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  1. How is this not terrorism?

    Local radio talk show had the same question. Personally, I don't think serial bomber and domestic terrorist are mutually exclusive. Perhaps it depends on whether or not he was targeting a specific demographic vs causing general mayhem? It will be interesting to see how this progresses.

     

    I am sorry for all involved, victims, perpetrator, perpetrator's family.... I imagine there are lots of shock and lots of questions all around, and that an apparently bright young man went down this road, that's both sad and scary.

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  2. An unlimited membership to Orange Theory.

     

    I love that I don't have to think about what exercise to do next, I just show up and the trainer bosses me around for an hour, hitting both cardio and strength, with individualized tweaks so that I don't have to worry about my fused spine. In particular, I love that I didn't need to know anything at all about equipment to get started (that was one of my biggest fears, and now I can't imagine life without my daily gym routine).

    Hmm I'm going to have to look into this place. Are they nationwide?

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    Scrap the party plans and take the three children somewhere really, really wonderful. Don't even worry about the people who might show up without having told you they were coming.

     

    If option B would make the birthday child happy, I'd do it without a second thought.

    lol I can totally imagine a sign on the front door:

     

    "Sorry we missed you! We have taken the Birthday Kid and everyone who RSVP'd to Disneyworld! Catch you next time...."

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  4. Health club membership. It's on the near horizon. I'm feeling the need to start working out in a more supervised environment. I'm not elderly or super out of shape, but I'd like to be able to keep exercising without having to worry about falling off the treadmill at home alone and laying on the floor for hours.

     

    Plus, I like the group class atmosphere. And the sauna.

  5. I’ve never seen it listed that way. I’ve seen 2.5 to mean two full baths and a powder room. 2.75 is two full and one with a shower but no bath tub.

     

    But I’ve never lived in Michigan.

    I guess maybe it varies by market or I am not remembering things correctly!

  6. Lol! That is both hilarious and insufferable all at once. You're gonna have to take that boy out for ice cream after he serves sentence.

     

    And I am another who always pays online. But it's because my librarian sees me often and will almost always forgive a lot of the fines if I try to pay in person. I mean, it's very sweet, but it gives me a guilty conscience.

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  7. There have been times I’ve wanted to ask, but I never ever would actually ask for a tour. To ask for a tour is really strange. I mean, even though I’m the one who grew up thinking everyone did tours, I still knew never to ask for one when I got older and someone wouldn’t offer.

    Yes, I am often curious but would never ask! And I really never expect it, not having grown up with that as customary.

     

    Like you, I love when I'm walking or riding through an area and folks have their windows open. I like that glimpse of their home. But they are the ones choosing to leave those windows open, right? And I never slow down and stare, it's just a glance. No girl on the train type peeking!

     

    I think when someone moves into a new place or maybe does some serious remodeling, a tour - given it or asked for - might feel more appropriate. But if I've been there a while, I've likely got some personally lived-in places that I don't feel has to be shared with everyone. Also, once my kids are old enough to feel a sense of privacy about their own spaces, I wouldn't take a visitor through them.

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  8. I don't care, but then again we're a more messy than clean family. :) I have friends whom I am more willing to have over time because I know they don't care vs. those who I know will gossip after. (Yes, it gets back to me.)

     

    When I'm a visitor to a friends house and they are apologetic about the state... sometimes they're just saying that, and there's truly nothing wrong...no more than normal living mess or often it's spotless. But I also have friends who are overwhelmed with little ones, not a lot of space, etc.... who know that I'll often pitch in to help put things right. Two adults can get a lot done in even 30 minutes. Or while they're feeding the baby, I'll do the dishes, etc.

     

    I actually wish I could do things like they do in Egypt. You have one or two reception rooms designed for company. (Some families actually have one for female, and one for male visitors.) These are kept spotless. Nobody goes in them unless company comes. People who visit, know not to visit other parts of the house. Problem solved.

    Your last paragraph- that was sort of my strategy for many years when the kids were little. Front rooms were kept clean and as ready as possible. Back rooms? Enter at your own risk. And I would joke with guests, you're free to open closets, but any door you open on your own could set off an avalanche!

     

    We've moved around and not all my houses had flirt plans that lent themselves to this strategy, though.

     

    I think the photo in the OP is simply a lived in room. I'd straighten it for company but not lose heart over it falling to pieces again in the course of a busy day/week.

     

    House tours - I am always surprised when someone offers to give one, and am usually interested and go with the flow. I am usually unnerved, though, when people seem to expect it outright ask of one of my home. I feel like if the door is open, you're free to have a look in that room. But if a door is closed, it's for a reason.

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  9. Oh, that 70s room! Dark paneled walls. Orange furniture. Nooooo!

     

    Whenever I see a house like that with decorative stuff everywhere two thoughts come to mind. 1. The owner(s) have no children or grandchildren. 2. I feel sorry for the person who has to dust all those things. Yes, even if they've been hired to do it and are paid well.

     

     

     

     

     

    You're both wrong. Elvis trivia night. :lol:

    😂😂😂

     

    With Liberace on the juke box.

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  10. The basement looks like it would host the best bingo nights!

    Bingo? With all those little two-tops, my first thought was speed dating!

     

    And am I the only one whose immediate reaction to the bedroom statuary was, "Yikes! Who could close their eyes with all those weeping angels right over the bed!"

     

    (Yeah, I know they're not all angel statues, but... first impressions.)

     

    To each his own. Thanks for the linked article, his design background explains a lot.

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  11. You can call, but I would show up at my insurance agent's office. I would want a face to face to figure out what is going on. Have him/her go over the steps with you so that you understand. This is overwhelming! Don't be afraid to ask the agent to reexplain or to rephrase so that you understand. This is stressful and you should ease your stress by being armed with as much information as you can.

     

    :grouphug:

     

    The other party will most likely not go for anymore than your insurance can pay. People know they can't win that. They are just trying to find out how much your insurance will pay out, then they will settle for that amount.

    Agreeing with contacting your agent first thing Monday, but IME, this was handled by a designated division of the corporate level. So, your local agent may not have all the answers immediately but should be able to connect you with the actual company rep handling the case.

     

    And, I'm going to disagree with Jean about providing any further info to the other party. You exchanged insurance info at the scene, leave it at that and direct all further inquiries to the person the insurance company tells you to - which will likely eventually be the lawyer they hire, but may be a company rep. Our specific instructions were to not share any info or engage in conversation, but to immediately notify the ins company lawyer with word of any type of communication received from the other party.

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  12. Did this a couple of years ago, it was the best decision!!!

     

    Regarding your specific questions - you will awake with a catheter. At first you won't really feel it. As the anesthesia wears off, you become more aware of it, but it's a bit of a mind over matter thing. I mean, no one really wants a catheter in place, but you're not in any shape to get up and go to the bathroom, either, so it's good to have. You will likely have it in place for several hours, maybe half the time you are in the hospital. If st any time it's really causing discomfort, ask a nurse to come and check it.

     

    Shaving/prepping down below - I didn't notice that they did anything. YMMV.

     

    Be sure to take time for the full recovery- weeks of lifting restrictions! You will tire easily for several weeks following the procedure, so don't have great expectations for your activity.

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  13. In addition to all the very good words above, I’d like to say - do NOT respond to this letter in ANY way. If the person or his or her representative should contact you by phone or text or in any way, your only response should be something on the order of “my insurance company is handling thisâ€. Then hang up. No other conversation!! Tell your daughter this, also.

     

    Hang in there - I agree with the others - you’re not liable and this will all get settled in the end by the insurance company. These people are just trying to scare you and scam you!

     

    Anne

    Oh yes! These were the exact instructions given to us by the insurance company's lawyer. Do not speak to anyone else, no matter how they bait you.

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  14. Hugs hugs hugs.

     

    Let the insurance company handle it. Been through something like this with a family member. The insurance company's lawyer was like a rabid dog and got the claim settled quickly.

     

    Speculating, but it seems the fact there's no police report will work in your favor, because that means there was no blame assigned (did she get a ticket at the scene?).

     

    Seriously, though, let your insurance company handle it.

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  15. Well the removal likely includes a biopsy and is, in fact, a different procedure.

     

    I've had numerous colonoscopies and every time my physician makes it clear that if anything like a polyp is discovered, it will be removed and biopsied. It was clearly understood that the cost might change. But why would I want to leave a polyp in there, y'know?

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  16. What an awful situation.

     

    You are artificially propping up your parents in this situation. Stop giving them money. They will lose the house and hopefully then be forced into a safer living situation.

     

    If I were you I would likely relocate. Not sure if the job will allow it, but what kind of life are you living now? You and your family are being held hostage by fear and the real prospect of violence. That's no way to live.

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