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  1. UPDATE:  HE'S GOING TO JAPAN!!!! He got notification last night. 

     

    :party:  :party:  :party:  :party:

     

     

    I am so excited for him. 

     

    Warning SC (sentimental content): When he was about 13-14, he started thinking of Japan and saying how he'd like to visit. When you're a broke parent and your marriage isn't going well and money is the biggest issue, you don't see how your child could ever afford to do something so expensive, but you don't crush your kid's dream, right? My goal at that age was to travel the world and I've only been out of the country once. I work really hard (mentally) to not let my circumstances dictate my son's life. 

     

    We have kept trudging forward these last few years. I saw the trip advertised at school and he took it from there. I hope (and believe) that this trip will help him see the idea that world is there to explore, and that it will be the catalyst to keep him moving forward with his life and academic goals. 

     

    My dad was so excited about him possibly going on this trip. I know he won't be here to physically cheer him on, but I think somewhere in this universe, he knows. 

     

    Ds was so tired last night, he was pretty chilled about the idea. He'll probably let my mom and me be the emotional ones about the trip and he'll just be practical. 

     

    So thank you all for the well wishes. This is really happening.  :thumbup:

    When does he leave!!!! Yay!!!

  2. Although really a car loan usually has way better terms even if your credit is lousy!

     

    Nope. Pay off the credit card when it is due. Pure profit on the rewards.

     

    But if you have a cash back rewards card, bought a car with it and paid it off immediately you could save a significant amount.  If I paid for a $25,000 car with my credit card I'd get $500 back.

     

    Exactly!

    You are the second person to say that you can't charge the car.  Why not?  If you have the limit, then why can't you?  The dealer could simply verify with the bank that you indeed have the limit. 

     

    I've thought about doing this, so I wondered what would prevent it?  What justification were you given?

     

    Dealership policy. It costs them too much in fees. It isn't illegal, dealerships set their own rules about it.

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  3. I agree with Bolt.  Your professor's advice is spot on.  Your professor is trying to help you. 

     

    I used to work for small test prep company.  The targeted customers were college graduates who were preparing to take their test to become teachers. Most of our customers had attempted the test a time or 2 (or 3, etc.) and had failed the essay portion.

     

    These customers had had 4-6 years of college (yes, some had master's degrees).  We would have them write practice essays and their essays were just dreadful. I would give them feedback much like your professor's above.  They would be confused and say, "But my professors never told me my writing was bad! I got great grades on all my essays all through school!" 

     

    Those professors did them no favors.  These graduates kept failing the certification exam over and over because of their terrible writing skills.  Do you know how hard it is to get someone up to speed in writing in just 4 weeks?  It's a bear! 

     

    Your professor is doing you a big favor.  It takes a lot of her time to help you and her advice is something you need to hear and implement.

     

     

    Example #1. She is not saying it's a sentence fragment, or that it lacks those parts of speech. She's saying that it is 'fragmented' because it the word order is unnessusarily complex. She wants you to edit it so that it reads:

     

    "The main idea of behavioural theory is that learning results in a change of behaviour resulting from external stimuli."

     

    Compared to, "Behavioural Theory is the theory that learning results in a change of behaviour, and that this is a result of external stimuli." -- you can see that the the point of the sentence becomes more clear because the grammar is more linear.

     

    Example #2. She is saying that she wants you to use a transitional word to improve your flow. She wants to know how that sentence connects to the writing that preceded it. Starting with "An" has an abrupt feel rather than a sense of continuity.

     

    Instead of (An example of classroom use could be: attaching pleasure-inducing stimuli to learning that might generally elicit a negative response.) she might be looking for something more like, "In a classroom, behavioural theory can include attaching pleasure-inducing stimuli to learning that might generally elicit a negative response."

     

    The feedback you are getting is to help you improve your academic writing style. She is not identifying actual grammatical errors, and your sentences might be technically correct: but good academic writing does not require the reader to diagram your sentence in order to understand it. The standard for research papers is not 'free from poor grammar' it's 'communicates well, with an academic tone and excellent flow'. A teacher who wants you to accomplish good academic writing is going to offer corrections towards that goal.

     

    Example #3

     

    (The predominantly middle class culture of the school environment is often relatively alien to students from lower socio-economic states (Ewing, 2013, p. 86), and because of this, these students feel a sense of not belonging, of being an outsider.)

     

    More sentences result in better flow, especially if you use clearer terms instead of 'this' and 'these' to reflect your snowballing idea.

     

    Try this:

     

    "The predominantly middle class culture of the school environment is often relatively alien to students from lower socio-economic states." // "Impoverished students experience this difference emotionally as a sense of not belonging, of being an outsider."

     

    Then: This (emotional response) can cause a withdrawal from engagement in the learning process. // (Emotional withdrawal) can be exacerbated by (some students') cultural views on the limited value of education. // In (addition to emotional and cultural factors), many impoverished students also experience limited access to resources, such as computers, printers and Internet service. Middle class families rarely lack these resources. (Gorski, 2013, p. 49).

     

    Resulting in the your new clear conclusion sentence that makes your whole snowball into one very good point: "In combination emotional withdrawl, cultural undervaluing of education, and lack of resources put impoverished children at a signifucant educational disadvantage." Woolfolk & Margetts, 2013, p. 33).

     

    Example 4: You are incorrect. The standard of this class is set by the instructor of this class. If she wants to be strict about no mid-sentence references, that's her call. It's a fairly normal standard, though some instructors are lenient about it.

     

    Your ability to write in proper English without violation of the rules of grammar is fine. Your formal academic writing skills have room for vast amounts of stylistic improvement. Your teacher is trying to help you do that... You should let her.

     

    I think the problem is that the comments that were made were not enough for the op to understand the problems with her writing. More/better explanations were needed. Those can be quite difficult to give without making specific suggestions or pointing out specifics (including the writer's wording choices) as people have done in this discussion. The manner in which the tutor gave advice is confusing if you understand what is meant in the original sentence. "Each sentence should have a clear clause and include a subject, a verb and a complete thought"-- Well, the sentence did have each of those things... If the sentence sounds fine to the writer's ear, then the advice given makes no sense. The real problem with the sentence was that it was hard for someone reading it who didn't know what was being stated to know what it meant. This is why I always tell my dc to have someone else read over their work. Unfortunately, our brains always know what our own sentences mean. That makes it difficult to catch these types of errors. (Practice does help here!)

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  4. My response is similar to Creekland's. I don't really about limits too much. Mine are...very high... Btw, you are not allowed to buy a new car with a credit card. I tried. The car companies will only allow a certain amount to be charged on a credit card (and it is pretty low!). I was going for cash back $...as well as not having to make a trip to the bank. I want to be able to use my credit card to make any purchases that might come up, say for remodeling a kitchen or surgery or purchasing a plane ticket home from Asia. I put every single purchase I can on my credit cards. Well, unless the store is willing to give me a cash discount higher than my cash back reward!.

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  5. Aren't you able to take the vehicle away? Then the cost is at least reduced because she is not the primary driver of that vehicle, she is just a part time driver on one of your vehicles. As long as the car isn't in her name, wouldn't that help?

     

    Not the way our insurance works. As long as there is a vehicle without a primary driver, she would be listed as primary on it. If you have 3 vehicles and three drivers, each is assigned as primary on one car. If you have two vehicles and 3 drivers, the third driver is assigned as a secondary vehicle on the most expensive car (which is often more expensive than paying for them to be primary on a lesser valued third car/we actually keep a clunker car to put ds on as primary driver for this reason/he does not actually drive said vehicle, it sits unused in the driveway at the suggestion of our agent). Different states and companies do have different rules and regulations though.

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  6. Thank you all. Ds had his meeting on Monday and the biggest glitch is that they are only taking 16 people and they have about 25+ interested. I had ds write up a small essay because he's not really known as a undeclared freshman. My mom is so excited for him, she started crying on the phone with me yesterday because she wants him to go so badly (and is helping with some costs) to honor my father's memory. He was in stationed in Japan in the 50s and Japan was often a topic of conversation between ds and my father. My avatar is a picture my dad took then. Then the ex called last night and volunteered to pay for his passport. 

     

    So if you have any prayers or happy thoughts or vibes to send our way, please do so. We would appreciate it. 

     

    When is he supposed to find out if he gets to go?

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  7. She is a student. She is claimed on your taxes? and has her address as your home? Our insurance would require that she be on our policy if she has a driver's license. The only way for us to take her off of our insurance without us not claiming her as a dependent would be for her to forfeit her license to the DMV. Are you willing to go that far? She would have to completely redo every step required to get her license back. It usually isn't so easy as just dropping her because you don't want to insure her any longer.

     

    I would require an intensive driving class this summer.

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  8. Has anyone used the Switched on Schoolhouse Health?  I've not used AO products for anything thus far and don't really know much about the caliber of academics with that publisher.

    We used it. It was...my dcs least favorite school thing they ever did. I purchased the computer version. You had to have the answers typed in exactly as they had it in the answer key or it was counted wrong. The content was...stupidly ridiculous. Okay, it might just be the subject matter, but was found it to be downright silly for high school. Honestly, if I had to do it over again, I would just give the the credit and not have them do the work. You would think that by the 4th dc, I would have figured that out... I would have never had them do this as a subject if it wasn't required by our state for high school diploma. Like I said, hindsight I would just write down a book title and give the half credit. Silly class.

  9. Pretty much every, single thing type of deal for me. And, no they are not from stories I have heard. I have clear visual memories. One of my earliest is of my brother being chased by a bee in the back yard. I could paint his bathing suit. It had big yellow and red flowers on a brown back ground. My sister and I were sitting in nests we had made out of pine straw. We used to play a lot in the backyard under huge pine trees. Mama would use cinder blocks to make us a playhouse. She didn't construct a house out of the blocks, they were used for chairs and a stove. Our table was an empty small sized large cable spool from Daddy's work. Riding my bouncy horse. Daddy being blown in the air when he was burning stuff in the big fire pit (he was fine), I clearly remember events from preschool--chasing a boy named Darryl on the playground. I thought he was so handsome. He had white/blond hair. Making succotash. The girl who bit me. Mrs. Bumpercars (I have no idea what her real name was! This is what it sounded like to me.) side hugs.Tumbling class when I was 4, I have vivid memories of waiting in line and the feel of the mats. Not to mention the large girl who was super flexible (I didn't like her). Funny thing, she lived across the street after we moved. Still didn't like her. Going over to my friend's house a few blocks away to play. She lived in a log cabin. I loved her house. These are from toddler and preschool age.

     

    Elementary aged memories are playing in the woods/creek area in the neighborhood, riding bikes, going door to door begging for pickles (got in trouble for that one...), playing on the front porch while it rained, climbing the boulders in the woods, setting traps to catch rabbits (never caught one!), playing war with mud balls as ammo, sneaking into the attic to find Christmas (we didn't get those presents neighbors did/seems they kept each others gifts!), playing dolls with my brother (he was a great dad/I trained him well for children), coloring with my aunt, hiding cousins in the car to take home with us (we got away with this a lot/I think the adults knew we were doing it to start with), the tide at the beach (so impressive), walking to school, buying bubble gum while my brother had baseball practice, the taste of the hamburgers at the baseball park (best burger anywhere), the drive to the Y for gymnastics and swimming, Mama driving to the Y no matter where we were supposed to be going...Yeah, pretty much every single thing.

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  10. I think...you should listen to him and commiserate with his pain. Ask him if he wants you to do anything. Then, don't because he doesn't want you to. The hardest thing to do as a parent is not solve their problems (or attempt to). Being the sounding board is the most difficult job ever. That sounds like what he wants from you. And, it sounds like this is what you are doing. So, try less preaching. It sounds to me like he is doing an excellent job of communicating with you; that is quite impressive!

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  11. I have had one. Lots of my neighbors have one. They are BAD. I mean horrible and awful things. They cause the dogs to become territorial and mean. They cause the dogs to view humans as causing them pain. Look up invisible fence causes aggession...(one example https://paws4udogs.wordpress.com/2013/06/10/should-i-get-an-invisible-fence/)Then, realize that there is actually nothing to stop them from leaving the fenced area. Once they realize that if they take a millisecond of pain to run the fence, they are free. After that...well, they are free. All of the dogs I have known personally that have been behind an invisible fence (including mine) have learned to break free and have become aggressive. The only use I think they should have is as a secondary fence for a hard to contain dog. (A regular fence as first fence. Invisible fence used to keep them from climbing of digging the regular fence.)

  12. All of my kid's gaps closed without braces. Even the one with a large gap between her two front teeth that was supposed to require some sort of cutting. The tooth that would never move on its own that seemed to be emerged too far up the side of the gum towards the front that wasn't exactly pointed down...moved into the correct location. (I had the same tooth "fixed" which required some sort of "chain" to pull it into the proper position on a different dc. That exact same tooth self-corrected on her sister.--one is a cooperative patient the other is not/I wish I had not paid to have the cooperative one corrected) It won't hurt to wait and see if it self-corrects. It just means braces later on.

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  13. I know a lot of wealthy people. I know a lot of poor people. I know a lot of middle income people. Happiness/sadness ratios are about the same between the groups. So, no, I don't think it does. The wealthy people do look happier on Facebook though. Facebook does not show reality.

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  14. Give grades, but don't overthink them.

     

    You don't have to give the grading scale, scores on each type of assignment, and how tests versus quizzes were weighted on every class. You don't have to even give tests and quizzes in every class.

     

    Lee Binz has a qualitative grading scale for classes where you don't want to try to assign "points" to each thing your child did for a class:

     

    A = met my high standards

    B = pretty good job

    C = disappointing, but learned enough to move on to the next class (say from French I to French II)

    D = did enough work to earn a high school credit, did not achieve enough to move on to the next course in this subject

     

    Your grades should give the reader a sense of your child's strengths and weaknesses, and should generally correspond to test scores: A 300 in SAT math score and an A+ in Trigonometry don't match, for example.

    I like this grading scale...

     

     

    Yes, give grades. Don't put a scale on your transcript. If grades do not match transcript for a reason, be prepared to let the school know why (in my dd's case, documented ld with no accommodations despite asking for them). Only one school asked about the discrepancy. The rest didn't seem to notice. She was accepted at all.

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  15. We found that NO measurements are accurate. You really have to try on the suits. I am guessing that is not an option. Both my girls wore 28 in practice suits. The last tech suits I bought were a 22 (5'4"/130lb/34C) Speedo/not sure which one and a 24 long in Speedo lzr(5'8", 110lb/28 or 30C) (knee skins). The different brands are cut very differently. My tall skinny could only wear one brand. It was the only one that wasn't baggy in her thigh. (Fortunately, it was the brand her college team purchased for them! He would have allowed her to purchase her own in a different brand if necessary, but not all coaches would have.) Back when they weren't wearing knee skins, they usually ended up in one size down from their regular suit size. Knee skins are much harder to fit.

  16. All four of mine. All but the last have thanked me for  homeschooling them. It isn't in his personality!!! The eldest tried/wanted to go back to bm school in 8th grade. I made it 5 weeks before I couldn't put up with it any longer and brought her back home. She basically unschooled from that point. People here would not have approved of her "schooling". She is about to graduate from college with a 3.8something and has an extremely good job lined up. We have an exceptional relationship that most likely would not exist if she had stayed in bm school or if I had pushed high school on her. The next two are both doing extremely well in college. They were more conventionally educated, and to be quite honest, easy to deal with. Ds was a little resistant in high school, but nothing major. He decided to attend the tech school for welding and will be graduating in May. He should be working immediately following graduation if not before. He's technically finished all requirements other than just hours needed in the school. (They may place him into a part tiem job where he is allowed use the hours for graduation.

     

    I am not sure I would do anything different if I were to have a do over. Academically, the only outside sourcing I used was a semester of composition. DD#1 I would definitely do high school the same way. I might should say not do since I didn't really do much of anything with/for her. Dd#2 I think I would have remained the same. She has some learning difficulties that I would have had retested (didn't see the need since it wasn't giving any immediate benefit) more often for ease of accommodation on standardized testing. I would have tried applying for that earlier. We ran out of time. Dd#3 I would not have had work her sciences and math as early as she did. She started biology in 8th for high school credit. She would have been better off in college if it had been done in a more traditional time frame. She is the only one that I feel would have done just as well if she had gone to ps. Ds...I sort of regret allowing him to DE at the tech school his senior year. But, he needed something outside the house. He would probably be in engineering if he had not. He is probably my smartest kid and isn't attending college. He absolutely fell in love with welding. Part of me wonders if he will work several years and go back to school. I guess mostly I am just nursing a little wounded pride because...well...you are supposed to go to college. A little of me feels a slight failure because he is not. Then again, he may come out the most financially well off from his choice. He has a huge nest egg of college money in the bank which we will keep until we are certain he isn't going to want to attend college one day. It will just continue to grow until then. It will buy him a nice house or could start up a business of his own one day. It is a little hard to let my dreams for him die as he pursues his own dreams. But, that is what HIS life is supposed to be--him chasing his own dreams.

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  17. Going to get it for this one...but here goes...fur babies. I despise the term. Okay, actually it is probably more the whole thinking your dog is a human and deserves to be treated as one. No, your dog should not be allowed to go shopping with you especially at the grocery store! I do not want to put my food where your dog's butt was. No, your dog is not invited just because you are. Dogs should be pets, not family members. Probably not going to look back at this thread, so flame away.

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  18. I would wait. Of course, the AP bio class I found for dd was an Anatomy class. If it is a true AP bio class that goes over everything, then go ahead. Dd found that having bio in 8th made it not quite as fresh when she hit college. She still did great, but it would have made it easier if it hadn't been quite so long ago when she had it in high school! She had not problem taking bio in 8th though.

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