wapiti Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 nm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 On a day like today? :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wapiti Posted November 19, 2015 Author Share Posted November 19, 2015 What'd I miss? What happened today? I was totally over-caffeinated. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 (edited) Oh ds was up too late and got really challenging to work with and stuck. (Actually, he's still stuck today.) I was just going to bring the cheese if you had the whine. :D Edited November 19, 2015 by OhElizabeth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wapiti Posted November 19, 2015 Author Share Posted November 19, 2015 (edited) Sorry about the long day! There should be a wine-drinking smilie. Or at least a coffee-drinking one. Edited January 12, 2016 by wapiti 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 Good luck wapiti! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 (edited) Your STEM charter sounds amazing! I didn't even know there was such a thing. And that's a good point that putting them in an environment that plays to their *strengths* might fix a lot. Wow. Today my ds was regaling with me on how he could design a better car. But he had hit his sister this morning to the point where she's too out of sorts even to be around people and splashed me all over with water and was stuck on things, sigh. Can't win. You can't even confront him, because then if you do he melts down and NOTHING gets done. And all I want is SOMEBODY in the system to care about what's happening and put it in his IEP and stop acting like it doesn't happen if he doesn't do it during a 1 hour observation in school. Sigh. Edited November 19, 2015 by OhElizabeth 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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PeterPan Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 I think it's more important to get him in with kids where he'll connect than it is to quibble over the drive. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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prairiewindmomma Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 I know quite a few people who pay other moms or college kids in the area to serve as drivers for their kids. $3/kid for an extra hour after school sounds like it's probably cheaper though. It's nice you have options! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted November 19, 2015 Share Posted November 19, 2015 Yes, options are good! I thought I had NO options for ds, and your STEM idea excited me. Then I talked with an autism service provider in our area who said they might be able to hook ds up with a male tutor who would come in every day for 3-4 hours! Wow THAT would be amazing and help a lot. Fwiw, I went to a school for the gifted that focused on science and math (so you could say STEM before there was STEM, haha) for the last two years of high school. It was absolutely the right experience for me. I think you should at least go for it. It was a new school at the time, and when you get that much brains along with that much flexibility, it's actually really cool. There's this empowerment that you don't have once it gets all stodgy and institutionalized. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat w Posted November 21, 2015 Share Posted November 21, 2015 Oh. I'm going to look for a stem school in our area. I would drive. It would need to be reserved for high school ( too many issues to work on and slow processing) but. My 11 y.o. is a whiz with electronics. Like he instinctively knows. He does all my phone and laptop stuff. I ask. How do you know that? He says I dunno, just do. That is definitely an environment where he would thrive . Glad I read this. Mental note for down the road. :) 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wapiti Posted November 25, 2015 Author Share Posted November 25, 2015 (edited) :) Edited December 3, 2015 by wapiti 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted November 25, 2015 Share Posted November 25, 2015 What an awesome opportunity!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wapiti Posted November 25, 2015 Author Share Posted November 25, 2015 (edited) And that's a good point that putting them in an environment that plays to their *strengths* might fix a lot. Wow. Funny thing is, I didn't realize this was my point until you spelled it out LOL. Thank you! Edited January 12, 2016 by wapiti 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Kat w Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 Good thing about what you're doing is... If it doesn't work for w/e reason, you can always go back to the other school. OTOH, if you don't take this opportunity with the new school now...you may never get it again. I think you should be worried if you DIDNT have some anxiety about this. It's tough and you want the beat for your son and all your kids. Big hugs. Very exciting :) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merry gardens Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 I think it's more important to get him in with kids where he'll connect than it is to quibble over the drive. Maybe, maybe not. We pulled my son from a private school last year. He'd connected there and was doing okay, but the drive was nearly killing me! Literally--we saw some pretty nasty accidents on bad weather days. The hours I spent driving affected the rest of our family and my ability to homeschool the others. The drive wasn't just on school days. There were activities on nights and weekends too, (because activities and friendships don't just take place during the school hours.) On top of that, (or perhaps, in part, because of it, who knows? I'm second guessing but exhaustion likely played a part) he developed some health issues. So then we worried about a child with some rather serious health concerns who was far away from us. Shortly after that, we said enough. He's back to homeschooling again. And I needed this reminder today because it's not always easy to homeschool a child with special needs. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Kat w Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 Me personally, I can imagine it would be emotional. Big change and the uncertainty that goes along with. Alot of times the anticipation of the event is worse than the event itself. Like worrying will it all work. Amazing opportunity :) big leap and change. I'd say it's normal to feel this way. Glad you got in. :) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat w Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 Merry gardens , we had some of that too. My older on has some pretty significant health// respitory problems and the kids at school passing around bugs compliled it big-time. He was on way more steriods than I would have liked the first 7 years of his life. For me, I just weighed the options/ opportunity and benefit. For us, the benefit was greater to keep in in school , til it wasn't anymore, if thst makes sense. I brought both my guys home too but only after the benefit was not longer outweighing the bad stuff. Only thing that seems to stay the same with kids lime ours is...change! Lol Seems like its always reevaluating everything in our minds trying to keep the big picture in mind. If I could find a stem school for when my guy was older I'd jump on it. If there came a point where it no longer make sense. ...id pull him out. Constant..... Evaluation lol :) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 So they're IN at the STEM school?!?! Just like that?? Wow!!! To me, there are nuances that make something worth that drive. Like if it's an education level you couldn't provide at home or a peer set that was dramatically different from what he'd get locally. That's different from oh it's just a school, even a nice school, kwim? And around here, driving 40 minutes to school is the norm. We have friends who do that even to go to a ps because that's just how it is in that part of the state that everyone has long drives. And where we are, if you need a special something, same deal, you're going to drive. But I agree with Merry that just for a lateral slide, like ok homeschooling *or* the school could work, that gets really hard. There's a school that would be a 40-60 minute drive from me that can do ASD + gifted and they're a very nice school. But I agree that's a real serious thing to drive that far, and for us even with that, if we *can* make it work at home or with providers, that will be a lot saner. There may come a point where that tips over for us. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Kat w Posted December 4, 2015 Share Posted December 4, 2015 That's so awesome. So happy for you :) Really good thing you have 2 boys going. That should help your one guy a lil, his brother goi g too. My older one won't do A THING without his younger brother. He has alot of social anxiety . he does good once he gets there tho, wherever thst is lol. I so want to find what you have. When they are a little older and more caught up I'm gonna look. Mine would do great there too. So happy for you! :) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wapiti Posted March 12, 2016 Author Share Posted March 12, 2016 (edited) :) Edited March 28, 2016 by wapiti 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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