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With a 16 month old, I would expect to be occupied with my child the whole time and to watch him - which means, I would not be able to socialize much. That's just a reality with children in any house that does not house little ones. My parents have stairs, antiques, sharp corners, electrical outlets - when my kids were little and we were visiting, one adult had to watch the kids at all times. Which usually worked out quite well.
I have never been in a house that was completely childproof for kids of that age. Not even my own was.
I would take enough toys to occupy my kid, so that he had something safe to play with where I could watch.
:iagree: When our kids were small, one of us was *constantly* with the children at others' houses. I didn't expect the homeowners do anything different, nor did we bow out of any social engagements due to non-childproofed homes. That just kind of seems like part of the deal for that season of childhood and parenting.No, we don't avoid them. We use it as an opportunity to teach boundaries to our children that are old enough to teach. For the ones that are still little, we simply are diligent parents. My BIL had a woodstove with no barrier. He has as many kids as we do and when we used to get together, there were twice as many kids in the house...not a single child has gotten burned. We are in an area where most people grow up without "childproofing". Kids play in barns, no one cushions corners of tables, etc. Mostly, it's common sense parenting. We used to take our children to a single aunt's house with all kinds of breakables, a glass and wood coffee table, and she was particular that each knick knack stay in exact place (even on the coffee table). The kids learned to walk with care and otherwise sit on the sofa. For the same reasons, we do not avoid restaurants. It's another great learning opportunity for manners and courtesy.If food is an issue just bring their own lunchboxes with snacks. My kids love lunchables and they make great treats in situations like that.
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We sent my DS 10 to a private Classical school this year in 5th grade. Had I known ahead of time I would have definitely prepared him better for their rigorous testing schedule (6-8 tests per week) and I would have worked a lot more on handwriting (they're expected to do a LOT of copy work within specific time frames). They work a grade level ahead on just about everything so I *might* have advanced him a little more, but skipping 5th grade work hasn't seemed to really matter much.
The 1st quarter was definitely a transition period, he brought home a lot of classwork because he wasn't able to finish it in school. However we just finished the 2nd quarter and he's now near the top of his class and made the honor roll so all in all it's working well! :)
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If I remember correctly, isn't writing instruction included in Rod and Staff Grammar? I haven't used it, but I believe I read in WTM that the Rod and Staff writing included in the grammar book was plenty sufficient.
ETA- to say that it is my understanding that "creative writing" should come after a child has learned proper technique. I wouldn't worry too much about creative writing instruction until more like 5th grade. My DD in 2nd LOVES to write stories, songs, poems etc. but thus far I just let her write creatively on her own time and we do WWE currently. I will be waiting until 4th or 5th and then begin "The Creative Writer" with her. HTH! :)
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The moral of this tale? Never work for RotoRooter.
(PS. I remember when the toilet auger became my friend. It's easy. You can do it!)
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You all made me do it.Mark Driscoll at his "best." "God hates you....personally, objectively....." You can listen to the rest of it by clicking on the link.
When I listen to him talking in this clip, what I really hear him talking about is his own congregants. He would more accurately say, "I hate you...personally, objectively..."
Because after all, all theology is biographical.
:blink: My jaw is on the floor right now.
I completely agree.I'm not sure I can word this properly. These mega churches do a pretty good job of making people feel "welcome". Because of that members often think erroneously that people KNOW them. They hit a period in their life of trial whether illness, finances, marital problems, temptation, etc and they think the church will be there for them. In reality the church was never there for them individually. It is impossible.
I think Driscoll's church is trying to do something they are truly incapable of doing CORRECTLY because of their size. I think this guy really wanted help and he realized he wasn't a member of a real church being mentored in real relationships but rather a cog in a vast machine. In the end they didn't even know him well enough to know if he was truly repentant or apostate. How sad is that?
Daisy, I think you said it perfectly. So incredibly sad.
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I would call the police, personally. Just recently we had warnings from the police in our area because people were coming to the door pretending to be service men for our local phone/internet company and were actually casing houses and coming back to rob them later. They would get in on the pretext of "checking the wiring".
I would call and at least let the cops know what was up, it's possible they're already dealing with other cases.
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I am insanely jealous that you have an entire room to school in!:tongue_smilie:
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I'm not sure if this is crossing the line into politics a bit too much, but I can't help wondering- those of you who say you'd be fine with the state mandating such a thing but not the federal government, what is the difference? I hear this all the time, that people are okay with the states passing "intrusive" laws but not the federal government. I've never really understood the difference.
Because if a state mandates something with which I'm uncomfortable, I am free to move to another state to avoid the perceived intrusion. When the Federal Government overreaches it's unavoidable. This is why the powers of the Federal Gov't were constitutionally limited and states were given the freedom to choose how they wanted to govern. :001_smile:
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I think what's bothersome about it is that it's simply a proposition for MORE Federal Gov't control over the States when it comes to education. States already have compulsory attendance laws... it's completely pointless for the Federal Gov't to impose it's own attendance laws on the States IMHO. (But then again, I'm all for the Federal Government getting the heck out of the education business). ;) I don't see how it would effect homeschoolers though. Unless they decide that your child can't "graduate" at age 16. It would depend on how it was implemented.
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7 would be too young for a family we only knew slightly.
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I prefer females. If you have a garden, keep in mind, boy dogs will lift their leg to your plants. I've had many plants killed from dog urine.
And females will literally MURDER your lawn. :glare: My poor, formerly green grass. Brown spots everywhere. No more females for us.
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I've always wondered what the correct amount is- usually I just throw some money at him and hope it's not offensive, lol!
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Do you know what your daughter's trigger is (assuming she's not at a developmental night terror age)?
My 4 yr old's trigger is that his body says he needs to go potty but only wakes him part way. He'll come walking around, often speaking alien or sounding delirious. Last week, he did a fire drill without waking at all! We cannot wake him and we ALWAYS have to get him to the bathroom which often makes him cry but he WILL potty each and every time.
This is both my boys. In fact, just the other night one of mine got up, walked into the living room, got out the Wii remote and started acting like he was playing. :D He had no clue what he was doing. And a few nights before that I heard him up in the middle of the night and found him in the laundry room, walking around with no clue as to why he was there. I usually just walk him into the bathroom so he can go and he goes back to bed quietly after that. :tongue_smilie: He never remembers what he did in the morning.
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I wear a hat and wrap a scarf around the bottom half of my face- keeps your face from chapping and your lungs from breathing such cold air.
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Settlers of Catan, of course. ;)
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We're in the northern part of the state. It's a great place to live! The homeschool laws are incredible, and were actually just recently clarified. Here's a link from HSLDA about the homeschool laws in Idaho http://www.hslda.org/laws/analysis/Idaho.pdf and an overview about the recent clarification of the law http://www.hslda.org/hs/state/id/200904300.asp
There are two very active homeschool coalitions (ICHE and CHOIS) who both work closely with and have an excellent relationship with the state Legislature (in fact, I believe the recent positive homeschool law was passed unanimously by both the House and Senate). Homeschooling is actually incredibly popular in this state- you won't have a problem finding groups or activities. And the best part is, when you tell people you homeschool no one even bats an eye and you typically get very positive responses. (FWIW, I WAS homeschooled in Idaho and I have homeschooled MY kids in both SoCal and Idaho -so I know how vastly different those two experiences will be for you. You'll be happy here.) :)
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While I have great respect for the guy, his character and all that he has accomplished, I am wary of what would happen if he should get is way. I am concerned that, if we require schools to allow homeschoolers to play on public school teams, then we invite more intrusion into our homeschools. In IL, we have a lot of freedoms. NO reporting, no review. We are our own private schools. Basically, they do not know we exist, unless we have to be in the system for something else. I have no desire to see that changed.
Our state allows homeschoolers to play on school teams- and we have some of the least intrusive homeschooling laws in the country.
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You are under no obligation to live through ridiculous stress on the holidays because a bunch of adults can't act like grown ups. I think your boundaries before were appropriate, and next year you should simply redraw them. As far as this year goes, you're kind of stuck at this point. But you should definitely do your pajama-laze-around-day the day after! We actually do that every year on the day after Christmas. It's something we all look forward to. :)
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Just keep talking. The thing that bothered me the most after they died was that many quit talking for fear of what they might say or because they didn't know what to say. I enjoyed those that kept talking ~ even if it was nonsense.
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I experienced the above as well when my father died. Some quit talking. Others just preferred to pretend like it didn't happen- not even an "I'm sorry".
You called. You offered your condolences. You cared. That matters and is what will be remembered. I promise.
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Your second post is very clarifying. She's not emotionally healthy. Don't take it personally. You're a great sister. :)
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Is she normally this high-mantainance or is this behavior unusual?
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Bethany- thank you so very much. The book on anxiety is just what I need! We have figured out to talk a lot. He has matured quite a bit and will now have, "talks" with himself. I just get so frustrated. We have huge drama right now because his tooth is lose. Normally, he will bring up the possibility of a lose tooth ever few weeks as in, "when will my tooth be lose, which one will it be etc ". Now that he has an actual lose one, man oh man. It is a nightmare. Last night I got frustrated and thought, "I just want him to be normal". That made me feel terrible. I know that I'm his biggest advocate and I need to help him in every way, but it's just so tiring and frustrating.
:grouphug: It does sound like your son has anxiety. This is something we've been dealing with with DS 10 for the past year. The phobias, the constant, out of control worry and anxiety over seemingly small things.... It is SO exhausting. Some days we talk through a certain fear 10x a day... and it still plagues him. There are times when I just feel emotionally drained by it. And if I'm that drained, imagine how he feels! It's actually one of the reasons we decided he needed to be in school this year. He needed less time to worry, and he also needed to learn to face fears and realize that it will be okay. It has helped.
I think your son is using the tv as a kind of comfort. It probably helps distract him from the constant worry that goes on in his head. My best advice is to start reading up on childhood anxiety disorders and go from there. You can do some managing of it on your own, once you learn more about it, or you can seek the help of a therapist.
The first time I read about childhood anxiety I actually cried, because for the first time ever someone was describing my son and I felt like I finally understood him.
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:iagree: Even right down to the roosters my now 9yo was attacked by one as a baby and still has a scar over his eye. We've already agreed that if the dogs we have (9.5 yo labs) bite anyone, they would be put down.A dog can run. A dog can "take it." A dog should never try to bite its master or a more senior member of its pack. I believe, in dog social hierarchy, this is a *huge* no-no... and lower-level dogs would be killed (by the alpha), severly mauled, or chased from the pack for this transgression. Someone who knows more about dog social hierarchy, please correct me if I am wrong.
The child wasn't attacked. There's a huge difference between an attack and what happened here.
The OP stated that the dog was old and sore. Old dogs have arthritis, sore hips and various other conditions that cause pain when handled too roughly. Haven't you ever jumped and yelled when unexpectedly hurt? That's all the dog did. I'm sure that if the dog wanted to bite or hurt the child he could have- he didn't. He was hurt. Any dog who is being hurt will nip and yelp. AND he gave a warning first- "please leave me alone, you're hurting me"- and that warning was ignored. Sorry, I'm on the poor pup's side. OP, I think you handled it appropriately.
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I feel the same way about Facebook. All the terribly happy, blessed, perfect posts are nearly driving me mad.
:iagree: Oh, I know. There is one person in particular to whose posts I always say "No one is really THAT happy every day... right?!?!". :tongue_smilie:
I know, I'm a grinch. But really, the holidays can be hard on those of us who have/do struggle or have lost family members, etc.
OP, you're not alone. And you already know how blessed you are, even if it's just in the little things. Honestly, those are the things that really, truly matter. :grouphug:
I was given the old "bait and switch"- now what do I do?
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Hmm, I don't think it's a "bait and switch", I think it's perfectly reasonable.
They did a free consult, which included x-rays so that the orthodontist could give you accurate information. Why should they have to give you those x-rays, which cost them money, so that you can shop competitors? Most likely, every ortho from whom you would like an opinion will give you a free consult including x-rays... so you don't really need to purchase them. And I wouldn't worry about exposing my kid to a few more dental x-rays.