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Phil & Claire's older daughter on Modern Family.
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In college, I was just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him how much that beer weighs.
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😂😂😂😂😂
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We have a public safety patrol to call for stuff like that through the fire department. I did call once for someone passed out on the sidewalk. By the time I could pull over to call it in someone else already did.
What a great resource - I should probably see if we have something like that and get that number programmed into my phone contact list.
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This is so true. If we put our own intellectual needs aside in anticipation of those great-and-challenging high school years, how short we can sell ourselves!I agree high school is more interesting to "teach", but my older kid is graduating after just 2 years of high school. So...I didn't get much time with that and he has become so independent. He prefers to work on stuff himself and check in with me.
Those years ARE great, but they are SHORT! And they are also the years when our students want to be engaging with others than just mom; after all, they have reached the rhetoric stage, they need someone to go practice their rhetoric with!
Seriously, we move heaven and earth to make sure our kids get the interaction they need with others. I believe there's nothing wrong with preserving a wee bit of time to do the same for ourselves. Certainty my dh (and I'll bet many of yours here on the board) manages to do it. Yes, we rightly order priorities, but don't throw in the towel.
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Is it truly the lack of intellectual pursuits, or perhaps the lack of adult level conversation about those pursuits? Because I remember many years when I enjoyed my active duty SAHM cohorts - including the homeschooling ones - but honestly the conversation tended to revolve around the same homemaking and homeschooling topics all the time. What I really longed for was peers interested in the same other (non-homemaking, non-homeschooling) interests as mine, and the time to have meaningful discussions and interactions with those folks.
After many seasons at this, I will say the ability to engage in personal interests came in seasons. Sometimes all I could put on the schedule was what was right in front of me, in the home with school and family needs. But there were also seasons where there was more freedom to make time for individual interests. In hindsight, I would have been more proactive to preserve some personal-pursuit time on a regular basis as my children were young and growing.
OP, your feelings on this are worthy of note. Motherhood, and certainly homeschooling, involve a high degree of sacrificial living. But I will always remember something our good old boardie Joanne once said (though I am sorry I will surely not quote it perfectly). Our children are not necessarily best served by watching us martyr ourselves in bringing them up. Yes, we can be good mothers and at the same time good people with interesting pursuits that inspire our children to become passionate about pursuits of their own.
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That's so sad, and you wonder what's going on at home because they obviously must know it's happening. I'd call 911 next time. The police would maybe pick him up and drive him home, and it will put that whole family on their radar, if nothing else.
What's going on at that home?
My first thought is that given the amount of beer he appears to buying, they are all drunk and he is the courrier. Hard to know exactly what to do since they are all adults. Next time I would call 911 or the police.
Any idea if there are other children/underage or even elderly people in the home? If so, CPS or Elder Abuse authorities could be contacted.
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Definitely. Makes me wonder what she's up to. :(
Would be my first thought.
Sounds like you have some good healthy boundaries in place.
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Leather bottomed Jansport. Lifetime warranty!
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Now now gals, a kid might not be magically an adult at 18, but at that age it probably is time to at least start discussing the topic. "You know, you are growing into an adult and your relationship with your father will someday have to continue without me to act as a buffer. I hope you will think about what you want that relationship to look like and maybe we can talk about ways to help you get to that place." Or whatever words work best.
And like advice to parents of toddlers, you can't apply reason in the midst of conflict, the discussion might need to wait until after the current issue is resolved. But really, he should come to the realization that the responsibility of relationship maintenance will be fully his in a few short years. The next few transition years can be a time of working through ways to make that happen.
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Yes, hard to maintain healthy boundaries when you're canned up together.It occurred to me that maybe your ds would feel 'trapped' with his father on the kind of trip his father is wanting to take with ds. No way out should things go sour, kind of thing. Maybe, if he could come up with ways to exit quickly should things begin to go badly, he would feel more like going? Don't know.
Oh, and I know exactly what you mean about appearances. My dh's mother is like that. It's all about appearances, bragging rights, etc. About them, IOW.
Also, probably not since you haven't mentioned it, but is ds also wanting to avoid xh's new significant other?
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You know how great your hair feels when you leave the salon, all sleek and shiny?
What product(s) do I need to make it feel that way when I do it myself, and where do I need to buy it? My hair is not curly, a little on the fine side.
Please share some of your favorites with me.
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Yes, maybe they chose the wrong option.
A recent order delivered by an Amazon contracted delivery driver to my home shows:
"Your package was left in the mail room. The delivery was received by (my name)."
It was actually left in our home mailbox (regular ol' metal mailbox out by the street) and I was away for the day when it was delivered. Pretty sure they aren't supposed to leave non-postal packages in the mailbox...
(edited, pesky preposition)
The delivery person may have accidentally pressed a wrong button, but this should still be reported to Amazon. It can be done in a friendly way. I believe it's a good idea to mention such things - who knows, maybe a lot of other people are experiencing similar issues with certain delivery drivers.
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My dh loves using the souls vide. It drives me crazy because it takes up so much counter space when it is in use, and it’s loud. Loud, I tell you. He’s going to make brisket next week. It’s yummy, but that thing is going to be on the counter all.day.long.
Set up a table in the garage. That's what I do when I use the big toaster oven for a turkey or other big-batch stuff.
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I broke my 70-odd week streak of Tightwad Tuesday movie watching this week. The person I usually go with couldn’t make it and I’d seen everything I was interested in.
I avoided the 3 Billboard movie (not up for the drama, violence, language, racism, etc), read that 15:17 was too slow, I’ve always hated every western I’ve seen, so Hostiles was out, and The Post was at the theater farthest from me and I wasn’t up for the drive. Otherwise I’d seen all the other movies (except 50 shades—totally not interested) or they were kid movies. I’m so done with kid movies.
We stayed home and watched Cloverfield. My youngest hadn’t seen it yet and it’s one of my favorite movies so we all had a blast watching it again.
Instead of going out on Tuesday, somehow or other on Thursday night I finally convinced my dh to see The Greatest Showman which was the first time for him and the fourth time for me. It was just as good the 4th time as the 1st. :)
Have you seen Cloverfield Paradox?
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I would use a smooth blend, like Canadian Club, Seagrams 7 or Crown Royal, rather than a charcoal-y one like Jack Daniels.
I am not a bourbon drinker, but my folks were, and I remember these differences from small tastes and baked goods. Your recipe is really interesting and sounds delicious!
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OP, just to encourage you, by the time my girls were 13-14, they along with their similar age peers seemed to pass into a new phase of actually becoming interested in self care. So sometimes time really helps.
Hard on mom though. I know at times mine made me wonder if they would ever care. 😆
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I would not have instructed the stylist to cutvagainst my daughter's wishes (at 12 - at say 7 or 8yo, it may have been different).
What I would do, is talk with the stylist and ask HER to be really enthusiastic and encouraging with some *suggestions* that she could heartily recommend to your dd. A cut/style that would look cute and flattering and easier to care for.
Sometimes you just need to hear it from someone other than your mom, kwim? And honestly, you're putting the stylist in an unconfortable situation by asking her to intentionally go against the wishes of the customer she is serving.
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And the actual translation of the French Mardi Gras is Fat Tuesday.
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Ok, I would really like to dumb down my smart phone, for better time management. I am removing a number of apps, mostly social media that I can still access via iPad/laptop during times allocated for that activity.
Facebook is my problem. I am in a few groups due to activities, and a couple of group chats that are important to me. I am thinking I just need to turn on notifications for the groups I need. I still have to keep the app active on my phone, right? I mean as opposed to doing it in the cloud.
Also, since messenger is a separate app, I can just use that to access group chats, correct?
Y'all please help me out. I want to make a serious effort to use my technology responsibly, not missing the important things I need to know about but not losing time to mindless browsing.
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We are watching on BBC. What happened? :)
I don't think I imagined it, and my dd raised an eyebrow too....pretty sure a couple of White's enthusiastic outbursts bypassed the censor, iykwim. Can't blame the guy, he was so thrilled, it was fun to see him so excited and happy.
Oldest guy to come down the pipe and he slays it to take the gold. Love it.
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We had pancakes and scrambled eggs for dinner. But this was at the request of DD5, not for any reason in particular. Am I missing a reason for pancakes today?
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/newsbeat-43044272
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Who was watching Shaun White in the halfpipe final? We were screaming so loud when his score came up! And it's so fitting that he won the 100th all-time Olympic gold for Team USA!!!
That was great!
(But I do think someone at the network forgot to use the dump button...😲)
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I would push to give him a name that starts with the same letter as his big sister.
He would still be part of a pattern, just a different pattern. He wouldn't be left out, she wouldn't be left out, and if he does end up being the caboose, then it would be a nice little bond between the oldest and youngest.
Plus hopefully that would open up a whole new realm of possible names.
Wendy
I love this idea. Bookends!
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After four (at least three) times of his demanding to do things his way, it's your turn. Funny/not funny, you could tell him you don't want people to think you're like that couple out in CA....Ok, wait.
You had to agree to your dh’s demand that all of the boys’ names had to start with the same letter, and after all of your kids got names he liked, he still won’t agree to the one name you prefer???
No.
Just NO.
Why don’t you have a say in this decision???
Sorry about your disappointment.
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Are succulents hard to take care of (indoors)?
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Same. My dds keep bringing them home and I cannot keep them alive.
You know what's funny though? Sometimes it's hard to tell when they're dead!