tearose Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 I recently found out some really bad news about someone I know of through mutual aquaintances. She was found brutally murdered in her apartment. It's horrifying, and I don't have any idea what to say to the people who were close to her. "I'm sorry" doesn't even seem to come close to expressing what I should say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bzymom Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 There will never be adequate words for that, so a sincere "I'm sorry" is really all you can say. And I am sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 I'm not sure that anything you say could help them with the horror, shock and grief they must be going through. "I'm sorry", and maybe a hug, is as good a response to start with as any. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavender's green Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 I'm so sorry to hear about this. How awful! No one expects you to say the perfect "right" thing. Just don't say the wrong thing. "I'm sorry," is simple and fine. I'd send a normal sympathy card with a nice message. You can google how to write it. You could also donate to a fund for the victim's family or to a charity in her name, but this is optional. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 I agree with the previous posters - there is no perfect thing to say, and a sincere "I'm sorry" is fine. I don't know this from personal experience, but I've heard from others that it hurts more when people stay away because they're uncomfortable or don't know what to say. People who have experienced a loss just want to know that you care, regardless of how you express it. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 I would just say "I'm so sorry". :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 "I'm so very sorry," should cover it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tearose Posted January 23, 2013 Author Share Posted January 23, 2013 Thank you, everyone. I have said, "I'm so sorry," but I wish there were something else I could say. It just feels so inadequate :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted January 23, 2013 Share Posted January 23, 2013 Well... I would probably add that they are in my thoughts and prayers. I agree with the others that saying how sorry you are is very good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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