PrincessAriel Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 I am meeting the new wife of my neighbor for the first time this afternoon. She is young, has a dd about my dd's age (9-10 yo) and she is from a foreign country and does speak English. She would like my dd to to meet her dd and I am not sure if I should explain anything first about my dd. My dd is 10 but not a normal 10 yo, is on the autism spectrum, has some quirky behaviors and interests, is immature for her age. How should I explain my dd or should I even explain her at all? And will this woman understand what I am saying? I know she is looking for a friend for her dd and I think she is lonely herself having been a career woman in her former country. There are few kids in my neighborhood and the houses are spread out quite far so playing together will involve some planning. I need some advice on this one! TIA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted October 12, 2011 Share Posted October 12, 2011 Does your daughter "fake it" in new social situations? Copy what the other girl does so that her responses are only a little off, but then kids kind of get turned off later? Or is she "out of step" with other kids right from the beginning? If you have a little time to get to know the other mom before you discuss it, sometimes I think that helps. But if you think it's going to be a bit tough for the girls to get to be friends without some help, then I would just do my best to explain (in spite of the language difference). I admit - with my son - I would err on the side of not explaining and see how he did by himself first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 I would explain as needed, not before. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dtsmamtj Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 I would explain as needed, not before. :iagree: T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 When Hobbes met a new friend the mother didn't do any explaining. She let us realise that the little boy was a bit quirky and immature, and only later told us about his Aspergers diagnosis. It think that this is the right way round: let the children work out for themselves if they will get on (assuming that there are no safety issues) and explain later. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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