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my kids found it interesting.
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we have to set the example too. Make a decision, do you want all of you to eat better? Then clear out that pantry and start the course with her-make it fun by getting into the kitchen and preparing things. She won't like it at first, but may come to. It will teach her some good skills anyways. I bought my daughter a subscription to Cooking Light since she liked looking at my old ones and a new apron. We got rid of the junk (with occasional bags of chips for treats). We got in the kitchen and started cooking. She complains at times, but she is trying new things, finding out what she actually does like, and learning some good life skills.
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I believe it's egocentricity. They are so wrapped up in their own world that they simply don't consider other points of view.
It's something...this one child just seems lost in the shuffle of the others they have younger and older. It's just and odd situation and I can only help the daughter while here. Hopefully she learns something about her education being for her benefit. We'll see.
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I don't eat heavy in the morning, but I love my shakes. My morning breakfast is a scoop of chocolate muscle milk naturals protein powder, 2 Tbl of chocolate PB2 (powdered peanut butter), 1/2 banana, 1/4 cup of raw quick oats, a cup of plain unsweetened almond milk, 4 ice cubes and 1/2 cup water. Yum.
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Science support the stupidity. Hormones + a brain that is not fully developed! ;)
I am glad she is being made to suffer the consequence of her actions. Sounds like this may be the first time she has had to work hard.
Good to know, lol. I knew there was one lol.
Yes, this child has ZERO accountability. When I spoke of the plagarized paper with her divorced parents (that's a whole other thread itself), the father just laughed and shook his head saying, 'oh ______, that girl' and the mother just gave her a 'seriously' look and then made some remark that she'd saw her working and thought she was done rather quickly and when she glanced over it she thought it looked pretty good'. Seriously lady?! These parents are a piece of work...
The mother even told the father that she wanted to pull her from here. She doesnt like a few things with me. Like I told the dad it's my school, my rules and they are certainly welcome to find someone else who is doing what I'm doing with their daughter for the amount I'm charging them. I'm essentially a private tutor and trust me, they aren't paying me like one....it's for the child though. I hope to help her, but I'm not holding my breath. She's good here because I let nothing slide. Nothing. She knows I'll say, "You can do it two ways: the hard way or the easy way. It's your decision". I made that 'hard way' extremely hard the first few times she decided to test me...yesterday was just another test and she hopefully learns something from it. But they know if they pull her, I'm done. I won't take her back.
This child is smart. But her parents are nieve and not so smart to her game...it's sad really because she has such potential if driven in the right direction.
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My husbands father worked for GMC building those beasts. They are the same. The yukon can be proccured with more upgrades and whatnot.
I LOVED LOVED LOVED my suburban. DId I mention that I LOVED it? It was a beast and gave me only one problem a couple of years after owning it that was rightly fixed. I owned it 10 years and frankly DID NOT want to get rid of it. The gas was killing us (we live out in the sticks, but drive into town a good bit) and we only have two kids. We also had a truck and since I was no longer carrying smaller children and all their gear, plus hauling small animals around, plus it was starting to need some repairs (at 10 years old), that we decided to trade it in and go down in size a bit...I honestly cried in the lot when we were trading it in. She served me well. If you ask me today, I still say I want my suburban back...DH was the one who was pushing for a newer vehicle. I just wanted him to fix my 'big rig' as we called it and keep it running :)
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I've been there as a military 'brat' :patriot: and as a wife. Hugs to you and thank you!
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I hope he feels better very soon! Burns are icky when healing
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No this is the 14 yr old that I'm helping get caught up and make understand that learning is necessary to get where she wants and that laziness will be rewarded with more work of various kinds to fit the situation...
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There has got to be some reason as to this! :glare:
So JGirl (my student) had to write a paper on something about the French Revolution. Any particular subject or person, their choice. Itt was to be written as a fictional type story, using facts that she researched, but was not to be written as a factual paper. This could have been quite creative. She had a week and a weekend, plus an extra day since she was absent. I had been reminding her each day for the various steps that she needed to have completed in order to get it in on time. The paper she turned in was completely not in line with the assignment and definitely plagarized.
She then missed school for another week due to being sick, so I had a while to think about how to approach it.
Today she was asked to define about 10 words that I took from the paper. She did not realize that is where I got them from. She was instructed that she could not use the dictionary first. I explained that I needed to see how many words she knew before she needed the dictionary. She could only correctly define two and I could see that she was a little flustered by the odd assignment before her.
I asked if she was finished yet and she looked up and replied yes. As she looked at me I simply explained that I was surprised that she did not know the rest of the words. That they came from the nicely written Revolutionary War paper that she turned it. But that there was a problem with it in that I knew she didn't write it, yes she typed it, but someone else wrote it and that it wasn't in line with the assignment anyways. She realized then that whoops...that didn't work. So she will have to rewrite the paper in her own words according to the assignment and know understands that plagarizing is not acceptable (along with the small paper due this week as well-I'm giving her no break on this). So now her grade for that paper is a recorded F and she will still rewrite the paper and I will give partial credit if done properly.
Teens make me scratch my head...tis ok though. I can almost guarantee that she won't pull that with me again.
I will say she's a good sport about it...she realizes what she did was wrong. This is important for her. No one has held her accountable for much of anything in life or school. She has learned a few tough lessons since being with me. And I can see already how it's changing her in small ways. She's still going to test me, but I'll push right back...I want her to succeed.
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DS 9yo has a habit of showing interest in something just long enough for it to require start up expense and energy on my part. A few weeks ago, out of the blue, with zero prompting from us, he wanted to sign up for baseball. That was fine with us, although we were a bit shocked because he had never wanted to play before. So, registration $65, new bat $45, cleats $35, glove $30, and pants $20. He had never played on a team before so we offered him a few private lessons so that he would be ready for the season $160.
He did very well with the lessons and really seemed to enjoy it. Teams were assigned and he went to one practice. I was there the entire time. He did fine. The coach and the other kids were fine. When it is time for the next practice he did not want to go. When I inquired as to why, his only response is "I guess baseball is just not my thing." I refrained from listing all of the other activities that are just not his thing. Right now, his "thing" seems to be evading any sort of responsibility and arguing with his 4 yo brother.
So, what would you do? Make him play? Let him quit? If he does quit, would you impose any consequence?
So glad to have a place to come and talk these things over.
Um...wouldn't happen here. He'd be playing. If our kids want to sign up, fine, but they finish out whatever they started for the season. It's been like that since they were small and will continue. It's never hurt them and makes them give it a real try, not just one lesson or game and then, nope don't like it....
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Yeah, I can't look at any posts because "I don't have permission", though it says I'm a member...weird
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We're having chicken scallopini with a mix of steamed sugar snap peas, carrot and asparagus and garlic mashed potatoes.
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LOL! I posted the first new post. I was so excited :)
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I also understood it that taking independent courses from BYU is positively looked upon if your student applies to any of the schools :)
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I've been a parent and I've been a coach. Like you said, when the margin gets more than a few, you put mercy rules in place. I've never gotten to that place when I was a coach, but my kid's coaches have. And coaches for the other team have as well.
You put kids in positions that they are not strong. I've seen a coach in indoor soccer make his girls pass the ball 5 times before they were allowed a shot on goal. Then 7 passes and so on. I've seen coaches take kids out when the other team has to play with fewer kids on the field. I think coaches who do these things are much more respected than those who run up the score.
I also used the multiple touch rule, as well as shooting from further back and swapping kids around. Having the same core group of kids helped, as they taught the new ones coming in how we played and how we dealt with things like that. I'm glad I had a good team, but I refused to have poor sportsmanship. We played some really ugly teams, but I always told the boys to get more aggressive on the ball and not on the opposing team players. I actually refused to return with my team to a local venue because the team was overly aggressive (handsy and mouthy) and when I approached the head of the club he was very patronizing. Lets just say that he got an earful from me.
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So I saw a question posed on the now locked social groups thread in Chat about BYU independent study courses and thought I'd start a post about it.
So we take Spanish for highschool from them and if my daughter actually put forth more effort and had more people to speak with then she probably would be doing better. She is making a 90 right now in the class, but she and I are a little frustrated with some of the aspects of the program. One is the online assignment tasks that dont actually count for a grade online, but I use them as such. Sometimes she'll submit the assignment and completely fail it even though I can see all of her answers are correct. I've called about it a couple of times now and they're looking into it...
They are supposed to be revamping their language programs this year to allow for a chat lounge and having the instructor call the students once a week to chat in their language. So far they have the Chinese one done (it's their newest course), but I'm not sure about the others. They couldn't give me a specific time as to when the others would be changing to the new format. I am waiting for now before we sign up for the next class. DD is done with her first year already and I want to continue (plus DS will be starting), but we are going to read the scriptures and some other books in spanish while we wait for the changeover to occur (hopefully by this fall).
I haven't tried any of their other programs yet, but I've been eyeballing a few for the kids for school as they get older.
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I appreciate all the feedback thus far :) It's nice to know that there are in fact other coaches/parents out there that seem to think the way that was handled was inappropriate. This is their first year as a team and I know that through practice and hard work they will become better. I also know that with the current coaches we have, they will not be a team that annihilates another just because they can (especially if they are new and young). If they were, I would have to remove my daughter from the team. I am that adamant about good sportsmanship and appropriate standards of play involving youth rec teams. Competition teams are a whole other ballgame and I expect a different standard of play, but how a team conducts itself is always important to me.
Anyways. Thanks to all of you for weighing in on this. The drive home from that game gave me ample time to think over the whole play of the game and I went to bed a bit agitated by it. When I got up I thought: I'm going to ask the WTMer's what they think about the whole thing :D
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I sure dont get around the internet much...i never see these other discussions that happen elsewhere that people reference to. Lol.
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This Mom will not return there to play. It was a very long drive to only have the girls humiliated (the second game was almost near 20-0). Thats essentially what they did. I'm all for a bit of healthy competition and learning but those two games went well beyond that...
And we even had opposing parents sitting with us cheering on their team :glare: ...and their bleachers had plenty of room for seating (many of their people brought chairs to sit). I wouldn't dream of doing that to another team...it was odd.
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This would never work where I live. It's not a question of making things fair and equal, in rec leagues, it's begging to get parents to coach. Trying to sort out by playing ability would make the rec director's head spin and I imagine he would quit his job. Here the same kids play together for years, unless they choose to leave the team, or it's a random list of kids that need a team/coach. It seems to work fine. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose and in most cases with hard work, teams can become really good.
Exactly. I coached by myself for three years! 16 boys at a time!
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I don't understand this. If there are enough players for teams, there are enough players for the teams to be made roughly equivalent. Something is stopping that from happening, and that's where the problem is coming from.
If there are 35 kids and 4 teams, it doesn't matter. the top 4 kids should be one on each team, then each team gets a 2nd best kid (in reverse order), then each team gets a gaggle of mid level players, then each team gets a few kids that did poorly last year, and each team gets an even share of new registrants. All it takes is a general awareness of how well kids did last year to have a good chance of achieving rough equivalence.
Thats how people make a recreational league work. There's no question of 'not enough teams' -- it's a question of how the teams are formed. They can be formed as a league, or they can be formed as the basis for a variety of unfair and frustrating games between mismatched teams... Which sounds like what you have. Having a play schedule doesn't make that situation into an actual league.
This is recreational in the sense that they are a homeschool group league playing other homeschool groups and Christian schools. The groups are each formed individually and come together to play. Its not as competitive like highschools playing each other, but scores are still kept and I believe there will be a last playoff between the two better teams.
And thanks everyone for your insight! It's been very helpful to me in sorting out how I feel about the whole thing :) and helping me to see how it's done in other places
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I think it all depends on how the runs were scored. If it was all clean hitting without any stealing or overly aggressive baserunning, there's not really much to be done about it. In baseball/softball, I don't think you should ever coach your players to not try to do their best at the plate. It can be too counterproductive.
On the basepaths, you can turn down the aggressiveness to keep from piling on the runs. We call it "lifting the throttle" or "station-to-station". We'll let the runners take as many bases as it looks like the batter is going to get on a hit. We won't steal, advance on errors or score on passed balls and wild pitches.
I think in the scenario you described, the other coach would have been quite wise to try out some pitchers who needed more experience. It's the perfect opportunity for that. That makes it a better situation for both teams. They get practice for pitchers who need it and your team gets to hit off more appropriate pitching. Unfortunately, some coaches like to pour it on.
I certainly am not advocating telling players to not do their best, but a coach should know their players well enough that switching them around would allow for different practice time in a situation like that :) My kids thought it fun to play someone elses spot, lol.
These girls were playing hard and stealing, advancing and such. They were even purposely bumping forward into balls that would fly near them but not near enough to actually make contact so they could get a walk. It happened four times and I was surprised by it. One ump did actually start calling off girls on the third base for leaving too soon...they lost 5 girls to that...
Its always interesting to see other coaches work and other teams play. If I coach again, I'll still continue as i did before. My boys team was amazing the last two years, but I felt like they learned much more than just how to play and that's what I wanted. I love seeing them now as they are moving up through the last of middle school into highschool and still playing. I see some of them in town from time to time and they are always telling me about how their team is going now and talking about old games they played with me :) that's the best, lol!
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FWIW, I am also a youth sports coach, and was a competitive athlete through college.
I agree with you in some of what you're angry about. I think it's poor sportsmanship to destroy another team for sport. But the reality is that some teams a just way better than others. I think the coach of the team you faced should have used the game as a training tool for his team - try new positions, switch things up, play kids who don't play as much. But, I think it's unfair to ask better players to play down and give up plays and runs on purpose because the other team is weak. As a player (on the losing side), I would have been insulted. [We had a "DC" rule as kids in the neighborhood. "DC" meant "doesn't count". We'd yell it when a little kid got up to kick - and then we'd let them kick and fake a homerun with missed throws, etc. That's what I would have felt like if another team played badly on purposed so as not to hurt our feelings.]
To me, sports are played for health - and to learn all those "life lessons" coaches talk about. One of them is that some teams lose. And as an athlete - I learned the most in the losses. And I learned more in the painful ones. To pad it and rig the games is so obvious to the kids - and they really don't get anything out of it. For every team to be one or two runs from each other is not real and kids know it. Softening a loss (again, beyond the runaway score spread) is IMHO a gross disservice to our kids. In your game's case - it should have been stopped at 10-0, and a new game started. Losing 10-0 lets the winning team win, and the losing team lose with grace.
I will add that I think there's a huge difference between developmental leagues and competitive leagues. If this is a developmental league - then I think the rules need to be readdressed. Also - if all of the teams are this lopsided with talent - then the draft system needs serious overhaul.
Let me say clearly - I am not for running up scores, or beating up other teams, or making kids feel bad. My girls bball team went 0-3-3 this season. I know how losing feels. I am just saying that to get all of those life lessons one must lose, sometimes big, to get the lessons. A reasonable ump should have stopped the game at 10, depending on league rules.
You sound like a wonderful coach who will teach the girls a lot and have fun doing it - and that's the best part of youth sports. I hope the rest of your season goes great!
lol...I'm not coaching this team :). Don't know as much about softball as I do soccer. I will by the end of the season though.
I agree that padding and outright softenings that are obvious aren't a good idea. My boys did not say a word when I coached and instead we treated it as a realtime practice game. They still played hard and understood why, but it was more a fun game than a serious one.
They always learn from each game. I love that and I love that each of these girls are bravely taking on a sport that most know little about and working hard at it....
Like I said, as a prior coach, I just never found it pleasant to win like that....
Prayers/good thoughts needed: Horse related
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My horse Jeaux coliced this morning. Ran him to the vet where he immediately started seizing after Banamine was administered and continued for almost 4 minutes. Had to have another drug to calm him and then some valium because the vet couldnt get him tubed if he wasnt calm enough. He still wasnt very calm but we snubbed him to the stocks and got it in. He hasnt passed anything much yet but atleast hes interested in eating and drinking now...its going to be a long night though.