$5 is fair. Part of what you are paying for is reliability and for the other party to leave at a mutually agreeable time. He may also feel the need to alter his behavior (music, phone conversations, eating, etc.) in the car due to your son's presence and that deserves to be compensated as well.

I see the age of your ds and that is the same age I sent my ds back to school. I was so tired of fighting him. He sometimes asks to homeschool again, but I remind him of why he was sent to school.

The reason the a full second kitchen is illegal is because of city zoning. This is a single family residential zone. Having two full kitchens makes it really easy to divide a house. The city doesn't want to police how people are using second kitchens so they are just banned. Home occupations are generally allowed if they take place in the main home and are not visible to a casual observer. Accessory building are generally not allowed to be used for a home occupation. The reasoning is that it is more likely for loud activities to take place which would be detrimental to the neighborhood. I know I wouldn't want my neighbor operating a cabinetry shop from his garage. Some uses are best for commercial and industrial areas. Here, the city and the HOA both have regulations regarding them.

That's what I have my agent working on right now. I want historic figures and the current owners who haven't lived in the house are friends with the previous owners who did so they should be available. I live in the same HOA as the new construction homes and the HOA is not pushy, at least not yet. I haven't known anyone to have issues with the HOA. Our last neighborhood HOA would wait for homes to sell and then present the new owner with a list of violations. I thought that practice was abhorrent!

There are kids in this area that have never moved and have been to 4 different elementary schools. It's really hard for a lot of these kids.

Unfortunately, no.

I have never heard this usage but it reminded me of when I was in college and after a test was returned this guy asked me what I made. I had no idea what he meant because I hadn't made anything. We went back and forth until I finally figured it out and I asked him if he wanted to know what I got on the test. He made grades. I got grades.

That's a really beautiful coin. Tempted to get one.

Thank you for this. Dd is not just another version of Veruca Salt. She has challenges in her life that are out of her control and she has dealt with more than a child her age should have to deal with. My motivations are so driven by the mental and physical needs of my children. Both are important.

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That is the norm here as well but this is the exception as it is a very high demand area. The school is only a couple years old but there have been boundary changes after each school year. Kids who were enrolled last year were banned from returning. There is a lot of new construction in this area.

We have a small lot right now and there is no way we could build an addition let alone a small house. The reason we want an apartment is because ds is so adamant he's moving out. He's going to really struggle with the reality that he isn't going to go away to college and be on his own. We want to give him the biggest sense of independence that he can have. The reasons have much more to do with mental health than physical needs.

Your question is a good one. I've always assumed yes because of where we live in relationship to the school. However, I just hear back from the principal who's apparently burning the midnight oil answering emails. It's not certain. There were boundary changes last year as well and the board voted to let incoming highest grade students stay at the school. Apparently there is no guarantee for this year because there are 2 new board members who replaced 2 of the board members who voted to let students stay last year. The response from the principal wasn't positive. It was just uncertain.

60s. Haven't turned on the heat yet this winter.

It's not a need. It's a want but it's important to dd and I understand why. Ds doesn't have much modesty and she still remembers his poop smearing phase. It wasn't that long ago. Imagine having to share a bathroom with a kid who smears poop everywhere. She's lived that life and she doesn't want to live it again. I don't think having your own bathroom or bedroom is a necessity but for this particular kid it is important. We're not dealing with a typical situation at our house, unfortunately.

I so curious about your family secrets! The way some of you describe them make them sound si mysterious. My dad grew up visiting Grandma J who lived up the hill. She wasn't really his grandma but it turns out she really was his younger brother's grandma. He didn't know this until his father died and his mother told him. Dad's older sister remembered a big fight between her parents when her mom was pregnant with the younger brother but never knew what it was about. My grandpa raised him like his own even though he knew better.

I forgot to mention that House 1 has septic and a private water company. From what I understand, private water companies can be very expensive. The owners of the home have never lived in it (long story as to why) so there isn't an accurate water bill to evaluate the cost. The house also has a propane tank. House 2 and 3 have sewer and city water as well as natural gas stubbed from the street.

I somewhat favor this option too. The only issue I have is that ds is constantly saying that he can't wait to move out. He really thinks he's going to graduate from high school and go away to college. Dh feels that ds won't feel independent if he's attached to the house. House 1 gives the option of a full apartment. The kitchen is larger than some kitchens I've had. It's bigger than the kitchen of the home I grew up in. I feel like it makes a statement that says we believe in him because he would be living the same way as people who live in a one bedroom apartment live. Living with a mini fridge and no stove doesn't send the same message. Perhaps he wouldn't think of it like that though. Maybe I'm just over analyzing this.

Good thing to consider. There are some good toaster ovens our there from what I understand. I'll have to look further into that.

Yes, we looked at several houses that had enough land to build a guest home. The problem is that amount of land required by ordinance for a guest home puts homes at the top of our price bracket. If the house is nice, we can't afford to build the guest house too. There isn't much to even look at and the one home we did like only had 2.5 bathrooms which makes dd cry when she thinks about sharing a bathroom. I didn't see the point of doing that when everything else still needed to be built. I am willing to make her share for the right situation though. Every house we have looked at has it's own oddities. We saw some strange stuff.

Dh and I are feeling compelled to find a home with a guest home to meet the needs of our special needs son. He wants to be independent but we don't have confidence that he will be able to be independent. We want to get him a level of independence that everyone will be comfortable with. He's only a freshman in high school but we feel like we need to take action now because if interest rates continue to rise, we will be priced out of the market. We would plan on staying in this house forever. Right now, we are considering three options. House 1 is 20 years old with 4 bedrooms and 2.5 bathrooms on .65 acre. Main house has a 3 car garage although it only has the potential to park 2 cars in it. As it currently sits, only 1 car could be parked in the garage. It has a detached 4 car garage with a 800 sq. ft. 1 bedroom apartment with laundry facilities and a full kitchen. The full kitchen is a big deal. When we moved to our current home, we held to the criteria that each child would have their own bathroom. This is not possible in this house. That is a compromise which dd is very upset by. The house has a swimming pool which is appropriate to our area but something we didn't want for our current home. The house has standard closets and we are used to walk-in closets. There is some deferred maintenance that would need to be given consideration. The house comes furnished. The furnishings are fine, although there is way too much of it. Everything in the house is included and there is simply so much stuff in the house. So much stuff. It's overwhelming. It would be a job to dispose of, although there are some items that I would choose to keep. It also could be an opportunity to recoup some of the house cost. We spent time trying to guess at the cost of the furnishings but so much is antique that it is too hard to guess at. The furnishings could be a liability or a boon. There is no way to know without further research. The neighborhood is a mismatch of homes. There are million dollar homes and homes that are clearly so deferred in maintenance that they're somewhat embarrassing to live by. The house is also outside our current elementary school boundary which dd attends. The school is at capacity so there is no guarantee dd would be allowed to return for next year, which is also the school year she would graduate the school. I have an email into the principal to see about whether she would be allowed to stay, but since school boundaries are likely changing, he may not have an answer. It's also possible that boundary realignments could cause this house to become part of dd's school boundary. I don't want dd to have to change schools. She's had a lot of schooling transition and she's happy where she is at. The house is in the county although it is surrounded by city. County regulations would allow us to rent out the guest house until it is needed for ds. There is no HOA. Dh feels this property would allow ds to have more at home occupational choices as there is plenty of land to allow for other accessory structures. He specifically mentioned dog breeding which dh has experience with. The kitchen is large enough that he could do a food based business as well. DH prefers the width of this garage over House 2 and it is larger than House 3's detached garage. House 2 is new construction. We would be able to have say in all the details. It has 4 bedrooms and 3.5 bathrooms, 4 car garage on .45 acre lot. It would have an RV garage with an attached guest home with 1 bedroom and 1 bath. There is contradictory information from the builder regarding laundry facilities in the guest house so that is unclear at this point. The kitchen is not full and is not allowed to have a stove. We think we may have a work around this to redo the kitchen aftermarket but it would technically be an illegal second kitchen. The home meets our bathroom requirements and has walk-in closets. The guest house is smaller than house 1. It is in an HOA which would not allow the guest house to be rented until we need it. It is in our current school boundary and our children have friends who live in this neighborhood. We don't have an RV and likely never will but in order to have the guest house, the RV garage is necessary. Dh does want a detached garage though so it's just a matter of what type of garage. After the RV garage and home are built, there is not much yard left although it's plenty to satisfy our needs. House 3 is also new construction in the same neighborhood as house 2. We can have the say in all the details on this house as well. It can be built on a .45 acre lot or a .70 acre lot. It has 4 bedrooms and 4.5 bathrooms, 4 car garage. The guest house is contained within the main home. The main house surpasses our bathroom needs and is very functional. It's a bigger house than we need for now, but when you figure the guest house is within the main house, it's perfect for us. We would also build a detached 2 car garage for dh. The guest house can be entered from the outside so ds could have independence. Dh feels the guest house would ideally be separate from the main house but I don't feel that's an issue because it has it's own entrance. The guest house kitchen has the same limitations as house 2. We could alter it but then we would have an illegal kitchen. Depending on which lot, there will either be a great yard space or a smaller yard which meets our needs but doesn't allow for the same opportunities of house 1. The HOA of house 2 and 3 eliminate the possibility of living next to deferred maintenance homes and adds an extra monthly expense for dues but there is a community swimming pool, walking paths, and parks. It would cost the same amount to maintain the pool at house 1 though. All of the homes are within 1 mile of our current home. We like where we are at. We like the home we are currently in. We just are looking to our future needs and realizing this house won't always meet our needs. The difference in cost of these homes is about $50,000. It's not significant enough of a figure to make a difference as to which home to choose. There are pros and cons to all the options and I'm not sure which direction to proceed so I thought I'd try to get some input from the hive.

I have had the name on my credit card matched to my warehouse card numerous time. I assume this is why they keep the membership card.

I make a traditional Thanksgiving dinner. We always go to to the movies as well. Usually we go after dinner but last year we went while the turkey was in the oven and I think I liked that better.

Everyone has been so kind to me. Thank you! It really means so much to me.

That was an ugly day. I was on a trip with both my mother and my mother-in-law, (this is relevant to where I stabbed her in the heart.) I was vomiting and made a bit of a mess and my mother was yelling at me about the mess. I lost my baby and all my mother could do is yell at me for vomiting. And she still can't see why I let my MIL help me and not her. I understand that would be painful to her, but clearly someone who yells at a vomiting person is not a source of comfort.