real issue.

 

I honestly think that people don't believe these stats because almost all rape victims keep it a secret. I am open about it online, but not in real life. Only my close family knows and none of my friends know. It isn't that I am ashamed, but I just don't see the need to bring it up unless I feel like it can help someone.

[kristinannie]

The "1 in 4" has been debunked several times. They included women who either regretted a sexual experience (not that they said no to their partner) as rape, as well as any woman who thought that being under the influence of alcohol might have made them more likely to have sex -- in fact, only 27% of all the women they called victims of rape described their encounters as such, and about half of their "rape victims" went on to have subsequent sexual encounters with the men who "raped" them. Here's one critique of the study, for starters. The actual rape occurrence is something like 1 in 14, not one in 4. But then, this study was clumsily done to begin with (I guess we can't expect scientific rigor for a survey done for Ms. Magazine) and dates back to good ole' 1985, so really its figures should not be bandied about at all.

 

 

It is not uncommon for a woman who is raped to have sex again with the man who raped her. It is a psychological attempt to take back your right to consent with that person. Also, it is not uncommon for a woman who is raped to have sex with multiple men within a short period of time after being raped. I understand that you may or may not agree with this study, but I think that it is important not to judge what a woman does after she is raped. It doesn't change the fact that she was raped and, if these acts are out of the realm of her normal personality it is even more apparent that she suffered from some severe psychological trauma from her rape.

[DianeW88]

I don't think anyone is denying that rape doesn't occur on college campuses or that women shouldn't be aware of that and take proper precautions.

 

I think the issue is that the OP's dd is concerned about rape happening in a very specific set of circumstances....fainting on a public walkway in the middle of a college campus...(and I assume it would be a well-lit, public walkway based on her rape worries...she wouldn't be off the beaten path in the dark) that's leading people to minimize the rape concern. The odds of rape happening in those given circumstances, and a pregnancy resulting from it....are probably almost zero.

 

If the OP had instead said that her dd plans on going to lots of frat parties and getting stupid drunk at each and every one and was worried she might be raped....I'd agree with her. Her odds go up significantly in those circumstances.

 

If she said her dd's route home from campus involved travel through an unlit area, at night, alone....I'd say she should worry about that, too.

 

There are many, many circumstances a woman can find herself in that boost the odds of rape tremendously (and of course circumstances where rape has a low likelihood of happening and occurs anyway exist also), but the scenario that her dd is suggesting is not one of them.

 

I think the issue is coping with anxiety. That will affect so many other things in her life besides this fear, she really should try very hard to get it under control. Otherwise, I'm afraid it will become crippling.

 

Best wishes for your dd, OP. My dd is in college as well. It's an adventure! :D

[Perry]

 

I think the issue is that the OP's dd is concerned about rape happening in a very specific set of circumstances....fainting on a public walkway in the middle of a college campus...(and I assume it would be a well-lit, public walkway based on her rape worries...she wouldn't be off the beaten path in the dark) that's leading people to minimize the rape concern.

:iagree:

Has she ever fainted while just out walking around? Usually when someone with low blood pressure faints it usually happens when there is a sudden change in blood flow to the brain, like getting up quickly from a lying or sitting position. It would be unusual (not impossible of course) to just be walking along normally and suddenly faint. Does she have certain triggers that cause her to faint?

Edited June 24, 2011 by Perry

[Perry]

I've had two. However, I was wondering from the tone of the OP whether her daughter might be homozygous, which is more problematic. If not, then I'd suggest they talk with a different expert about her future options.

 

ETA: I just did a little reading, and even individuals homozygous for the FVL mutation can, with therapeutic doses of LMWH, have successful pregnancies.

Thanks for mentioning that. I should have supplied the disclaimer - she should definitely talk to her doctor, who knows her medical history, before considering any kind of medication.

[cathmom]

I think the issue is that the OP's dd is concerned about rape happening in a very specific set of circumstances....fainting on a public walkway in the middle of a college campus...(and I assume it would be a well-lit, public walkway based on her rape worries...she wouldn't be off the beaten path in the dark) that's leading people to minimize the rape concern. The odds of rape happening in those given circumstances, and a pregnancy resulting from it....are probably almost zero.

 

 

 

I didn't read it that way - maybe I misread. It's fairly normal at college to be out late, at parties or in others' dorm rooms. It's fairly normal for there to be guys you don't know around. That could lead to issues.

[YLVD]

Really?

 

I'd think most young men would call 911 when stumbling upon a passed out young woman instead of dropping their pants and having wild s3x with an unresponsive woman.

 

You would think so. I agree that it actually is quite common. I have a background in the criminal justice field and rape and sexual assault is incredibly common and very under-reported.

[YLVD]

:iagree:I think if it truly were 1/4 of all college women being raped at college there would be way, way more being done to prevent it.

 

Women and children are assaulted and raped in epic numbers. Women's issues are not taken as seriously and this is one of them.

 

I worked in the system with rape victims and most avoid trials because the attorney's make it about her character, and the rapists get off or get slapped on the wrist.

[stripe]

It is not uncommon for a woman who is raped to have sex again with the man who raped her. It is a psychological attempt to take back your right to consent with that person.

 

This is so interesting and I really appreciate you saying this for many reasons.

 

However it doesn't apply to women who've been raped by a stranger or grabbed while passed out, raped, and then abandoned, as they wouldn't be able to find the rapist.

 

To me, what's concerning is that she is fixating on being raped after passing out, rather than her general safety. There are many other safety concerns than being raped if you just drop randomly while walking (like being hit while crossing the street). I think her general health maybe a concern here. If she is that unstable, how safe is it for her to walk alone? What could make it safer? Secondly I think other aspects of sexuality are being underaddressed. What is her plan for birth control for consenting activities, if her health is an issue? (Not asking you to post but to consider it.)