cin Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 I guess I need to improve my standards of neatness, as she has given him the grand tour. This friend's mom is a neat freak. Our beds are not made, and there is 'stuff' laying everywhere. It's not always this bad, but I am cringing as I think of what he is going to tell his mom. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JWSJ Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 I love it when my son's friends (age 6) tell us (in our house) that our house is so messy. I always want to say that it must be nice to have a SAHM that drops the kids off at school every morning - gives your mom lots of time. Some of them have help pickup after them too. My spouse and I currently work different shifts to accomplish paying the bills and homeschooling with our two children. We'd have someone in to pickup after us but we're not comfortable with that. So, messy house it is! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhonda in TX Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 DS has one friend that I actually clean house for because of what he might mention to his super-neat mom. Not that she would be surprised, but it just sounds worse when it comes from a 10 year old! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cin Posted January 27, 2008 Author Share Posted January 27, 2008 I know I'm a slob, I've always been a slob, and I'm embarassed by it, but not enough to get into gear and clean up:D I just have different priorities, like....the message board!! I guess I should up my standards a titch. I am disorganized and always losing stuff. The dishes are clean and the kitchen is hygenically clean, but it's also cluttered. Things are just laid down where I finish with them. I just do NOT want to become my mother. <sigh> SHe's been gone for 11 years and will haunt me the rest of my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tracey in TX Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 "Homes are for self-expression, not first impressions." (Love that line from Yours, Mine & Ours, remake!) We have a weekly cleaning lady, chores galore, and still my house looks like a tornado just hit. Ya' know what, it did :) I have high maintenance friends who get the heebie geebies when they enter my home. But my children will remember the time we hang out and play, not the endless hours I spend slaving over household duties. The house will be clean soon enough--and the noise and laughter will be away at college. (My home was spotless growing up. My friends didn't like being there b/c it was too stuffy and might upset the maid--aka mom.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharon H in IL Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I think we all react to our homes growing up. If they were happy places, we want to re-create that, whether they were tidy or messy. If they were not happy, we try the opposite in hopes of effecting the opposite emotional state. Turns out I'm happiest when my home is neat and clean. My kids hear me say "A tidy home is a happy home!" Not really true, of course, at least in a causative way, but having external order helps my internal peace. It's easier now that the children are older, and you can't always tell where they've been by the tornado left behind. But my overarching goal is a happy home, where children are allowed to be children, and we learn cooperation and joy. Some of that learned while scrubbing toilets. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Don't worry about it, I doubt a boy would notice things like that anyway! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KristineIN Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I think we all react to our homes growing up. If they were happy places, we want to re-create that, whether they were tidy or messy. If they were not happy, we try the opposite in hopes of effecting the opposite emotional state. Turns out I'm happiest when my home is neat and clean. My kids hear me say "A tidy home is a happy home!" Not really true, of course, at least in a causative way, but having external order helps my internal peace. It's easier now that the children are older, and you can't always tell where they've been by the tornado left behind. But my overarching goal is a happy home, where children are allowed to be children, and we learn cooperation and joy. Some of that learned while scrubbing toilets. ;) I'm happiest when my home is neat and clean also, my mom had a lot of clutter growing up (it's only gotten worse) and so our house is pretty clutter free, and a place for everything, everything in it's place. Someone could stop by at a moment's notice and things would be relatively clean. Now we do have days when there's more dust on the furniture than others and the kitchen isn't as tidy, but our beds are always made and clothes are always put away or in the laundry room. But we have plenty of friends that aren't like this and we love them anyway. Kristine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 A friend once told me her house keeping skills were an example to make others feel better about theirs. (And yes, her home was a total mess). A good friend does not care what your home is like, just that it is a home for your children and friends, filled with laughs and warmth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rhonda in TX Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 You sound just like me. I was just discussing this with DH tonight. The mess stresses me out, but I haven't been able to get control of it. I was diagnosed ADD a bit over a year ago and it explains so much! I ordered the book ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life and I'm hoping it helps. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenschooler Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I had a 4 yr. old little boy (that I was babysitting) once tell me that I needed to be sure to mop the kitchen floor before he came over next time. I had to wonder where that came from! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elisabeth in IL Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I have to admit that I haven't had anyone over in quite some time because of the state of my house. Everything is neater in the summer when I can push the boys outside and when they aren't involved with as many things in the afternoons. I'm soooooo tired out by everything that should be done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DKinTX Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 LOL! Dh called me last Saturday morning (right before "family cleaning Saturday " was about to start and announce dtha the was bringing the pastor home from men's Bible study, and they would be there in 10 minutes. :eek: :eek: Oh no, dh would be in BIG trouble with me if he were to pull a stunt like that! hahahaha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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