I agree that this sort of SAHM is more common than the well-off woman, although we'll have to agree to disagree that this woman cannot work enough while home with kids to raise $10-$20/week, which is what I mentioned in my original post. There's a lot of room between working at home with small kids for 2-4 hours/week and working out of the home and paying for childcare, clothing, and transportation. I'm familiar with some of the other scenarios you've mentioned: We had 15 months of unemployment here, a child I unexpectedly needed to stay home for for a few years, and until the Affordable Healthcare Act I was turned down by 8 insurers due to a combination of genetic disease and trauma from giving birth. I was applying to a 9th insurer when the legislation was enacted and I could no longer be declined. I'm not unsympathetic to nor unaware of all of the factors that can come up. You said upthread is would behoove women to keep their skills and contacts intact if possible, but for a woman who doesn't have those things, a few hours work done at home can pay for premiums and in turn, some protection. And it takes time and money to maintain skills/certifications/contacts as well.

I said 10 since you mentioned possibly being far away doing other things. If I'm nearby, even if I'm not involved, more like 8. But it depends on what they're trying to do. Scrambled eggs or oatmeal is more suitable than fried chicken, for example.

I feel you are putting a lot of words into my mouth so I will try to clarify.... Many times when a family decides to have one parent stay home, they run numbers to see if they can afford to have one parent quit their job or not work. When they do, they need to include life insurance premiums as part of that scenario, not just rent, food, utilities, etc. And if they cannot fit that premium into their budget, I think they are not in the category of being able to afford to have one parent stay home, or they need to have the SAH parent at least work 1-2 hours/week to cover that premium. That's the scenario I was thinking of, not one in which children are going without medication, glasses, food, heat, and people re working two jobs, double shifts, or opposite hours. I thought it was about families deciding to keep one parent at home and that parent then gets the shaft because their contribution at home is not valued enough and how the SAH parent could be protected, life insurance being one of those methods. I didn't realize the thread was about the full spectrum of reasons people might not be able to afford insurance and necessities. If it is about that, my apologies.

I am always open to reading things with which I don't agree, but this would drive me crazy. I guess the "Bound" in the title has a heavier meaning to the author than we thought.

I agree the first one can be out of someone's control. As for the second, the context of this discussion is of one parent not working, not two parents working and they still cannot afford it. There are, sadly many of those families. Surely the SAH parent can find something to do which produces $10-$15/week? For the second, not being able to swing $40 or $80/month for life insurance, when I have small children, would mean I didn't get stay home and not produce income. But I freely admit I am paranoid, having seen some really terrible things happen when people died suddenly and had small children and no insurance.

Our loss is Italy's gain! I think you made a great decision! Looking forward to hearing about your adventures.

Personally I find the entire thing ridiculous. That said, I do think your title (which is accurate) is different from what you said in your first post ("as long as the person making money isn't white") because I think that would have had a problem with any non-Indian teaching it, even though a Japanese person or a black person wouldn't have garnered the same comments about colonialism.

:lol: I guess we are twins!

I streamed Episode 2 last night. It was pretty good! I had to turn the volume quickly down a few times. No spoilers, but those of you who watched know what I mean. Argh, that noise.

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: How scary that must have been! I am glad to hear he is on the mend, even if the early days are difficult. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: That is worrying. It's nice that she can be with your sister.

I didn't consistently watch the old episodes when they tried, so I've seen maybe half of them. I watched the new Episode 1 last night and I have to say it was more intense than the old ones, I think. I was trying to figure out of it's just been updated with new technology and techniques and that makes it feel more real, or if the story itself is more intense. I really did get stressed out in a couple of scenes. Maybe I've changed, not the show. :laugh: That said, I really liked it and plan to watch all of them.

Another important reason is that people have particular principles, not always based in fear, which override their own personal interests. I think this is often overlooked, particularly when the voter is economically disadvantaged. Who are we to say that a voter is voting against their own interests, especially if we only examine economic factors? I'm feeling a bit guilty I ditched my heavier books last night after intense reading and the discussion in this thread. I was too tempted by A Confederacy of Dunces. This honestly may be the funniest book I've ever read.

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I like the way they look together too so I keep them on my nightstand, where they have very little protection from dust. At least the books on the bookcases have a modest defense!

This week I finished McPhee's Basin and Range and Tolkien's The Hobbit. The latter was a re-read aloud to my kids, but I'm going to count it because I would have re-read it anyway, some time this year. I enjoyed Basin and Range very much, although I felt it was a bit uneven. Sometimes it was an easy-to-follow narrative and other times it got down into very detailed explanations of geological phenomenon. It also took me a long time because I was Google mapping as I went, as I mentioned last week. I think I might read one more from him, Assembling California. I don't know if it's one of his best books out of the many, but I'm interested because I live in the state. I am continuing to read House of Leaves (sigh), The Buried Book, Grain Brain, and On the Nature of Things, this with the goodreads Classics and the Western Canon group. My Archipelago editions are also piling up! As I mentioned a few threads ago, I am grateful the covers are a bit dust-colored. I meant to start My Struggle in January but have not and I have some library books I need to finish first so maybe February. And honestly, I'm feeling the need for something light so I might stick A Confederacy of Dunces (picked up for a quarter at a book sale last week) in between reading the books due soon at the library and an Archipelago selection. The movies are not very good. I'm not even going to mention them to the kids, what with the orcs and all. Me too.

:grouphug: It all sounds so positive! I know you still have a long journey ahead and our family will be thinking of you and yours.

Has anyone heard from Arctic Mama?

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That's what I've been dwelling on as well. How many killers have a car they need to get rid of and have access to a car crusher they know how to operate? He could have taken that car apart very quickly and stowed pieces across acres of other cars if he didn't want to simply crush it in one piece. And I love how he cleaned every droplet of that blood up in the crowded garage but left smears all over the car, which incidentally, had no fingerprints. :001_rolleyes:

This whole thing makes me so angry. He absolutely did the right thing and what kind of message are we sending to this generation if they think they will be punished if they step in to help? I know this is a school policy and not the law, but we as a society have developed things like Good Samaritan laws because we want people to step in. Yes, and I thought of this as well. (The whole clip is funny, but I linked to the email specifically.)

Looks great! The kids are wanting to focus on chemistry next year so I'll be making this. Not to mention, I've been wanting to laminate something! I think I'll go to Kinkos to print it out though. I only have a b&w printer and the colors look so nice.

Sending good thoughts to anyone dealing with inclement weather today. May you have warm drinks, working power, and good books!

I've been avoiding this thread until I finished watching. I have no idea who killed Teresa. She seemed like a lovely woman, one I would have loved to have personally known. I wonder if someone (not an Avery) killed Teresa and stashed the car there, knowing the police might suspect an Avery? And the police took advantage of that and planted some additional evidence to conveniently solve the crime, cancel the lawsuit, etc. Once the insurance said they wouldn't protect the officers, and they were personally on the hook for damages, I could see how they could become desperate. It could have been millions; people have been killed for less. It was disturbing to me that the car was uncrushed. That makes me suspicious that whoever deposited the car possibly didn't know how to operate the crusher, unlike Steven Avery. And then he left for a cabin 100 miles away, knowing the car was uncrushed and his brother might give permission for a property search, which he did. It seems either Steven would crush the car and dismantle it, something he was an expert in, or if he hadn't found the time to yet, he wouldn't leave and go to the cabin.

:grouphug: I liked your post but it was a "Like of Support" rather than liking your situation. I'm sorry you have to move. Maybe some fun audiobooks while you pack?

Hope things are continuing to improve and the medications are working out. :grouphug: