Hi everyone, my dd is starting college in 2 weeks. I had been planning on getting her the vaccine this week, didn't even think twice but when I told her, she said she doesn't want it. She's highly sensitive to pharmaceuticals, can't even stand advil, so I understand her objections, but I am a bit freaked. I understand the risk is low, but at the same time... She is going to a large research uni with it's own major hospital, so if she ever got sick, the ER is a block away. How many here don't get the vaccine, or is it non-negotiable in your view?

I have a beach house. It's my second home so I don't rent it out. It is a popular destination so we go there and we are bound to see friends all summer long. Lots of fun for our kids. I dislike traveling and love the comforts of home so owning this place has been great.

I upgrade every year, paying retail,when Apple releases the new phone. I just love smartphones. I save money in other ways so this is my indulgence.

I am an insanely jealous wife and I'm not embarrassed by it and my dh knows.

Can I just say you seem like such a loving dil and your mil is blessed to have such children who are so concerned with her day to day well being. This has been such a encouraging thread to read. Thank you

I'm sure this is one of those things where it just depends. I have a friend whose husband is a attractive surgeon. I agree with her rules for their marriage. Women are predatory...even the unmarried female doctors. The things I hear make my jaw drop. She needs to guard their marriage with a alligator infested moat...and snipers And then there are other men who are so neutral, they just don't get the same reactions from women, so maybe that person's spouse is fine with whatever. Personally, the only way I agreed to marry my dh was for him to end all female friendships, and he had a lot. No way no how.

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Yes! My experience too! It's gotten to the point where I do have a derogatory view of hsers although I've been one for 17 years! They are the worst and have burned me to the point where I won't lift a finger for ANYONE. Someone's raising money for adoption? I don't care Someone's house burned down? I don't care And I certainly don't care if you can't afford a kid's activities. Please let it be known that I grew up poor. My parents never paid for activities so I do know what that is like. I am working on letting it go, but it was so bad. At the time, I was still under the delusion that hsers were wonderful Godly believers who all worked for their families and the greater good of all families to hs. NOT!!!!!! Yup. I have vowed to never volunteer again for the rest of my life. I've decided I will be PAID for whatever I do. Now if I chose to take that payment and donate it, that will be my prerogative, BUT I will be paid for any work. I'm am immigrant. My parents never had money for extras. I am first generation college, my dh (and I as hser) working fields where it is racially homogenous, and neither of us have ever had mentors that helped us get to where we are. My dh and I have WORKED so very hard to get where we are. I do hold the belief that everyone is responsible for their own. If you want it, go get it.

I'm reading that other thread "Tips to Prepare to become a homeschooling mom" and the replies are fascinating. I have now been married for 25 years, and have homeschooled for most of those years. I am a different person and many of my views have changed with age and experiences. So, I'm curious to know how life has turned out for you in comparison with your dreams and plans? For me: 1. I am not encouraging my dd to become a full time SAHM. After 25 yrs of married life, I have seen enough horror stories even within my small hs community to know I will never put my dd at risk like that. She has seen it too and agrees. She has chosen a high demand profession with incredible flexibility. She can work part-time, from home, or contract work. 2. I don't know if I would have homeschooled this long. Homeschooling high school has been very hard. It's all consuming to give them a full education and I don't recommend it to anyone. 3. We have had health scares with my husband and it is scary to be so reliant on one person. It is by the grace of God we have made it thus far and I look forward to working. How about you?

It ultimately depends what your priorities and goals are and your personality. I'm sure there are many people who work and homeschool high school and are great at it, but I was not going to be one of those people. I had a fabulous part time job that paid for all the extras and was on evenings and weekends, so dh was home to drive the kids. But I am an all or nothing kind of person and I knew I would not be able to homeschool to excellence if I stayed at the job so I quit the summer my oldest started high school. And I made the right choice. High school for me was brutal. I focused completely on academics, enrichment, sports and socialization ...... and it consumed me. My kids also turned out to be very social (they weren't as much when they were little), and the need for time with friends has been intense. But that's because I will do whatever I need to, to make it happen. They have wonderful friends and I wanted to nurture those relationships. If it had not happened, I know they would have been bitter about homeschooling.

Yes! I LOVE makeup!! I'm a Sephora VIB Rouge level! But I know how to use it to enhance and take very good care of my skin so that I don't need a ton on makeup. I love my eyeshadow and lipstick though.

Thank you! How long is a counselor letter? It seems people say all different things...

I am dying. I've searched these boards and all over the internet and I still can't figure this out. What is the difference between: 1. Counselor Letter 2. Secondary School Report 3. School Profile ??? And the schools that he is applying to are asking to know why we homeschool, how we went about it, etc etc. Where does this info go? Thank you to anyone who can clarify this for me!

It has happened again. Being of middle age has not helped me to be more shrewd. I try to treat others the way I want to be treated. So I give and help out. Many times, I do things for others in an effort to build relationship. It has rarely worked. People just use me and then push me out. More than anything, I feel stupid and like such a sucker. Again. How do I forgive and forget?

My one kids wants to apply to Dartmouth and UVA. He started Spanish in middle school cause it just worked out better with the tutor and his siblings. So he finished with Spanish 4 freshman year and Spanish 5 in sophomore year. Took the SAT subject, scored well. That means he will only have 2 years of language for high school. Admissions won't look at just the two years and dismiss him, will they? I am hoping they understand that he stated in middle school?

https://welltrainedmind.com/wp-content/uploads/Sample-High-School-Transcript.pdf

I do add their senior year credits to the credit count? Although they are not completed classes?

Thank you all for your answers. It has been so helpful! Also, then, when you submit the transcript with the application during senior year, I should not count the senior classes in the credit count, correct? Since they didn't earn them yet...

Yes, but are colleges ok with hsers assigning credit during times like summer when public schoolers don't have that opportunity? I'm afraid of being dismissed as having just assigned mommy grades and inflating my child's work

I did not know this! Good grief, I'm out dated! wow, that is a crazy amount of classes!

wow, 100 credits would definitely not be possible in the US!

I just saw Susan Bauer's kid's transcript on her website. I was shocked to see how many credits s(he) had each year! Over 30 credits for high school. She said that the child got into all colleges including first choice. Most public school kids can only get 6-7 credits per year, so are colleges ok with hsers claiming so many credits? I could see the less selective colleges not really being concerned but how about the selective and ultra selective schools? My one kid is interested in Dartmouth and UVA. Will they look like a loser hser by only having 7 credits per year? :lol: How many credits have your homeschooled college students finish high school with?

YES! THIS! I've hsed for 17 years, lived in three states, live in the Northeast near a major city, always been very active in the hs community but the ignorance that comes out of the parents mouths and therefore the kids is comical and astounding..... I swear, it's like out of the 80's!! 1. Adoptive mom, who has two kids from my native country, asked why my skin was so much lighter than her kids? 2. Some parents still refer to me as Oriental 3. Just a couple weeks ago, a 16 year old (!!!!!!!!) asked my senior if he could actually see out of his eyes. FYI, my kids have large dish eyes. 4. Kids asking mine if we eat dogs. 5. And of course, the classic and common: turning nose up to any food we have. I even once packed cut-up hot dogs (with a ketchup pack) for my kid and another teen asked if it was Asian food. Honestly, I have thick skin and will sometimes correct if I care enough, but overall, as my kids say, most hs kids are an experience away from getting their butt kicked.

My husband and I are both Asian- American. I don't want to say specific nationality due to privacy. There are so few Asian hsers, I feel like if I say which country I am from and just give a few broad details about myself, I feel like I will know someone on these boards!! Our parents both migrated to the US about the same time, we were about 5-6. So we both grew up here and have completely assimilated into our country. Asians do not hs because they think it is an inferior education. Our parents went through so much to come to this country for the education, why would they turn their back on it now? Trust me, if these Asian parents personally knew homeschooled kids who got into the ivy league, they would be doing it in droves. But I don't blame them. When I first heard about hsing, I read about families who got their kids into elite schools, but after being in the hs community for years, I have still not met one hs kid in person who went to a elite school. Most hsers I know go to community college, small state schools or don't go to college at all. These choices would be horrifying to the average Asian parent.

me too. is there any way to prevent this? how would one go about dealing with such a situation if they were not prepared?