SeekingSimplicity Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Constantly in trouble for doing things that you should have asked before you did. I love that she's independent. I love that she's self motivated. Those are really great qualities I don't want to kill. But good grief child. Sometimes you really need to ask first. How do you balance the good and the bad here? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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threeturn Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I have a boy like that. He's four but has been that way since he was 2. Get his own juice, milk, cereal, snack -- sometimes with success, sometimes not. Set up his own TV and computer games, open every package -- even if it means trying to use a knife, grab a screwdriver to change batteries, run his own bath. It's nice, but then again... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Hang on, s/he won't always be a child. A little discipline and the world is theirs. I would ten times rather have one of those than one that needs constant shoring up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasharowan Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 This is dd. She is almost 12 and still doesn't ask, but she is getting better at judging what she can and can't do. Not great, but better than she was. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeekingSimplicity Posted August 13, 2011 Author Share Posted August 13, 2011 Mine is 11.7, and I love her to death but she's driving me a little insane right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasharowan Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Mine is 11.7, and I love her to death but she's driving me a little insane right now. Does she have an older sibling that she is trying to outdo? My dd has always tried to keep up with her older brother. Right now she is trying to convince us that her BFF and her can safely sleep in their own tent since the boys (15/16yo) can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeekingSimplicity Posted August 13, 2011 Author Share Posted August 13, 2011 Does she have an older sibling that she is trying to outdo? My dd has always tried to keep up with her older brother. Right now she is trying to convince us that her BFF and her can safely sleep in their own tent since the boys (15/16yo) can. Nope, she is the older the sibling. Very bossy, always wants to be in charge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 DS8 is like this. I'm thankful that he's got such a willing/helpful spirit but it drives me insane! He's also the oldest & bossy is an understatement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mynyel Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I have a boy like that. He's four but has been that way since he was 2. Get his own juice, milk, cereal, snack -- sometimes with success, sometimes not. Set up his own TV and computer games, open every package -- even if it means trying to use a knife, grab a screwdriver to change batteries, run his own bath. It's nice, but then again... Are you sure you haven't had my son? He has been this exact way since birth! I love it and it drives my nutty all at the same time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
threeturn Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Are you sure you haven't had my son? He has been this exact way since birth! I love it and it drives my nutty all at the same time! I love it some of the time too. My boy is a second child, but I am not sure he is trying to keep up with sis. She is exactly the opposite - lazy to a fault. I don't mean that in an ugly way at all -- it is just how she is. He will come in, fix his own juice and snack (without asking and usually right about the time I am going in to fix dinner or lunch) and be sitting at the table eating it when I walk in. She comes in a minute or so later, sits at the table, and says, "Where's my snack?" Really, I can't win for losing. :rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abbeygirlsouth Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I have a boy like that. He's four but has been that way since he was 2. Get his own juice, milk, cereal, snack -- sometimes with success, sometimes not. Set up his own TV and computer games, open every package -- even if it means trying to use a knife, grab a screwdriver to change batteries, run his own bath. It's nice, but then again... My oldest was just like this when he was this age! When he was 10 yrs he just decided on his own to line up yards to mow without consulting his dad or me. He kept most of those clients until he graduated this past May though. At 14 he heard that the local pool was hiring lifeguards so after swim practice he walked over to the employment office (again without consulting us) and somehow convinced them to hire him, as pool maintenance,with limited hours until he turned 15 and became a lifeguard. He has moved up to coaching swim team, teaching community cpr etc. Obviously this kind of independence can be positive, but we always had to be on our toes and remind him of the boundaries. I do understand the challenges as one doesn't want to squelch their initiative and creativity or the gratification this type of child receives from making decisions and finding solutions. Now as he's getting ready to go off to college, we keep just keep reminding him that we are here for him when he needs us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sewingmama Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 (edited) My DD is the same - add the word artistic and you end up with a whole lot of unexpected mess to clean every day.:glare: My DD went to public PreK and on her report card the teacher mentioned the phrases "intensely self-motivated" and "independent learner" a lot :D I used to have a lock on the art supplies cupboard -till she broke it off because she couldn't understand why she wasn't allowed to access the stuff freely :glare: She never asks - she just does. Come to think of it she also doesn't think - just does.:001_huh: My DD is super impulsive which I am guessing is where the problem lies. She is getting better though - now she does something and when she is finished comes and asks me if she can :D At least I've gotten her to sort of remember to ask - we are still working on the ask FIRST part though ;) :grouphug: Edited August 13, 2011 by sewingmama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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