jld Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 If you know someone is dieting, or has considered it, do you think it's okay to ask how it's going? In light of the other thread, I'm wondering if this could be considered rude, instead of caring. What do you think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisy Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 If you know someone is dieting, or has considered it, do you think it's okay to ask how it's going? In light of the other thread, I'm wondering if this could be considered rude, instead of caring. What do you think? A very close friend, in private, sure. In public? No way. With mixed company? No way. When she is obviously stress-eating a large banana split? Uh, I'd rethink it unless I was close to an exit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AuntieM Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 Well, do you count something like, "Wow, you look great! What have you been doing to have lost so much weight and look so healthy?!!!" I hope that wasn't rude. Or I might have to go apologize to my neighbor. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 A compliment is nice. A private question if it is a close friend and I have already brought up the subject at some point, sure. A pointed question about is I should be eating carbs, no way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 A close friend, sure. A casual friend or acquaintance I would give a compliment (privately), "I've noticed that you've been looking really good/fit lately!" I would not ask specific questions about diet unless they brought it up first. Now, if someone is blabbing on about their latest go at South Beach/Eat to Live/The Snickers Challenge then I think it's fair game to ask a few questions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peela Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 Unless someone was particularly unhealthy from being overweight, or they talk about it a lot....I really prefer not to put attention on weight gain OR loss. I think we women can get a little obsessive about our weights. There are circumstances under which I would say somethnig, and I dont always live up to my own ideals, but I try not to make it an issue at all. If the diet they were doing was interesting to me, I might specifically ask about that, though- as a naturopath I am allowed to be quirky about that sort of thing, and have an opinion :) but I try not to make a big deal about the weight loss. In the end, weight lost is often weight later gained, unless real changes are made in lifestlye. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 Well, do you count something like, "Wow, you look great! What have you been doing to have lost so much weight and look so healthy?!!!" I hope that wasn't rude. Or I might have to go apologize to my neighbor. :001_huh: I do this all the time! I recently lost the last 10 pounds of baby fat and LOVED it when people noticed and asked what I was doing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ester Maria Posted June 21, 2010 Share Posted June 21, 2010 If the other person volunteers the information, that's an invitation to ask questions as well. If they don't bring up the topic themselves, I wouldn't ask. Close friends, in private, are an exception of course. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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