How can that be managed? ETA: Oh, I see above.

True, but there are actual laws that wouldn't be dealbreakers for using a car. I am sure that he doesn't always stay under the speed limit.

Ha! You are obviously living in the Dark Ages and are unaware of the moral superiority of someone who doesn't do things just because a parent says so.

My minor teen recently got his driver's license and bought a car. We discussed the expectations around the car beforehand. A condition of having the car was that he had to follow our state laws for minor drivers. In particular we pointed out that law does not allow him to have passengers under age 18 outside of the family. He agreed to follow that law. He has had the car a short time and has been deceiving us about following that law. He says it is unreasonable because a lot of teens load all of their friends into the car and drive around. If you have a similar law in your state, do you expect your teen driver to cooperate with it?

I am surprised to hear this. I've been flying domestically with my adopted children (mostly without their dad) for over twenty years. It is obvious to everyone that I am not their biological mother. The only ID any one brought was a driver's license. One of them didn't have one of those until she was over 18. We did not bring family pictures. On our trips abroad, everyone had a US passport. No adoption papers or birth certificates. Is it really most?

Too far to drive. Direct flights are cheap, though. I have considered going there. Right now I am at a music festival with a younger child.

My son went back to his campus clinic this morning. His monospot was negative. They gave him an antiobiotic for tonsillitis. He also takes ibuprofen and acetaminophen. He tells me now he feels worse and can't eaten.

Thank you, everyone. He hasn't answered since I started this thread, so I am hoping he finally went to sleep. The nearby urgent care clinic opens at 8 tomorrow. I hope he can head over there in the morning.

He says he can get back to campus health in the morning. Is it OK to wait or should I tell him to go out tonight?

They didn't. He said the doc's attitude was a shrug.

I imagine so. He is in a sizeable city. I should look.

How bad does this sound? My son is in college far away. He seems to be very sick. He says he has an unbearable sore throat and earache which has been getting worse since Sunday. He can’t swallow. His went to campus health and the doc swabbed for strep (negative) and then sent him away. He is miserable and not functioning. I am concerned that he could be dehydrating. I also wonder whether his airway could become compromised if his throat becomes more swollen. I am really concerned! Should he go to the hospital? I am not sure what to tell him.

In that debate he said the SAT was OK, I think. It's been a while.

Even if it is bacterial, it may well clear without antibiotic treatment. Each of two of my children had repeated bacterial infections that came with days of fever. After a couple of bouts with (apparently successful) antibiotic treatment, the doc recommended trying to let the thing run its course without the abx, which we did ever after. The outcome did not change. My college best friend is an internist. She said that when people came for an office visit with a cold, she thought, "You obviously have a cold. And now I do too."

I wouldn't count on it. In community college my son led a group presentation about whether the SAT was an appropriate tool for college admissions, and people on the other side were crying about that.

I'm with Kate Middleton on this issue. Bare legs are not as dressy, especially in the winter, as sheer stockings. Also, for most women over forty, stockings help mitigate leg features that contribute to an old-lady look; stockings are great leg make up. I find they make a remarkable difference in the cold as well.

outrageous

I am not. Internationally adopted kids attained citizenship through naturalization until around the turn of the century. Since then, citizenship is conferred upon finalization of the adoption. I am talking about the general case of US citizen parents adopting an unrelated child from abroad.

Why essential?

In the case of Korea, until an adopted male child becomes a US citizen through the necessary court process (in the US, in most cases), the child remains a citizen of South Korea and is subject to military service. It isn't just the risk of deportation from the US that is in view if this step is neglected.

Place of birth is asked for on the common app. Maybe citizenship too--I can't remember. In the case of my child attending an out-of-state public university, state law there does not allow enrollment of students in certain immigration situations. Hence the onus on students born out of the US to prove citizenship. US passport was accepted for this.

Enough for what circumstances? My internationally adopted children have traveled abroad several times with our family and also independently. One of them lived in Asia doing a NSLI program. The one who attends college at an out-of-state public school was asked to prove his citizenship before matriculating. Their US passports have been accepted readily in all of these situations. Whom do these kids need to satisfy that won't accept a US passport?

funny article about Kondo'd stuff arriving at trendy resale stores https://www.newyorker.com/culture/on-and-off-the-avenue/the-marie-kondo-effect-reaches-beacons-closet

"thrift stores are riding the wave" https://www.cnn.com/2019/01/12/entertainment/marie-kondo-konmari-tidying-up-netflix-trnd/index.html

It's called a mudroom but is really just a tiny hallway connecting the garage to a hallway. Maybe with gray walls?