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  1. Sounds like good stuff - thank you for the info! I have never tried a tinted sunscreen because I’m so fair skinned that I assumed they would be too dark on me Perhaps that one would work I understand what you mean about not wanting to add another product. I do like to keep my routine simple. So with that in mind, do you really need a moisturizer? I couldn’t quite tell from your post if your skin is dry, or if it’s more that you wonder if you “should” use a moisturizer.
  2. Personally I wouldn’t have the first clue if you said Guy Harvey. But if you said fishing or hiking shirt, that’s exactly what I’d picture. My husband has some shirts like that for hiking and camping.
  3. I like this one a lot. It's moisturizing without being heavy or greasy, so it still works well for me under makeup. It's not a physical/mineral sunscreen, though, so that might not be what you had in mind. I know they're probably better, but I've never found a physical sunscreen that I liked for my face. They always feel so heavy and so . . . I don't know, just yucky to me. Did you find one that you liked? If so, two things: 1) please tell me what it is! and 2) perhaps just stick with that but apply a lightweight (gel?) moisturizer first and let that soak in before you apply your sunscreen? Just a thought. I hope your doc can find something that will work better for you! Are you using an exfoliant? I know that helps my skin a lot. I've never tried one of the BCP's that is approved for treating acne, but I really hope it will work for you.
  4. Thank you so much for mentioning her - I'm really enjoying watching her videos! In the first one I found, she did say that while both work for both, adapalene does seem to be a bit better for acne, while tretinoin is a bit better for wrinkles. That's a much shortened/simplified version of what she said, but that was the gist of it.
  5. I have used both, but I'm not sure how fair it is for me to compare since I used Retin-A as a teenager, and I didn't get an adapalene prescription until I was in my 30's. The raging teenage hormones probably played a role. But back then, even though Retin-A helped with the "normal" acne, it wasn't helping with the cystic acne (yes, I had both at the time, lovely!). So my doctor at that time took me off of the Retin-A and gave me Accutane. Accutane is very harsh and I think they're hesitant to use it, but it worked for me when all else failed (and my acne was BAD as a teen. I can't even tell you how bad). For a long while after that, I was able to get by with just an exfoliant (alpha hydroxy acid, but I've since learned that a beta hydroxy acid works even better). But then I started getting cystic acne on my chin (it is always on my chin, weird) with my period every month. I kind of thought it was just going to be a fact of life for me, but then I happened to be seeing my doctor for something else entirely when I was having a breakout, and he said, "you want some adapalene for that?" I'm so glad he did because it works. Honestly, though, my prescription is the same strength as what's available OTC. And in fact, since my copay on the prescription version suddenly increased by a factor of 10(!!!) I was planning to get the OTC version when I run out. I hope that it will work as well! But since it's not working for you, you could certainly try asking your doctor for a stronger one. My doc said we'd start with the lowest concentration and go from there, but for me the lowest concentration works. I just use the adapalene gel three nights a week, and a Paula's Choice beta hydroxy acid the other four nights a week, and that combination seems to work really well for me without causing redness or irritation. And yes, fighting acne and aging/wrinkling skin at the same time is just not fair! Thank you for mentioning the video - I will look for it!
  6. Does anyone know if differin/adapalene has the anti-aging benefits that retin-a does? I believe they are in the same class, so I’ve been assuming, but I’m not certain. I have an adapelene prescription for cystic acne, and without it, I still get cystic acne even though I’m 44!!! Found that out the hard way just recently when I ran out. OP, I use Paula’s Choice for the rest of my skin care. I love her stuff, especially her exfoliant and sunscreens. You might find this helpful:
  7. Oh, I think my dad's serum iron and ferritin were both elevated. I'm sorry - I have no clue. I wish I could have been more help! I hope you will get an answer soon and that it will be something not-serious and entirely treatable! (((hugs)))
  8. That was going to be my guess as well. My father has it. I believe that ferritin, rather than serum iron, is considered a better test for it, but I'm not an expert on this at all. I just know that when I told my own doctor that my father had been diagnosed, he ordered a ferritin test to see if I had it.
  9. Yes, forgive me for getting a little off track here, but the part that I bolded is so true. I've read that women are simply hard-wired to be less confrontational than men, though I realize others would argue that we are simply socialized to be so. But no matter how much I've tried to re-train myself and tell myself that I have every right to stand my ground, the fact remains that confrontation, even minor confrontations, rattle me in a way that they never do for my husband. And actually, I guess this is relevant to the conversation, because I have a sweet, shy, timid daughter who desperately worries about hurting or offending someone. I started dating my now-husband when I was quite young, so "I have a boyfriend" was my standard response when another man expressed interest. I don't have a lot of practice in the art of saying no graciously, and it seems that fewer young men these days know how to accept a gracious no. It's worrisome.
  10. My daughter also used (at my suggestion!) the "my parents won't let me date yet" excuse for several years. It gave her an easy way out without the boy feeling like it was his fault. I loved it. But alas, she's 18 and has graduated now, so it won't serve as a reasonable excuse for those boys she doesn't want to date. And I've heard so many stories of boys and young men becoming nasty or even violent when turned down that it really worries me. That wasn't something that was in my awareness when I was her age. I'm not saying it didn't happen - I'm sure it did. But it didn't happen to anyone I'd ever heard of. I'm so sorry to hear about the girl local to you who was murdered. I can't even. ?
  11. Thank you for articulating this. I was too overwhelmed and distraught to even find the words! I knew this situation was bad, but this video painted a more vivid and horrifying picture of the situation for me. My 18 yo dd just told me last week that she is interested in dating now. Not that she has someone in particular in mind, but she's hoping the right person will come into her life. She simply hasn't had any interest up to this point. How do I protect her??? The thought of her dating someone whose perception of sexuality has been warped by porn absolutely terrifies me. She is modest and shy by nature. She's never even been kissed. And the dating world that she's about to enter is . . . well, this hell that we've created. It truly makes me want to weep. Other mothers of daughters*, please tell me, how can we help our daughters protect themselves? * and please know I'm not ignoring or denying the very real need to protect sons too. It's just that I only have a daughter, so that's my focus right now.
  12. I've found that ones with tea tree oil in them work better for me, but I don't know if tea tree oil might be irritating to the skin for some people. I only recently made the switch from anti-perspirant, though, so I haven't done a lot of experimenting yet. I'm going to try some of the ones that were mentioned here, so thanks everyone!
  13. Oh, Margaret, I am so very, very sorry. (((hugs)))
  14. I have to gently correct your thread title, because I promise you, that is something I would do too! (((hugs))) I haven't mastered that skill. For me the panic goes on and on, and the anguish lasts even longer!
  15. Yes, I was assuming that the OP's friend consumes the products of industrial agriculture.
  16. I also meant to mention that I thought this was an interesting example. Many religions have dietary restrictions: certain foods must be avoided, foods must be prepared in a certain way, there are periods of fasting, etc. That is not entirely but largely absent now in the US. Also in times past people were far more in touch with their food, growing/raising/preparing it themselves far more than we do now. And I suspect that fostered a much greater sense of gratitude and appreciation. Maybe these self-imposed dietary limits are a actually an attempt to regain some of that? I radically changed my diet several months ago, and went vegan. What I was shocked to discover was that the limits I had imposed on my diet, deemed largely unbearable by most people, actually dramatically increased the sense of satisfaction and appreciation that I derived from each meal. I sat down to my meals with far more joy than I had ever experienced before. Rather unexpected, though, isn't it? I can't say how much of that was because the change brought my actions more in line with my ideals, and therefore gave me peace, and how much of it was that I derive satisfaction from knowing that I am following a philosophy or a set of guidelines/rules/limits, because I feel that both were definitely at play.
  17. Oh, yes, there is definitely a down side to the prospect of being born to a more homogenous society, particularly if it is also a strict one. No disagreement there at all, but I do wonder sometimes if the freedom and individualism that mark modern American society isn't its own kind of oppression. This isn't something well thought-out on my part, and so it's going to be almost impossible for me to articulate it. So I ask your forgiveness in advance for this clumsy attempt. I'm just thinking aloud here... about both biology and religion. Biologically, we evolved to be a highly social species. Being accepted by the group was vital for our survival. So psychologically, we've been built with that need. And religiously, from what I know of the world's religions and wisdom traditions, however the doctrines may differ, they often share a message about self-sacrifice, or basically, just the message that I am not the center of the universe (in Eastern Orthodox Christianity there's "dying to the self" and in Buddhism and Taoism there is the philosophy of detachment or renunciation, and so on.) I think that our (modern western, US in particular) culture emphasizes personal growth and individualism and being your authentic self and being your best you and so on. But what if my best me is actually less "me"? There seems to be a whole lot of loneliness and dissatisfaction and depression in this culture that is so focused on individual freedoms and self-fulfillment. Were we actually happier when we had less freedom? Were people more content when life was less about "the pursuit of happiness" and more about the individual's obligations to the community? I've read about studies showing that people were less happy when they had the freedom to make a decision. When circumstances make decisions for us, we're more likely to just accept it and feel content about it and move on. When we make the decision ourselves, we're more likely to doubt that our decision was the right one, and wonder if things would have been better if we'd decided differently. So what if psychologically we are not actually well-equipped to deal with the freedom to make all our own choices about our lives? Would we be more content in a culture with a greater common purpose and less personal freedom? Well, as I said, I'm just musing. I'm sure there's a happy balance somewhere between expectations placed on us (rules, limits, however it's best to articulate that) and personal freedom. And I don't claim to know where it lies!
  18. Yeah, it's probably less black-and-white than what I was picturing. In my mind, if the produce was being eaten by insects, then it doesn't make it to market. But the plant could be stressed even if the fruit/vegetable part itself wasn't actually being eaten by insects. Can you tell I don't have any gardening experience? ? I have a few herbs growing in my kitchen window, and I planted tomatoes one year. LOL! That's pitiful. I really should try to do better in this area.
  19. Yes, that tendency we have to join groups where people are of like mind and/or are pursuing a shared interest definitely speaks to an innate need within us, I believe! I imagine that the sense of community and belonging is all the richer when it's the same people in all of those aspects of your life.
  20. This is not something I've extensively researched, but some quick googling told me that organic is 80% as productive as conventional farming. Meanwhile, only 30% of soy, 20% of corn, and 5% of oats grown in the US are being fed to people. The vast majority is going to feed livestock. So if long-term ability to feed the world's population is your friend's concern, I would think going vegan would be far more important than going conventional. Of course, maybe your friend is doing both! On the issue of conventional versus organic, I don't personally have a strong opinion. Productivity is not the only measure of sustainability. I would personally want to consider the environmental impact too. But I know that organic is not as pretty in that regard as what we often want to believe. I buy some of both, but mostly conventional. But I must confess it isn't really ideology that leads me to do that, it's budget. Not just purchase cost, but also when I signed up for a delivery service of a weekly box of local/regional organic produce, I found that it rotted a lot faster, and therefore we were wasting a lot. Buying organic at the store is better, but the quality (with fresh produce) is less consistent than conventional: sometimes it's fantastic, sometimes it's tasteless and just doesn't seem as fresh. Why is that??
  21. One interesting aspect of this to me is how much a shared set of limitations and rules binds people together as a community, gives them a shared sense of purpose, a feeling that we are all working together cooperatively toward the same goal. I suspect this is something missing from (or at least, significantly reduced in) modern life compared to most of human history where people lived in smaller groups with shared religious beliefs, and where they depended much more directly on one another. The psychology of being a member of a tribe (with a set of rules that everyone lives by) must be very different from the psychology of being a member of a family in a sea of disconnected families (all making their own rules beyond the basic ones that are put into law). Not that I have any particular insights to share on that! Just that I wonder about it.
  22. I would tend to agree. It's not a topic I'm well-educated on, but based on the chapter on aging in the book Spark! by John Ratey, and the fact that I've read elsewhere that the brain actually physically atrophies as we age (as in, some brain tissue dies off), I would guess that it is due in no small part to brain degeneration. Even by the age of 40, my brain MRI showed that I had "areas of hypodensity", or put more bluntly, tiny holes in my brain. A pleasant thought, isn't it? ?
  23. This one is a feather-light liquid that soaks right in and disappears, and doesn't smell. If you want it to be moisturizing too, then I recommend this one. But I will warn you, these are a little pricey - at least within the parameters of my budget. But I use them anyway (CLEAR in the summer and Moisture Boost in the winter) because I can put them on under my makeup and they don't feel heavy or greasy or sticky -- put another way, they don't feel/smell like sunscreen at all.
  24. I will admit I was skeptical when my husband proposed that explanation - and I told him as much. I mentioned your first point to him, in fact, but never having lived anywhere but the US, wasn't equipped with the knowledge in your second point. But then when I saw the same points he'd made proposed here I thought perhaps I'd dismissed the idea too easily. The biologist part of my brain always thinks that if there is a biological explanation, then that is the simplest and most likely explanation. The feminist part of my brain thinks that sexism, both subtle and overt, is very real, and could be at play in this dynamic too. But overall, I suspect that biological differences in interests and personal strengths is probably playing the largest role here. What do you think?
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