mazakaal Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 I bought The Core last year, read it and decided that it would be great to do the geography portion of it this year. Around Christmas I was speaking with a friend who wanted to afterschool her child, and I thought she would get some good ideas from The Core, so I loaned the book to her. I also gave her my OPGTR because ds had just finished with it. I clearly said that she could keep that one, but I'd like The Core back. In the mean time I completely forgot about the plan to do their geography. I just saw another post on here about using the Core ideas for geography, and I want to bonk myself on the head for forgetting. But my friend still has my book. She lives an hour away and I barely see her anymore. Do I call her and ask her to mail it back? Do I just suck it up and buy a new one? Argh! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SnegurochkaL Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 Hi, I would call and ask your friend about the Core book. If she is using it, ask her when she will be able to mail it back to you. You were doing her a favor lending your books. I borrowed some books from my friend, but when she wanted them, I gave the books back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiobrain Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 Call, or email, ask if she is coming to your town soon. If not tell her to drop it in the mail, priority mail. End of story. Oh, and say that you hope it helped her. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 I agree with asking for it back. I don't loan books out anymore, either, unless I'm willing to consider it a gift to the person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lailasmum Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 I am having the same problem. I lent someone SOTW volume 1 and they just moved without giving it back. I didn't know they were moving. Not lending stuff any more other than to one friend I know is reliable, we tend to swap backwards and forwards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pdalley Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 This post reminded me that I lent someone my IEW TWSS and she's had it two months. :001_huh: I'm NEVER lending anything out again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 I don't lend out anything either. I lent a friend a bunch of curriculum - some I wanted back and I was really clear about it. She gave it away or threw it out. It was a LOT of money that I lost. I won't lend anything that I ever want to see again. I'd email her and ask her to return it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted September 6, 2011 Author Share Posted September 6, 2011 Okay, I'll call. Thanks everyone. I hate to be stingy with my books. I have a friend in London who loans me her books and curriculum, and I really appreciate it, so I'd like to bless others in the same way. But I always return her books without even having to be asked. I've lost other books, mostly readers, historical fiction, etc, in the past and never recovered them because I could never remember who I loaned them to. I remember spending a lot of money mailing my 1st edition of WTM to someone on the continent that I had met at a missions conference. She never mailed it back. Fortunately I already had my 2nd edition, so I wasn't too bothered by it. It's just frustrating to be burned so many times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VBoulden Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 I think you can call and ask for it back. It's probably as much trouble for her to get to you and it is for you to get to her... if that makes any sense. So, she probably hasn't thought to call and offer to bring it back. But, if you want it, she probably will make a trip. If you don't want to wait and cooperate with her to get it back, then I'd just get a new one. It stinks. But, I don't offer to let people borrow things I know I can't actually give them... because people aren't great about getting things back... at least in my experience. Well, maybe one out of ten times they give something back within a reasonable time frame, but most of the time, people don't return things. Me included. It took me two plus years to get a paperback back to my friend. She moved to New Hampshire, going to the post office was so much trouble, she didn't ask for it back, etc... I ended up visiting her and taking it then. But, she'd totally forgotten about it by then. :tongue_smilie:So it goes. I was glad to get it off my hands, but borrowing usually means keeping. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kristinannie Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 This post reminded me that I lent someone my IEW TWSS and she's had it two months. :001_huh: I'm NEVER lending anything out again. If you get it back, can I borrow it? :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pdalley Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 If you get it back, can I borrow it? :lol::lol::lol: :D I actually would like to sell it and I desperately need the money. So I really want to get it back. I also told this person this when I lent it to them. So it really stinks that I haven't gotten it back yet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boscopup Posted September 6, 2011 Share Posted September 6, 2011 I would just call and ask for it back. It's very easy for books to get lost in the mix and you can forget which ones you've borrowed from whom. A friend of mine lent me some books for DS to read (just regular fiction type books), and I had to keep them in a completely separate spot. It was so hard to keep up with them and make sure they didn't get mixed in with our own, because I'd never remember which ones were hers and which were mine, and she probably wouldn't remember either. :lol: I have lent out my WWE hardback and WWE1 workbook to a friend to use her first homeschooling year. If she doesn't remember to give them back, I'll just ask her to bring them to me when I need them. She's not moving away, and I see her twice a week, so it wouldn't be a big deal. She would probably say, "Oh, I forgot I had that! Yes, I'll bring it to you next time we see each other!" I think most people aren't maliciously keeping books. They just forget they've borrowed them or from whom they have borrowed them. ;) A gentle reminder should be fine. If they don't give it back after asking for them back, THEN I'd get upset and not lend at least to that person anymore. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted September 6, 2011 Author Share Posted September 6, 2011 Well, I rang over there. My friend wasn't there, but I spoke with her dh and asked him to mention it to her. My dh will actually be in their area this weekend, so he is going to stop by to pick it up. Unfortunately, they will be away this weekend, so he said that he would have his wife/my friend leave it in the store they own with a note that my dh will be picking it up. I'm not sure how this will turn out in the end. I'm reading From the Mixed Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler to my kids right now. Jamie would really like this pick up plan - lots of complications. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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