sassenach
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Well, I kiiiiinda see your point, but not really.;) I think that the standard should be the standard. If it's a show about amateurs getting their big break, then keep it that way. I found this from season 7. Vewy intewesting.:D
I'm not picking on you, just quoting you because you quoted me.:001_smile:
Oh, and I don't like Adam as a singer. I think that he screeches something awful. My ears are much more suited to a guy like Matt Giraud or David Cook. I am not a fan of boys who look like girls, ie the nail polish and eyeliner.
No worries. It is impossible for me to feel picked on about AI. :) I agree about the eyeliner. When it gets down to it, I'm pulling for Danny.
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This is funny
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The last time we went to the tar pits, we happened upon LACMA. On Sundays they set up free art projects for kids and free admission into the museum as well. It was a lot of fun.
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I think it is extremely hypocritical of AI to let him stay when they got rid of Joanna Pacitti for that very reason.
This is a quote from the original article linked above
This year, one “ringer†has already been removed: Joanne Pacitti, who apparently was a friend of the show’s producers.I think being a friend of the show's producers is a different issue, if that is the case.
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I'm pretty sure that Kelly Clarkson had a record deal before, as well as Brooke White, and a bunch of others who have already been mentioned. It doesn't bug me at all. I have several friends who have had record deals, but their professional careers haven't gone very far. There is a huge gap between record deal and successful career. That said, I haven't read the article, so maybe Adam's experience goes beyond that. I still dig his 80's hair band voice.
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I was so excited!!! Oh, but I'm sad for Carter. No kids, split from Kem....
So excited to see Doug and Carol all in love still, it made my heart pitter patter. It was such a great episode, ER is my all time favorite show. I haven't watched it in a few years, but it's been on for half of my life! I was reminded why I don't watch dramas anymore, the old man and his wife had me all teary eyed.
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#2 sounds fantastic if I'm thinking about my 11yo. When I consider it for my 6yo, nope, not as appealing. I'd go with choir. Keep things simple.
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In general, if we have had a fantastic home school day, the house will be thrashed. If the house is clean, we probably didn't have a great school day. I am not organized or tidy by nature, so I don't have the expectation that I will ever get it all done. At least not in the same day.
Homeschooling IS a full time job. You have to treat your expectations as far as the house is concerned as you would if you were working out of the house all day long. The only difference being that the kids are still home to mess it up. I really just do the best that I can and prioritize from there. For me, the dinner issue was getting out of control, so I have made that a priority. This is my pecking order at the moment-
1) clean clothes for DH.
2) homeschooling with excellence.
3) Meals planned and cooked on time
4) everything else!
Believe me, a lot falls by the wayside in that everything else category. I try to tackle it a little at a time, focussing on problem areas as I can. I will never have the cleanest house in the world. I also think we're far from being slobs. I shoot for somewhere in between (hopefully landing closer to the super clean side). Give yourself a lot of grace!
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I've been talking to my Mormon neighbor, my 12yo and my daughter all evening. Among other things, the reason this woman's actions are so repugnant to me is that she proved herself to be an unsafe adult. And this is what I told my child. When my daughter plugged her ears because she was DONE with the sermons, the woman continued to push her views. Over and over, my daughter gave a boundary and this woman ignored that boundary and pushed her views on my daughter until my daughter relented and gave in. This was over the course of weeks. I'm not sure if you got that Aubrey (hope I spelled that correctly). It wasn't a one-time thing.
She targeted my daughter, the youngest and most impressionable and kept at her and at her and at her until she finally relented and "believed in God'. In my view, that makes her equal to a sexual predator without the molestion. She just mind-**cked her.
I hadn't really thought through this part before. How your dd put up boundaries and she pushed through them. Not that you need me to tell you, but you are absolutely right, she is not safe. Before I was thinking that people were over reacting because I don't think she's do anything to physically harm your child. But reading this post makes it clear to me that the danger is in the way she is pushing past your dd's boundaries and violating her mentally.
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I kept thinking about this and it really has me ticked. The responses from the couple of people who say they are "torn" on the issue is especially irksome.
Just because your religion tells you to spread the word to others doesn't mean you have any real right to do it, especially to someone else's child.
I don't think this woman has any right to discuss religion with your child without your permission. Were it me, I would tell her to quit her religious ambush and disallow any contact with my child ever again. If she continued, I'd seriously consider a restraining order. I would consider what she is doing mental and emotional assault.
And her blog posts about your daughter... creepy doesn't even begin to cover it. I would be afraid for my child's safety.
You're right- she doesn't have the right. I guess the only thing I'm torn about is the motive. I can relate to her motive, so I don't find it as devious as you do. Knowing your history, I totally get why this is so disturbing to you. In the end, i still agree with you- she's totally out of line.
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I would disagree with Aubrey & Meg in that I do think this mom has an unhealthy fixation -- on herself. "See how cleverly I describe in great detail a beautiful child?! See what a good Christian I am!" Perhaps she's harmless, but my gut reaction is that she's a nutjob.
I think you're on to something here. I'm in the same camp with Aubrey, where I'm really torn here. As a Christian, I hear her heart. There is no separating my love for Jesus and my love for others. On the other hand.... I've been thinking this over- could I ever see myself doing what she has done.
1) The puppy- yes, I could see myself doing that. There is no separation between my Christian walk and any generosity that comes out of me. I'm really not generous on my own.
2) Talking to another's child about God- Not the way she is doing. I do not hide my faith. My kids openly talk about God and Jesus often. BUT, I would not ask the leading questions that she is doing. If asked, I would absolutely answer my truthful beliefs, but I would not pursue conversations of the sort. In my experience, 7yos don't usually ask adults other than their parents questions unless they are very close with that adult. Well, maybe some 7yos, but I can't think of one time I've been asked a question about God by someone else's 7yo outside of church/close friend setting.
3)blogging about it- NO! NO! NO! On one hand, at least you know what is going on. On the other, wow it's so wrong.
You've got to talk to her one way or the other. Quite frankly, she needs to know the damage she is doing to friendships, trust and how she is perceived by others outside of the faith. She needs a humbling. I can't say what I would do in your shoes. Knowing Jesus is literally a life or death thing to me. Someone trying to convince one of my children that there is no God would be like someone trying to kill my child. If the situations were reversed, I would absolutely cut them off from my child. In your situation, I'm not sure. You have been disrespected and your authority is being subverted. Is that grounds for cutting off the relationships between your children and hers- I don't know, you'll have to decide. Maybe a talk will be enough, maybe not. No matter what, I would demand that the descriptions of my dd be taken down.
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My first suggestion is, no more yelling. Keep your voice calm and even toned. It's hard, I know, but you have to garner that control of yourself. Second, tell her, "If you {misbehave in whatever way}, then you will have earned for yourself {loss of tv time, or whatever}." She'll test it, to be sure. When she sasses, simply say, "I'm sorry you've chosen to speak to me that way. You have lost the privilege to watch SpongeBob tonight." No need to get all elevated about it, just be simple and matter of fact. When she starts to pitch a hissy, simply pick her up and put her in her room and lock the door. Let her have her hissy. If she messes the room, she gets to clean it when she calms down. Don't continue to pile on repercussions to the initial offense if she completely overreacts. For example, if she tosses a fit, don't say, "Well, you've now lost 2 Spongebobs!" That's a tit for tat that's futile. Make every consequence be directly related to the offense. She lost SpongeBob because she chose to be sassy. She's sent to her room for having a fit. She's cleaning the room because she chose to thrash it during the fit.
Kids need to know what's acceptable and that you're in control and that you mean what you say. Any deviation of that paradigm and they've gotcha and getting their respect or getting them to obey is extremely difficult. I think the most important things to remember is: stay in control of your own emotions, set limits, expect them to be tested, and stick to your guns with consistency.
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That's good stuff. With my strong willed child, superhuman calm and consistency have been key. Here are the things we've done that have yielded positive results-
*Keeping absolute control over my emotions and voice. Yelling does NOTHING to help with him. <raising my voice with my super compliant oldest has always been instantly effective, so I had to retrain myself>
*Consistency- if I let him get away with something once, he WILL try to walk all over me.
*Telling him in advanced what my expectations are and what the consequences will be for disobeying.
*Extra attention- This especially applies to time with my husband. I will take time to cuddle with him, read a book, ect. When dad takes him out, he usually gives a little "man of the house" pep talk. Things dh says to him have a deep impact. For your dd, she may need an extra dose of mommy time. Personally, I do not connect positive attention with bad behavior. In other words, if a child sasses me, I will not pull them up on my lap in that moment for a cuddle. I will make a point of it later on though.
*Jobs, work and overall busyness. My SWC is also my energy factory. I try to keep him very, very busy throughout the day. For your dd, I would consider keeping her close to your hip. Involve her in your work, give her jobs of her own.
Some general rules here-
*When I give them instruction or correction- they need to respond with "yes Mom." This lets me know that they hear and understand me.
*When someone wrongs another person (including talking back to me), the offender must apologize, "I am sorry <insert name>, I was wrong, would you please forgive me?" That apology has become key because my kids are the type who will not say "I was wrong, " unless they mean it. So it usually flushes out any unresolved heart issues or unconfessed wrongs by the other person.
*emotional outbursts and unkind talk are straight to your room offenses- every time.
Ds 6 is my SWC. We do not spank him. It does not work for him. We use time outs in his room, and taking away privileges. DD4 is my emotional outburst child, and probably the worst as far as sassiness. She gets time outs in her room and spankings, because it works. DD11 is my super-compliant child, our sheer disappointment has always been enough correction for her. Grounding also works, but is rarely necessary. They are ALL different.
You've received a lot of advice, I can only tell you what has worked in our house. I hope you find a solution that works for your dd. The only things that I think are universally effective are CONSISTENCY AND CALM. Whatever approach you decide on, do it without raising your voice and never waiver from the plan. (((HUGS))))
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OK, I really need to seperate your question from the dishwasher bit. I would struggle without a dishwasher. For us, going from 3 to 4 was not a big deal. Personally, my big transition was from 1 to 2. By the time we got to 3 and 4, I was very comfortable with parenting/newborns/the general pattern of our lives. Bringing another one in was not hard to do. Of course, YMMV :)
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not at all. I would be more upset that the kids treated the sub wrong.
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Overall, I like her studies. I didn't like Believing God, I think because it was light weight and I really hate light weight studies. I thought Daniel was excellent because it got away from "tell me about me" type I studies. To each his own. My dh hates the general Beth Moore fixation that many churches seem to have.
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This is the fastest way to gain weight (or not lose it) that I have ever encountered. Let your family get their hands on this recipe and you are doomed. They'll leave half of it on the table for whoever wants it, and it will call your name....
RUN! DO NOT RETURN HERE! YOU'LL BE BUYING A LARGER SIZE WITHIN A MONTH! GO! SHOO!
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Tell me about it! I ended up "cleanng up after" three half-finished mugs this evening. I better be careful.
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FLL
WWE
Singapore 1
ETC
Phonics pathways
HWT
Lots of library books for science, history, art
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Yay! I was the best mom ever when I made this tonight :)
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If it isn't already planned for me (SL), I am just a "do the next thing" type of gal. At the beginning of the year, I look over any material that isn't broken down into lessons that fit the school year and figure out how many pages per week to cover. Other than that, I don't do much planning. I did make a loop chart this year and I keep a learning record for ds6, but nothing hardcore. I'm just not wired that way.
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As a group, I've always thought of hs moms to be on the more dominant end of personalities. While I wouldn't call myself a control freak, I know quite a lot of hs moms that would fall under that umbrella. Hsing is a counter culture lifestyle, so I have to think that you'd have to have a somewhat dominant, or at least confident personality. I actually think that I am not a controller, but I have a fierce independent streak that has allowed me to go against the norm without caring much of what anybody else thinks. I'm INFP, if that helps at all.
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If it's between sharing a room or a better financial situation, I would go for better financials without hesitation. All of our kids have shared or not shared and I think there are benefits both ways if all things were equal.
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I was around for less than a year before the change.
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Thanks for the replies so far. It really helps just to hear what others have done.
Cadam, I'm considering a change because I only have 2 more years with dd and I'm very focused on her being fully prepared for highschool. I love MUS, but I've seen repeated concerns about it's upper levels. If we were hsing through highschool, I might go with it knowing I could backtrack if need be, but we're not.If what you are doing is working, why change it?
Electric bill
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We had our largest bill ever in January, right before we moved out of that house. It was $500 for 2000sq ft, all electric house. We didn't even have central heat in that house. We used space heaters at night (as little as possible) and a wood stove the rest of the time. I was always cold in that place. It was shocking to me because the highest bill we ever had in Florida was $350, with a/c on 24/7 and a pool pump running daily. Anyhow, you said that you are trying to heat the house to 70? That's pretty high. We shoot for 65 in the day and I drop our thermostat to 55 at night, now that we have moved to a place with central (gas) heating. Our first bill in this place was $125 and I was jumping for joy. Is this your first bill in that house?